Talking To Your Ex - Red Flag or Deal Breaker?

Oof.. depends on what you mean by "talking to". As in texting/messaging/snapchat, deal breaker if I asked him to stop and he didn't. If it's like your ex is a mutual friend in the same group, and you see them on occasion and talk at social outings, totally fine! Actually, that just shows me that you're mature enough to still be kind to another human being regardless of whatever crap happened in the past

It's funny though, we actually attended my FH's ex's wedding last year

Red Flag. In some cases I guess this works out where the ex remains a friend and ONLY A FRIEND, but I just don't think its a good idea.

Red flag depending on circumstances. I have kids from a previous relationship so I have to be civil with my ex but he lives out of the country and is mostly nonexistent. FH’s ex lives near by and they have no children together so I see no need for her to ever be intermingled in our lives. If he had kids with an ex it would be a totally different story.

If there's children involved then of course it's expected, I would hope they would have a cordial relationship for the kids. If there are no kids, that would be a red flag & a deal breaker!

This definitely depends on the relationship they have with each other. I trust my husband and he doesn't have any exes that he talks to really. Maybe someone on facebook he dated when they were teenagers and they were in the same friend group, but that's different. I would think it were a red flag if they were still relying on each other emotionally. That might be hypocritical since I became good friends with one of my exes as soon as we stopped dating over 15 years ago.

Depends on the ex, however in this case, I know all his exs, and they're batsh*t crazy...neither of us wants them in our lives xD But I would trust him, I just don't trust most other people..

I think it depends on the relationship they had and how they've developed their friendship. For the most part though, I'm fine with them being friends.

Deal breaker. Nope, nadda, no thank you. Wouldn't want any part of that.

Red flag. He chooses not to since that is a different part of his life, that might not have been the happiest. Me, I have a relationship or two that ended quite amicably and I still have them on FB. It's no biggy, we just were not compatible.

Neither - My FH is divorced and has a daughter with his ex so they must talk to co-parent. At first I was apprehensive about him talking to her because she did not have nice things to say about me at the time, but now we have talked a few times and is more respectful.

Red flag! Unless they have a kid together.

I would say red flag but it depends on the circumstances

Deal breaker for me. Each of our previous relationships have ended for a reason and chatting with our exes is completely unnecessary and not up for debate.

Red flag, but depends on their chemistry. If I saw them interact in person and felt they were still flirtatious/vibing, it might be a deal breaker. I don't think I've had that issue with any boyfriend though.

If there are kids involved, then that is the only reason. And the kids should be under 18 years of age or still and college and they are sharing the tuition. After the child is grown, he can deal with the child (adult child) without the ex. Unless there has been hospitalization, accidents, etc. And I'm going to be right there next to my husband, your ex!

I think it depends on the ex and their relationship. I have learned as I am still growing that people can break up on good terms and be better friends than lovers.