Surprisingly difficult wedding tasks?

Figuring out the guest list and dress shopping were the two tasks that were most difficult for me!

Deciding on the guest list was a major pain. We finally just decided to have a big wedding and invite everybody lol.
Dress shopping was hard. I absolutely refuse to pay a fortune for a one time event dress. So I went through a bunch before I found one I love.
The most difficult part has just been the learning curve. I have been to a bunch of weddings in my life but being under this type of pressure planning one is unlike anything I've experienced. I certainly hope I never have to do it again LOL

Deciding on invitations. Invitations were on the lower end of $ for me. I wound up ordering printed envelopes and rsvp postcards from magnetstreet and invites from zazzle

Hiring all of our vendors 😅 only because I got our caterer, photographer, DJ, day of coordinator, videographer, hair/makeup person, and officiant all in a couple of weeks so I was overwhelmed and stressed beyond my limits lol

Our celebrant was a lot harder than we thought! we booked ours 18 months out from our first date. Then, we checked in again when we had to postpone and she said she was free, as were basically all our other vendors, so we went ahead. A few weeks later she called us and said she'd accidentally double booked us.

She did find us another celebrant who we interviewed, and as we considered this person overnight, we got a message from her saying another of her couples was postponing to our new date and she was sorry but couldn't commit to our new date any more because she felt they should take priority (which was fair enough).

We contacted what felt like hundreds of celebrants - easily 20 or 30, and all of them were booked on our new postponed date! It was very stressful. We ended up interviewing with two lovely ladies and there was almost nothing between them in how professional and awesome they were so we booked one in, and she's cheaper and more professional/organised than our original celebrant was, so I honestly think we got lucky, but gosh, until we had her locked in I was very worried - it's not much of a wedding without the legal celebrant to officiate!

View Quoted Comment Omg I asked my fiancé to get me addresses for his friends and he started asking random friends for addresses and they aren’t on our finalized guest list- now they will think we are sending them invitations! I don’t think he understands that adding a bunch of new people wasn’t part of the assignment. 🤦🏽‍♀️

The guest list hands down! Every time I turn around FH is wanting to add more people. It was originally to be only 80 guests, then we have a total of 12 in the wedding party (6 on each side) plus 2 flower girls and a ring bearer, then us. So that total went out the window. Then it was 120, and at last and final count, we invited 134 and I have to put my foot down and NO ONE else is invited.

So far for me, it's been finding the right caterer and decorator. There are a lot caterer's around where I live thay are charging why to much for my taste, I don't want to pay 10,000 for people to eat. Also to decorate weddings some places are charging 5,000 and up. I'm thinking about doing diy because I didn't want to spend no more than 2,000. Hopefully I will find these vendors soon before I pull my hair out.

View Quoted Comment Oh no! Getting on the same page with FH was a struggle for me too. More like, he need to get on MY page LOL

Our guest list has been a giant pain. We don't want kids at the wedding, but even if we allow 18+, because I have a couple of close cousins who are 18 that I don't want to exclude, we end up breaking up people's families. We haven't found a single way to not have random cuts that would probably upset someone. Our save the dates are going out within the next month and a half and we haven't finalized our guest list because of that.

Also, since we got engaged many couples we know divorced or broke up and started dating new people or just now have weird relationship stuff going on. So trying to track everyone down and ask them who is going to be their SO or plus one has been a weird, lengthy process.

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Deciding on save the date and invite styles I like that aren't expensive. I refuse to pay a ton for something that will just get thrown in the garbage within a couple weeks.

Also surprisingly taking engagement pictures was difficult for me and my FH, we were not comfortable at all with it and we are the same height so a lot of traditional poses people do were awkward and I ended up not liking a lot of them.

I'm hoping the most difficult thing for me won't end up applying to you. We had to postpone our wedding twice because of Covid. Under different circumstances, I'd be coming up on my second anniversary this April. Instead, I'll have just been married three months this coming Sunday. Anyway, first, the absolute hardest thing was to postpone in the first place. We were only three weeks out when the world shut down, and things were finally coming together when it all fell apart. Then came the even more difficult thing: finding a new date. Our deposit with our venue was nonrefundable, and their 2021 dates were already filling up from pre-pandemic, but then they filled up even more when people started rescheduling. Even now, there are things I wish we'd taken into more consideration and maybe even done differently.

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Sigh, I so hear you on this. We postponed 49 days out. We really didn't have any other choice because we were not allowed to travel to our venue, nor were our vendors or guests, and our respective families also couldn't travel to us, as there was a 10km travel rule in place, and later, you could not travel into regional areas from the city or vice versa to slow the spread to those more vulnerable areas.

I couldn't even travel as far as my alterations lady to have my dress altered, and so even if we had tried to proceed, my dress (had I even been able to collect it) wouldn't have been altered to fit me by our wedding date.

So it was an easy decision, in a way, but a heartbreaking one. We also booked out date 18 months out hoping covid would be well and truly gone by our wedding, when in fact things were/are worse than ever, even now.

I wish you so much joy and happiness for your upcoming wedding, and am crossing my fingers we, likewise, get to have our day without stress or drama!

We’re having a destination wedding & trying to book a family vacation right after so getting everyone on the same page as far as travel & all that has been a process 🥲

View Quoted Comment The first clue we got that we’d have to postpone was when the restaurant where we were going to have our rehearsal dinner called to say they had to close. Then our venue, which served its own food, called to say they’d have to do the same. It all started with the restaurants.


You don’t have to wish me luck; I’m married now! We finally got married this past October. It’ll officially be three months on Sunday 🥰 Best of luck to you!

Hands down guest list. My fiancee has a big family and getting all those addresses correct spelling of names, keeping track of where everyone lives is so stressful. Also figuring out where you have room in your guest list. I'd say that was the most stressful. Booking vendors is pleasant when in good communication. Good luck! ♥️

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Awww, yay! I hope it was as beautiful and special as you planned!

We had to wait an extra six months and are currently 37 days out from our new date, so just crossing all fingers and toes and hoping for the best

Catering has been the beast I’m trying to slay right now. I thought it would be easy but nooope

View Quoted Comment Omg I feel you on this!! My FH has a large family and of course I was in charge of getting all the addresses which he was slow at helping with lol. It was alot! Good luck to you as well!