Strippers

Definitely not my cup of tea.

I keep asking for my bachelorette to be a murder mystery dinner followed by a dessert bar. We'll see what MOH ends up doing though. She's super excited haha.

Not for me either, but I'm not against strippers. Gotta pay for dental school somehow LOL

Nope I wouldn't be ok with it nor would I want FH'S guys to get a stripper for their bachelor party. I never really got all that. If anyone hires a stripper for my Bachelorette I'll be so upset and feel disrepected.

My friend insisted on a stripper. He was horrible and it ended up being hilarious. We payed him extra to take it all off and we couldn't stop laughing. One of my best memories ever. As he was leaving he asked if he could take some of our pizza. OK weirdo?? My other friend we took to a male review and she had a blast. She went on the stage and worked it! Strippers aren't my thing but I'm all about giving the bride what she wants. My FH I'm sure will have strippers and I tease him because his friends are so cheap they'll probably be C List strippers and not even cute. Lol!

Just as a warning, this topic has come up before and it usually doesn't end well.

People have different boundaries. The important thing is knowing where the boundaries are for your relationship and your partner, and being on the same page about them.

I don't get it either. My FH and I have an agreement of no strippers. All I want is a day out with my girls doing just doing girly things!

Many (many) years ago, at least 25 yrs, I was engaged to a former male dancer. The stories he told me about the women at their shows were horrible. There is absolutely no way I could have one at any kind of party and not throw up. They (the dancers) think so little of the audience (whether a private party or in a club) that you can bet all kinds of boundaries are crossed, especially if alcohol is involved (and when isn't it in this type of setting?)

IMO, it's just a matter of both partners agreeing on where the line is. My DH and I agree neither of us will ever do that. Well, actually, DH said that while he didn't love it I was free to but he never would and I said I wouldn't either. If one partner is super uncomfortable with the other seeing strippers but that person wants to I think it could cause huge issues. I mean, to me that would constitute cheating.

And I totally agree...to each his own. It was just shocking when I saw it on Bridezillas...made me think just how much I would never have one. If I was single...sure but being with someone I could never. My FH's GM is married and his wife is totally ok with it. She even went to a strip club with him.

Eh I wouldn't want strippers at mine, but if FH wanted strippers at his bachelor party I'd trust him not to cross any boundaries and we'd definitely talk about it before hand. I trust his friends too. I can see why people would be uncomfortable with it though, it's definitely a to each their own kinda thing.

One word: lifesavers.

Hahaha, I remember watching that episode of Bridezillas!

EEEEEEWWWWWWW yourself.

I love strippers and strip clubs, there will definitely be a lot of boobs at my bachelorette party.

Also, E-Tex, I don't think that will ever leave any of our memories lol

I missed that original post but got to enjoy it under another post thanks to you girls.

I wouldn't want a stripper at a party, but only because I'm awkward so the social interaction would be terrible, not because I don't respect strippers or think less of them as humans or whatever.

Ahhhh e-tex....I had nearly forgotten about that! Now it's back...ugh.

Personally, I could care less either way. Like @kahlcara said, this topic has come up before and it never ends well. I'll put my two cents in now... I don't find it disrespectful because I see it simply as entertainment. FW and I have gone to the strip together many times. FW's holiday company "outing", just like many other company "outings" sponsored and attended by the owner, will include a party bus that will make stops for dinner and at least 2 strip clubs. FW and I are very open and honest about our boundaries. I wouldn't find FW getting a lap dance from a stripper disrespectful. Again, I see it as entertainment and honestly, FW would probably drunkenly come home and tell me all the funny things I missed, like the wannabe barbie stripper we always see with nappy extensions finally falling off stage. I swear every time she's gonna eat it when she does this twist/swing motion on the pole on the edge yet somehow she always catches herself never gracefully though. I make my money slinging financials, she makes her money swinging on stage...we are still both taking care of our families. The stripper is not there to disrespect your spouse, they are just there to make money.

Yeah........this is 100% dependent on your relationship with your FH or FW. I went to a Chippendales performance in vegas during my bachelorette and DH received a lap dance at his bachelor's party. It's definitely not something that keeps me up at night because we trust each other and know our boundaries. Every relationship is different, just because it's difficult for you to understand this doesn't mean it's wrong or that you should be judgmental about it.

I went to a strip club once (female strippers), before I met NotFroofy, out of curiosity, at the invitation of a stripper I'd met. She said that the strippers actually preferred female patrons, because they tended to be more well behaved than the male ones. It was interesting enough for one time, but I haven't felt the need to go a second time. It definitely wouldn't have been something I'd have wanted to do for a bachelorette party. But if NotFroofy had wanted to go (for a bachelorette party or otherwise), it wouldn't have troubled me.