Strippers

I went to a male strip show in Chicago for a friend's bachelorette party. I wasn't impressed. I feel like there's something weird about male strippers. It's not sexy to me. Besides, my husband is waaaaay hotter than the strippers, even if he can't dance to save his life.

As for female strippers, whatevs. I don't mind them, DH is not impressed so I guess it works both ways for us.

Like others have said it's going to vary couple to couple. DH had no problem if I wanted a stripper and I had no problem had he gone to a strip club. We understand and respect the boundaries we have set in our relationship, and neither of us would jeopardize that for one night. That being said, I didn't want strippers at mine. I've never really been into the strip club scene, and didn't get the appeal of seeing someone else strip down right before I got married. DH decided against strippers as well. He's not into the strip club scene and joked that even if he didn't feel uncomfortable he's too cheap to really enjoy anything anyway. He also decided against a stripper because he knew that there was someone invited to his bachelor party who had crossed some lines at his own bachelor party and knew that it would be a potential issue for this guy and his wife. Most of the guys at his seemed glad there wouldn't be a strip club trip that night, minus his BIL who declined to come because of the lack of strippers.

Nope...no judging here. The part that was disrespectful for me was the bride letting the stripper put his junk in her face. I thought it wasnt appropriate. I need to be more cautious with my titles...the ewwwww was put on the wrong person. I changed it. Sorry if I offended anyone.

The thing is, it is up to each person and each couple to set their own boundaries. Some people may find that funny or enjoy it. It's one thing to say you don't understand it or don't agree, but to label it as disrespectful still sounds judgey.

You need to be very, very careful when trusted to run someone’s party. First of all I don’t believe in bachelor and bachelorette parties. At all. That said, if running a party, it is imperative upon you that you respect the partner’s wishes and sensitivities. One time in particular, a good friend of mine had met his soulmate and they were together for a year. Her friends had decided to have something for her, and he had made it clear what he didn’t want. He didn’t ask for a lot, and it wasn’t up to her friends to decide what was ok and not ok. She was too weak to stand up to them and wound up lying about what happened at the party, regular male stripper. He knew what was going on even though she thought he didn’t. So for all you women who rant about “you have to trust her”, well he trusted her. Look what happened. He never trusted her again on any issue, and they wound up breaking up about a year later. A shame. He loved her and she him, but her friends stuck their noses where they didn’t belong. So I’d ask you gals be very careful next time taking someone else’s relationship as a joke.