Our (destination) wedding is in April. I was having 6 bridesmaids (including my almost 20-year old daughter) and my 20 year old future stepchild. I say "child" because when I reached out to them yesterday to see if we could get their dress ordered (their the only one who hadn't yet), they told me that their struggling with their gender identity and really doesn't feel comfortable wearing feminine attire. I assured her that it's totally okay, and I have already replaced her with my younger cousin who is super thrilled to do it.
My question is what should we have them do instead of bridesmaid? I know they can do a reading or something but any ideas for something more meaningful. My two stepsons are groomsmen and my son is giving me away.
(My stepchild's preferred pronouns are them/they/theirs)