Step-parents-are they invited to your weddings?

Not inviting something that is married/engaged/living with/in a committed relationship to another person invited to the wedding is very rude and doesn't matter if you have no relationship.

Both FH and I have stepmoms, and FMIL has a longterm boyfriend who is also invited. I have a good relationship with my stepmom but FH doesn't really have a relationship with his stepmom or the long-term boyfriend. However, at the end of the day stepparents fall into the same category as any other spouse - you can't really invite one without the other.

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Hey!

Thank you for your input!!

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Hey SummerBride77

Wow, I hear what you're saying. I know an old friend who didn't invite her stepmom because she thought negatively of her, and bashed her behind her back. I'm sort of in a similar situation. I am not fond of my "step-mom" I honestly don't even see her as a step mom AT ALL. I understand she is with my dad.. but ugh... I don't want her there. Also, we're having an intimate wedding and I want to invite those whom I super close to. I don't even want to invite my "step-sister." It's complicated. My dad lives with his wife, my half brother and my step sister. I have a venue that can only hold 33 people. I don't want to invite his wife and her daughter. I only want my dad and brother to come. Very complicated. I know, it seems really bad, like really disrespectful but that's how I feel.

Not inviting anyone's significant other is rude. It doesn't matter what your relationship is with a guest's SO. You are inviting them because of your relationship with the primary guest. Don't disrespect your guests.

Yes my step monster, I mean step mother in invited. She hasn't rsvpd yet....5 days to go....but she is invited. If a guest is married proper etiquette is to invite their spouse, no matter who they are.

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I think in some situations, it does matter, but it does depend on the exact circumstance.

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Tell me about it, DC BRIDE! Ugh... I know what you mean. It's like you HAVE to but also like you don't want to. I understand. Proper etiquette. I knew what you guys would say. And I love the honesty. But it's super crappy though, to be honest. I just don't want her there.

My father has a new wife and she’s not invited to the wedding. My parents recently had a horrible divorce and I had a physical altercation with her. 🤷🏾‍♀️ She’s not invited and my dad understands why. I did tell my dad that she wasn’t invited and I would understand if he didn’t attend.

Sometimes you you have to make hard decision for the sake of your own sanity.

View Quoted Comment I suppose that if they are violent, regularly steal from you, or similar, you might have a point. Just know that you are risking damaging your relationship with the primary guest.

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In this situation you absolutely made the right choice! That really sucks.

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I feel you but honestly, you'll be so busy with other guests and your new spouse that you wont even realize she's there. Just focus on enjoying your day. Not her.

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OH wow!!

Physical altercation?? Terrible.... It's good your dad understands though, and that he's sticking by his daughter. Can't believe that happened though. Shockingly enough, me and my sisters never got invited to my dad's wedding that happened almost 10 years ago or more now I am still bitter about it and.. I always wondered if his wife had something to do with it. I feel like she is SO fake. And I've heard she said negative things about me, yet the few times I see her (sometimes I go years without seeing her) she smiles in my face and pretends. Calls herself a church woman, God fearing woman. Trust me, she isn't. I feel like she prevented my dad in having a good relationship with me and my two sisters which are his first set of children. And I am my dad's first. I just don't want her there at all, especially with the fact I have a small venue. I should feel good not to invite her even more but.. I know.. etiquette...

View Quoted Comment I agree with this post so much. Unless the guest will cause problems during the ceremony, I think you should.

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Hey Cassandra

I appreciate your feedback so much. I know what you're saying. Thank you

I plan to invite my step mother. My step mother and I have not always seen eye to eye but she is my father's wife and my brother's mother so I would feel very bad not inviting her. I feel it would be rude and I know it would up set my father not to invite his wife.

I don’t think you have a choice but to invite them if they are married to a parent. That would be very insensitive.

I invited my stepmom. She also processed in. She is my father's wife, of course she was invited. She also helped pay for half of our wedding, but even if she hadn't, I couldn't imagine her not being invited because she is literally married to my dad...

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Hey!

I totally get that. You both haven't always been on best terms, but true, that's your brothers mom. Same with my bro. That's his mom. I get where it can look disrespectful. Thank you for your input

FH has a step mom and dad because his parents divorced and both re-married. Luckily, his relationship with both of them is rather good and all 4 of his parents can get along well in the same room.

Regardless of relationship with the bride/groom their parents are still married and should be invited as a couple.