Step-Mothers....should they celebrate Mother's Day?

I agree. Now, some women that are just with the dads are not stepmoms. Just because you hangout, doesnt mean you're a stepmom. But, I know that I care for our son as my own. So it's disheartening to hear~!

I think that if you are actively in that childs life and you truly love and adore him and treat him as your own, then of course you qualify!

My stepmom hates all of us so naturally we do not celebrate mother's day with her :-/

You're a mom... I mean there are many mothers who aren't the biological moms who are moms... stepmoms and adopted moms! I mean, you are mom to that child so you should celebrate it!! Ignore those people because they just don't know any better.

I bought fh step-mom a mothers day card even though she has two grown sons of her own and she didn't come into fh life until he was already in college! I still consider her as a mom!

I just got my first ever step mom card today. When I get married in June I am gaining a 7 year old step daughter. It meant the world to me and made me cry. I am not her mom and I do not try to be... but when she is with us I love and care for her with all my heart. It is so nice to have someone recognize that.

ABsolutely, but I think it all depends on the relationship of said step mother to the step kids (what step mom would want to force the evil stepchildren to celebrate with her? or vice versa) You're obviously a rockin Stepmom, so yes, celebrate!

I have been with FH for 7 years now. His son was 2 when we met and I always took care of him, fed him, woke up in the middle of the night when he had bad dreams, took him to practices, school made lunches, loved him kissed him etc...yet I was never acknowledged on Mother's day until we had our son together. It always hurt my feelings that he didnt seem to think I was a mom but I never said anything, I def think I qualified. Happy Mother's Day!!

You're a mom by far and you should celebrate as one!!!

Thank you ladies for the support!!!

Cris: Happy Mother's Day to YOU!!

Barefoot: I appreciate that. I have such a great relationship wioth FS son. It's been difficult because the child's mother and I are cordial, but aren't friends by any means. So she makes it known that I'm not his real mom. It's hard, but It's worth it to have the man that I love!

I am not a step mom; however my daughter has had one fir ten years. If this woman had truly loved my daughter and treated her like a daughter...I would have no issue with daughter recognizing her. But this woman has been horrible and is finally leaving the picture. On the other hand...fh treats her like she is his. So she chooses step dad or "like a father to me" cards. I think children should recognize step parents who treat them as though theywere their own, but should them step parent or like a mom/dad cards if there is still a good relationship between child and biological parent. Just my

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I think it depends on how your relationship with the step child is. If they think you're evil then I'd avoid it. If they think of you as a mom by all means celebrate.

I always get my step dad something for father's day. My biological father hasn't been in my life since I was little and my mom met and married my step dad when I was in Jr high. He's been like a dad to me so I never had to think about not celebrating father's day.

No whoever told you that is wrong. My stepmom is great and I am actually closer to her than my real mom. I sent her flowers today for Mothers day.

I think that you saying " know that I care for our son as my own. " says it all. OUR son you called him. Pretty sure that when that's your default description of him, you totally count as a mom

Thanks, Danielle!

Oregon Bride: I agree, it depends on the relationship that the step-parent and child have. That is very important.

Keep in mind that this is taking every bit of niceness I can muster....my ex is an a-hole, and we have 3 boys together. He told me after the divorce (I left him) he was going to get married right away and take custody away from me. Well, he did get married less than a year later....

That said....I would be disgusted with my boys if they did not celebrate Mother's Day with their step-mother. Yes, she has only been their step mother for a few weeks, but in my mind, Mother's Day is also about respecting the "title" of Mother and women in general. My boys should respect her and wish her a happy Mother's Day.

The extent to which you celebrate should depend on the closeness of your relationship with your stepmom/stepchildren.

Yes, you are a mom. My mother's ex-husband's kids still call her to this day to tell her Happy Mother's Day and she has been divorced from him for over 10 years.

I also think it depends on the relationship the stepmother has with the children.

On one hand, my ex remarried a year ago and the woman hardly knows my daughters. She is a nice enough woman, however, she didn't raise her own children. She does nothing for my 16 year old...I am talking nothing. My daughters refuse to give her anything.

In contrast, FH has been in their lives for 9 years, and has functioned as a parent figure for the girls. They acknowledge him every year, without my suggestion.

Motherhood is not about biology. It is all about nurturing.

You are a mother if you are taking care of the child and treat the child like your own. My husband is getting a Father's Day gift from both our own child and my oldest which is his stepchild. He treats them both equally.

So if you are doing for that child the best you can do and not just ignoring the child or treating the child as if its in the way. Then yes you are mother. So celebrate mother's day.

Hmm... Let me tell you a story about that.

I had a nanny who started with us a week before my son was born, and stayed with us until he turned 6. At one point when he was in nursery school, his teacher said to me, "Do you know he is calling the nanny 'Mommy'?"

So I talked to my son. I asked him, "Do you know that C is not your real mommy?" He looked a bit sheepish and said, "Yes." Then I asked, "So why do you call her mommy?" He said, "It just kind of feels good to call her that."

So I thought about it. My son felt more loving toward the nanny when he called her mommy. The nanny also felt closer to him when he did that. I decided that the more love he had in his life, the better. And he did actually know who his real mommy was. So I told him it was ok to go on calling her mommy.

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Depends on the type of step mom My real step mother is a raging B so no i wouldnt be sending her a thing but my step dad who i consider my dad remarried and I will be celebrating mothers day with her and my FMIL Familys not about blood its the ppl you choose to love in your life