Stealing thunder?

We thought someone was going to do that to us, but he ended up proposing before our wedding. Normally we wouldn't mind someone doing it, but we felt this person would have tried to make the day all about them instead of us, so I'm glad he proposed already.

If it's at your wedding/your reception, I am one of those people that is not cool with that. If it's the day or so before/after, and they go to a private spot then good for them. Say congratulations, hug them, and move on. You get one day.

Is he going to do it during your ceremony or reception? If not, don't worry about it.

It depends on if it’s just in PR or like, at the reception. If it’s just PR then that TOTALLY makes sense. Like, they are in a pretty tropical place together. It’s perfect. At your reception, well that’s pretty rude…

As long is its not AT any of your wedding events. I mean it is their vacation, if he wants to purpose to her on the beach privately I don't see a problem.

I agree, if its done while they are in PR, then that sounds amazing for your friend. If it is AT the reception or at any point during your wedding - not cool. As a bride I would hate that, and as the person being proposed to, I would hate that. Not an appropriate time, in my opinion.

I don't think it would be 'stealing your thunder' if its done in PR at any time outside of the wedding/reception.

As long as it's not at your wedding events I think it's ok. I wouldn't care too much if someone did something like that at my wedding depending on who it was. For example if my MOH/bff got engaged at my wedding it wouldn't bother me!

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I would say something to him, but that's just me. I would just make sure he doesn't do it at my ceremony or reception.

You're paying a lot of money to have this thing. I would be furious if someone proposed at the event that I spent a year and a half planning and paying for. As long as it's not during any wedding event I think it's perfectly fine for him to propose.

I agree, as long as it's not at any of your wedding events, you didn't spend all that money to make as a beautiful romantic background for some one else to use as a proposal spot because they are so unaware as to realize it's rude. That would irritate the hell out of me,

If he proposes in PR that's fine, it's a gorgeous backdrop, still it would be nice if he did it after your wedding. I have no use for non creative people who use other people's hard work and ideas... It's like "I'll just propose at her wedding, that's romantic, right?" No, asshat. Get your own backdrop.

I know it's strange, but I actually approached my MOH's bf to mention I would be ok with him proposing at the end of our reception if he wanted to. My wedding is on her 30th birthday and she's been my best friend for years. I would be happy to share the spotlight with them!

Whether you should say something to him/her or not really depends on where you got this "feeling" and how close you are to your friend's bf. Just as it would be inappropriate for him to propose to her during your ceremony or reception, it would be inappropriate & assuming for you to tell him not to out of the blue if he isn't also a friend of yours. If you aren't friends with him and are really worried about it, talk to her first.

I am against folks being proposed to at someone's wedding.

You want a grand proposal do it on your own dime and your own time!

Another one against proposals at other people's weddings. I think its tacky.

(Doesn't help that my sister's husband did this, sloppy drunk, at her best friend's wedding...and I kinda hate him, so he set the standard. Gross.)

If its somewhere outside of your wedding, its cool, but not at the ceremony or reception.

I would be pissed if some one did that at my wedding. Hopefully he won't do it during any of the wedding events !!

Also, I don't really think it matters if it happens before or after the wedding in PR, just it's fine if it's not DURING the wedding.

I actually think it would be rude for them to announce it there. Even if it's the next day it's still sort of an extended celebration for the wedding. There's not much you can do but I would make a mental note of that and remember they made that decision.If he proposed and they kept it quiet until the end then I think that's fine. But let's be honest, once people know they're engaged the conversation will shift and I think at the DW that's unfair because it's time meant to celebrate the wedding.

As long as it's not during any part of your event I wouldn't think much of it. I for sure would be asking and making sure. It would be wrong of them to take away from your event. I mean they likely wouldn't even be there if it weren't for your wedding. Good Luck.

Amanda, just bear in mind that your DW is everyone else's hard earned vacation. As long as he doesn't propose during your wedding or reception, it's fine.