Stealing thunder?

Why do you think he's going to do it there?

If he does it while they're there in PR, there's really nothing you can do about it. Sure, it sucks, but you'll still be married and it's still your day. I went to a wedding on my b-day and had lots of people wish me a happy birthday and talk to me about my day, but it didn't turn the evening into all about me.

I am with those who say if it's not during your reception then that's fine. Some people would even be fine with them doing it during your reception but unless he gets your ok I feel that's rude

She's one of my closest friends, so I would actually be so happy for her....as long as it's after the wedding

Nope. Tell him to pick his own day for that. Or at least a different time and place then your wedding (if he wants to propose wherever the destination wedding is, cool but before or after, not during). I'd be embarrassed as the girlfriend who got proposed to at someone's wedding because that is taking away from their day.

I would speak to him beforehand. Because once he does it, there really isn't anything you can do about it whether you like it not.

Find a pretty place near by where he can propose and call him. Go with something like "hey, I heard you were thinking of proposing to X while in PR and I was just wondering if there was any way I could help?" If he opens up to you about his idea and it ends up he plans to do it at one of your events then redirect him. Tell him you don't feel she'd be comfortable with it (your friend) as she will be surrounded by your family and friends she doesn't know, it's not private, a lot will be going on, etc. You can suggest that pretty place you mentioned. Even if he doesn't suggest it's at your wedding suggest the pretty place and mention something about the wedding day being hectic.

It's not what we say, it's how we say it. You can damage control now.

I think it would bother me. If they extended their trip and did it after I would be fine. I think a DW is different, it is more than your one day it is an extended experience.

Tinkerpsu - I disagree. A dw is not a monopolising weekend. You still get your ceremony and reception, but what people do surrounding that is their own - because they spent their own money and vacation time to help you celebrate your wedding in an expensive place of your choosing. The bride and groom have zero say in what people choose to do around the wedding time in the semi-forced vacation you're making them take.

Unpopular opinion: the only time I'd have an issue with this is if someone proposed at my ceremony. Any other time, including reception, would be fine by me. In fact, if a couple got engaged at my reception, I'd be thrilled for them and request a song for them. But that's just me and I realize most don't like to share such an important night.

ETA: @BeachBride where can I find this awesome video? So cute!

I think it's gross to propose at someone else's wedding reception. It's awkward for guests, always for the couple being married, and awkward for the newly engaged as well. Squash that idea, and don't feel guilty about doing so.

I think proposals done at someone's wedding is incredibly rude and tacky. As it's a DW, if it's done on their time and they choose an appropriate time to share the news that's fine.

My (paternal) uncle proposed to my aunt at my mom's rehearsal dinner. She STILL talks shit about it. Just thought I'd share.

I feel like if I attended a wedding where a friend decided to propose, I would be side-eyeing the friend. I just think it's rude. I would be completely against someone using my wedding to propose... no thanks.

If someone did that at my wedding I would be mad. It is not there day. You've have spent money and the light should be on you I would say something to her boyfriend

I think if my best friends boyfriend came to me and said he wanted to propose at the wedding id like..help him plan it..

I saw one where during the bouquet toss the bride turned around and gave it to her friend, then the BF came out and proposed.

If he just did it on his own without asking I'd be pissed.

It's considered poor taste to propose at someone else's wedding without their approval. If it doesn't bother you, then let it go. I'd be salty

I would talk to the boyfriend and tell him what's up beforehand and tell him how rude that is. I would be pissed if he did

Ask him and or confront him? Let him know your concerns and you would appreciate him not doing it on your special day.

I would try to ask him! If you have good reason to believe this is really going to happen then you've gotta talk to him! Just tell him you that you heard a rumor and although you would be happy for them, you're also paying a lot for your wedding and it would make you feel uncomfortable. Make it clear that you have no problem with him doing it in PR outside of your actual wedding.

I am against proposals at weddings as well, but do you know he's going to wait that long to propose? I mean that's in 8 months. Who plans that far in advance for a proposal?

I'm actually sort of terrified this may happen at my wedding. We've got quite a few couples we're inviting that may be nearing getting engaged, including my close friend. She hasn't been supportive and has been acting quite jealous. Now she's been begging her bf to propose. He flat out said no way, and told me "you know she's crazy right?" Lol. If he has a change of heart so be it, but please don't do it at my wedding!