Stealing thunder?

I'm also totally against this. Pick a time that's not on someone else's special moment and on their dime.

A friend of FH is doing this, but the bride is in on it and is helping. During the bouquet toss, shes just going to hand it over and his friend is going to be kneeling behind her.

But I would totally not be okay with it at any wedding event.

I was just having this talk with my best friend the other day about how it would be funny if he proposed to her at my wedding. He's not, and he already filled me and her family in on the details.

I personally feel like nobody can steal your thunder at your wedding, but that's just me.

My sorority sister's ex fiancé proposed to her the day after they went to a destination wedding. They didn't announce it at any pre or post wedding event. If they did get engaged in PR, I think waiting until after the wedding would be appropriate.

I would be livid! Also, it makes no sense for him to ask her in front of all YOUR friends and family as I'm assuming they don't know the couple, even if they did, it's a big fat NO from me.

I can't stand proposals at weddings. They'll be in PR, he needs to take her to the beach on their own time and propose. Are you comfortable having a chat with him about it? Hopefully, he just means he wants to do it in PR, not actually during any of the wedding events. Good luck.

If his asks at any other point of THEIR holiday that isn't the wedding day. Smile huge for your friend and tell her congratulations

I would hope he wouldn't be planning on doing it at your actual wedding. Honestly to me ...if he wanted to be totally decent he would wait til the next day..but that's just me though.

At the actual wedding is a hard no from me. However, they're spending money and taking time off to travel for your wedding, so if it happens as part of what they consider a vacation and doesn't interfere with your actual wedding, I wouldn't be bothered at all.

Also, this whole “keep quiet” idea I think is kinda ehhh. Like, I think it’s okay for her to tell you, “hey I got engaged!” It’s a DW for YOU, so it’s really not like everyone will make the wedding about her. But, I don’t think they should have to like, hide it or anything. People get engaged. It happens.

Im afraid FSIL's boyfriend will do this at our reception and I would be super pissed off. FSIL already makes everything about her and I wont tolerate him proposing on FH and I's one day.

OMG, no! That's so disrespectful towards you as the bride. It's your day, not theirs! If he wants to do it after while you all are still in Puerto Rico, that would be amazing, but not at the actual wedding.

I agree as long as it's not at the wedding or any events tied to your wedding, there shouldn't be a problem. It's not stealing your thunder if they are on vacation and ask.

After your day- fine.

Before, while in PR? Tacky and disrespectful.

I would hope he would ask for your permission if he was going to do it at the reception. If it is not at the wedding then you can't be mad. I am honestly praying that one of my BM's boyfriend proposes to her at our wedding. She has 3 girls and I want nothing more than for her to get her happily ever after...even better if my happy day gets to be her happy day too! But I might be weird.

ETA: it wouldn't be her stealing your thunder because she doesn't know about it. So maybe ask him if that is what he is planning to do and if he is planning to do it there just ask him to do it after the reception. There are nice ways to go about it. There is a chance that she wouldn't want that anyway because she might want the day to be all about her. Just talk to him. Don't freak out!

On the vacation who cares - at the wedding part. No thanks

In pr yes...wedding or reception or even that day no!!!

Honestly I'm on the other side of the fence it wouldn't bother me in the slightest in fact I think I'd be happy

To be part of it.

As her your friend

Asking how can she do this - lol I'm guessing 'she' doesn't know what he is planning

I would LOVE to have one of my good friends get engaged at my wedding. I would prefer to be involved though.

ETA: there's an incredibly sweet video of a bride turning around during the bouquet toss and handing it to her best friend. Then the boyfriend comes out and proposes. I love it.

Yeah that's a hard no for me. That is your wedding day, not for the spotlight to be on somebody else.