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Stay Classy, Not Trashy

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~*World Of Whimsical*~, on October 5, 2013 at 9:26 PM

I have some family on my invitation list that will no doubt be dumbstruck on how to dress for an evening wedding...or how to dress for anything other than Wal-Mart, for that matter. FH and I had a long discussion about how we should ask folks to dress, and we decided on a "formal/black tie preferred" dress code. After the decision was made and I began working on our wedding website, I somewhat agonized over a "nice" way to tell my guests to leave the clubwear and jeans at home. This is what I have come up with:

"The wedding is an evening affair. As such, the couple requests formal attire for the occasion. Black ties aren't required, but would be appreciated from male guests, and knee-length or longer dresses, or formal pant suits, would be appreciated from the female guests."

I don't want to do it, but I will have security turn away anyone that shows up looking like a slob or a slut. That's not what I want to look out and see.

Thoughts?

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Rachel DellaPorte · on October 7, 2013 at 10:03 PM
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Being the Simon Cowell of WW is a good thing, because Simon Cowell has made an excellent living off of telling the truth to people who ask for it (some want it, and some don't. You can tell who is who by the contestants who run crying from the audition, as opposed to those who leave praising him for his ability to hear genuine talent). If you want to ignore the advice of a truly professional woman who has overseen hundreds and hundreds of weddings in the tristate area, and if you're willing to ban the presence of a busy insider who has worked with some of the most recognizable names in the business, go right ahead. She won't feel it. I can guarantee that.
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Iris · on October 7, 2013 at 10:18 PM
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Um so really, arent I usually the one starting drama? Hahaha I love making fun of myself. But seriously, ^ what Amy said. Dont turn this into a drama post. Not unless I say to
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Annie · on October 7, 2013 at 10:20 PM
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LOL. That was actually a compliment I gave to Celia. Shits gettin real.
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Rachel DellaPorte · on October 7, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Yes, Annie, I know it was. Over and out.
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2d Bride · on October 7, 2013 at 10:33 PM
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I'm sitting here pondering when it became classy to invite guests you don't actually like, and then lie to them.
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Aimee · on October 8, 2013 at 1:30 AM
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Your wedding is in November 2015. If they can't get an acceptable outfit (like dress slacks and a buttoned down shirt) for an event that is still two years away, then yeah, I think it is best not to invite.
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Love Is Real · on October 8, 2013 at 2:09 AM
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I don't care if you have brown paper bags as decor on your tables....you can request whatever attire you want, and whether it was your grandmothers dying wish (OR NOT) shouldn't be asked nor should it matter. If you choose to respect her wishes then that's what it is......

Now back to the actual question asked....

You could make a FAQ tab on your website addressing multiple questions, but slip in.

Q: What should I wear?
A: Then describe what you feel is appropriate

Wendy C. said it perfectly for the invites, and word of mouth wouldn't hurt.
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