I have some family on my invitation list that will no doubt be dumbstruck on how to dress for an evening wedding...or how to dress for anything other than Wal-Mart, for that matter. FH and I had a long discussion about how we should ask folks to dress, and we decided on a "formal/black tie preferred" dress code. After the decision was made and I began working on our wedding website, I somewhat agonized over a "nice" way to tell my guests to leave the clubwear and jeans at home. This is what I have come up with:
"The wedding is an evening affair. As such, the couple requests formal attire for the occasion. Black ties aren't required, but would be appreciated from male guests, and knee-length or longer dresses, or formal pant suits, would be appreciated from the female guests."
I don't want to do it, but I will have security turn away anyone that shows up looking like a slob or a slut. That's not what I want to look out and see.