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The Bride
Master March 2019

Sorry, No Children Allowed

The Bride, on June 6, 2019 at 4:32 PM

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When planning our special day my husband and I immediately knew we wanted to have a kids free wedding for several reasons. 1) On both sides of our family there are a lot of children and we didn't want the trouble of chosing. 2) Our venue charges about $50 per child and allowing children would have...
When planning our special day my husband and I immediately knew we wanted to have a kids free wedding for several reasons. 1) On both sides of our family there are a lot of children and we didn't want the trouble of chosing. 2) Our venue charges about $50 per child and allowing children would have made us go over our budget. 3) Although kids can make for some beautiful wedding moments, they are also very unpredictable.

Will you allow children at your wedding? Why or why not?

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Is there a specific rationale for that?
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    All the weddings I have attended have been that way.
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    As long as kids are supervised and safe I think it's fine.
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  • Karli
    Beginner July 2021
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    We are having a mostly kid free wedding. For out of town guests, we are hiring a babysitter or two to stay at the nearby hotel with their kids.
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  • K
    Dedicated June 2020
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    I’m a mom of 5. So yes my five kids will be in the ceremony and at the reception. But we aren’t drinkers, so that’s not an issue.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    We're allowing them, but we're leaving it up to the parents to decide. Some want the night away, while some can't afford or can't find a sitter. My MOH is a new mom and her baby won't even be a year old at the time so I know she'll have to feed him. Her mom, my sister-in-law will be taking him home and keeping him when she's ready to leave to my niece/MOH can have fun too. My FH has several nieces, nephews, and great-nieces/nephews, and has several grandkids we can't imagine not being there.


    I totally get why some couples want it kid free though, I really do. For us we just want them there.

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated August 2019
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    We are including children in the wedding party and a little cousin of mine. A few of our friends also recently had babies, so we reached out personally to let them know they can bring them if they want. I included on our website about children at the reception and offered a couple babysitting options provided through our reception venue.
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  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
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    Absolutely no kids at my reception. My sister asked if she can bring my nieces (12 and 6) to the ceremony and my mom told her yes(ugh), but they have to leave afterward.

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  • Jennifer future Mrs. K-H
    Dedicated October 2019
    Jennifer future Mrs. K-H ·
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    Whoa $50 is pretty steep, but our plated dinners are under $30 so...

    we are having children at the wedding and reception because we love kids, have so many in our families and friend groups and didn't want to try to invent roles in the ceremony to justify why some kids were invited and others weren't. We know that during the ceremony the mothers will sit off to the side in case they need to step out, and we will be having activities at the reception. But again, our budget is so much different from yours it really is a different ball game.

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  • Jennifer future Mrs. K-H
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Same for us. I can't imagine not having so many of our family members, who are children, there!

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  • Christi
    Savvy September 2019
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    We are not having kids there because of the cost and honestly it gets chaotic sometimes with kids running around everywhere. Too often we have been to events and see the parents letting the kids run and we dont want to lose our deposits. It has been a huge deal for my future MIL because of a few things but we drew the line. Being that we are in our 40s, there would be a ton of kids there and we just can't afford it. We would have to do the $25 per plate for food and pay for the additional seating.

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    Dedicated December 2019
    Anita ·
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    I'm in agreement with you. I opted for an adult only ceremony.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    That is very sweet of you.

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Will other children be allowed at the wedding?

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    Master March 2019
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    I think that is absolutely okay.

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    Master March 2019
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    You're venue offers to babysit? That is awesome!

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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Are you concerned about them being at the ceremony?

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  • Kimberly
    Savvy November 2020
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    We are allowing them because a lot of my fiancé’s family has 3-4 kids each..but we are going to hire a babysitter to entertain them in a separate area.
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    Master March 2019
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    $30 a child is not so bad, we may have considered having kids at the wedding for that rate but probably not.

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    Master March 2019
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    I completely understand.

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