Sorry, No Children Allowed

View Quoted Comment Two of them will be, the third will only be 7 months old.

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So precious

We originally started off completely kid free, but we are considering changing our minds. We have a lot of people coming from out of state and I would hate for them to decide to not come if they can’t bring their kids!
However, I do want a kid free ceremony and I will stand by that! Our ceremony will be short so I am considering paying for a child care service for the ceremony. The thought of a baby (or young child) crying during our ceremony makes me cringe!

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Hmmmm. That's a tough decision.

We are having kids there. We tinkered with the idea of a child free day but decided against it. It was one of the reasons we went with our blank canvas venue. There is ample safe outdoor space and we can come up with activities. We know almost all the kids well, apart from 2 newborns at this point. With one exception we know they handle themselves well in all situations.
I was very picky in the venue shopping process to begin with. No typical banquet halls, no drop ceilings, wasn't going to pay full price for children or full price for people under 21 who couldn't consume the alcohol I was purchasing, if I couldn't afford 120 adult guests then it was a no go. We did end up touring 5 that fit the bill.

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I'm glad you found venues that support you having children at your wedding.

We said NO kids! The large majority of our guests have to travel in, and we have yet to hear a complaint about it. There are just too many. If we included kids there would be 70 kids to the 125 adults. No thanks!

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Sheesh, that's a lot of kids!

We also knew we wanted no kids at our wedding. We went from 18+, to 16+ to now it's 13+ but we're definitely not going lower than that!

View Quoted Comment The youngest person at my wedding was 17 but only because she made my dress.

I am not allowing children at my wedding other then my own kids thats it. Kids are very unpredictable and can be off the wall do thats why i chose just my kids to be there my wedding my way so thats how were doing it. Plus with alcohal i dont want people driving with their kids some people can be irresponsible and i dont want that over my head if someone gets into a car with a child after theyve drank and then drive there kids and them home....there an adult and if they choose to drive drunk after on there own its one thing but to add kids to the mix thats when i feel its not right and cant bare to watch so no kids it is ...hopefully people drive with a dd or get cab home and be responcible not worth a dwi or causing an accident ...

Tons of kids, yes absolutely. They’re part of my family. They’re the sunlight of my days. They’re important little people who should be included in big family events. My 8 (going on 10) nieces are getting an uncle. My kids are getting a step-dad. So out of the 60ish people we’ve invited all together about 20 of them are under the age of 12. The youngest will be maybe a few weeks old at most? After including my nieces I just said screw it and invited allllllll the family. My family knows how to keep their spawn under control though.

We’re not allowing children but we’re doing a small destination wedding in Hawaii. As others have stated, the cost and unpredictability factor are concerns. A few of our friends that have young children completely understand. When we discussed a local wedding, we still had our no kid policy. Our niece who will be 10 at the time will be the only one.

View Quoted Comment A destination wedding sounds like so much fun!

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That's great! As long as everyone is doing what works best for their desires & their guests, that's all that matters, right? As a guest I've never had a preference for kid friendly vs. no kids allowed. I see the appeal in both!

I'm having the kids. I know my crowd and I know my guest list is 65 people. If I said no kids one of my bridesmaids and probably half of my guests wouldn't be there. The phase of life my crowd is in has children and it'd be ridiculous for them to get childcare (special needs and foster children cannot do regular sitters they must be approved by DCF or my friends will lose their kids). I am not heartless enough to ask that of my friends and I have a personal relationship with the children themselves.
Overall I think it's trashy to have a lot of drinking and a big rager after a wedding too, so having the kids means it'll be a more calm and responsible night which I want.

View Quoted Comment I disagree with a lot of what you mentioned. I don't think it's "heartless" to not have children at your wedding, that's just some people's preference. I also don't believe it's "trashy" to have a lot of drinking as most people consider the reception to be a party. To each it's own, please be respectful to others in this discussion.