Sorry, I can't invite everyone

I wouldn't post anything on FB but I know how enough questions and pestering can drive you over the edge to put it out there like that. Obviously, less people knowing the better outside of your guests but hey, shit gets irritating after a while

Balls. Tacky balls. But Balls.

I wouldnt have said anything, and I sure as shit woudlnt have posted it on facebook. I agree that it kind of opens an unnecessary can of worms.

It's not something I would have done... but depending on how small and how intimate, I can see the pro's and con's on this one.

If she's a super social person, has 500 FB friends and legitimately talks to/visits/see's even a fifth of those, but is only having a 20 person wedding, then maybe finding a way to tell the rest of your community is a good thing.

As long as she's ready and willing to deal with the questions and requests this is going to open her up to, then no harm, no foul in my book. (Tacky choices and tasteless choices are different things in my book.)

That is in very poor taste and totally unecessary.

UMMM but you can invite me still, right?

MY BAD didn't read the discussion, just the title..

And as far as this "friend" goes, TROLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

Yeah, I think it's best to deal with that AFTER it happens. Wait until someone contacts you and asks if they are invited, then tell them "due to budget blahblahblah....".

I think some brides think people are sitting at the door everyday hoping and praying that their invite will come in the mail.

My cousin did the same thing. Her wedding was about 30 poeple and was short notice (about 6 months) I thought it was crazy to even mention it.

But she ended it with "we will be having a large reception in the next 2 years where we will be inviting extended family and friends"

I posted something similar on my FB page earlier on in the process. We work together and so a lot of facebook "friends" are co-workers. Well we knew we couldn't afford a super huge shabang and everyone, once they found out we were getting married kept accosting me in the hallway congratulating me and saying they couldn't wait to receive their invitation, etc and it started to get really uncomfortable. So I posted a message saying that we are appreciative of all the well wishers and wished we could invite everyone we knew but finances wouldn't allow it and so we were limiting the guest list to those people we interacted with on previous occasions outside of work on a personal level. Most people understood but of course we heard about a few comments but oh well. It is what it is.

Upon our return from the honeymoon it was not uncomfortable and people were genuinely happy and wanted to see pics who weren't there. I charge that to know why and not speculating negative things about it.

I've kept my facebook posts wayyy to a minimum and anything I do post is super vague. I for sure wouldn't have posted anything like this. Wow.

Oh but I will, of course, post a link to my registry!! ;-P

WOW - thats interesting... I would have just answered people on an individual basis if that many people were asking about invites.

I'm not surprised. She's young. When I saw it I just shook my head. Most of her family is up in NY and NJ and I'm not sure they are even going. I know I'm not going. Have too much going on to take a trip to South Carolina. Not even sure I'm invited though. lol She's my second cousin

No no no no no I would never post something like this on fb. Facebook and wedding life are 2 different things I keep that shit SEPARATE!

Damnit, Nay! I wish you'd quit referring to me as your "cousin". .

What a weird post. That's almost as bad as "y'all come on"

EEK! I would not post something like this but I also try not to post anything wedding related on facebook. Except of course, news that we were engaged. My fiance has been dealing with more random co-workers/ acquaintances then I have asking if they will be invited. I just can't get over how rude that is.

I can see how she may have gotten to that point though to post it. Oh the things I wish I could say to certain people sometimes..

That's pretty dang ballsy.

I don't put anything wedding related on FB, period. Only when he proposed and the engagement photos. But no wedding details, not the date, venue, nothing.

Just out of curiosity... if you don't post about big life events like stuff regarding your wedding on FB, what do you post on FB?

I don't think I littered my FB with wedding stuff, but I would post about the learning curve of hunting for vendors, or excitement about dress shopping the first time... random little things like that. Not daily updates of "OH. EM. GEEE. I'm getting marrieeeeeed!!!!"

People don't want to hear about your wedding planning, but they do want to hear about your dinner or dog pictures? I just find it odd that FB is this awesome tool for keeping those close to you updated in our lives, but then we "friend" 300 semi-strangers along with our 50 family members and close friends, and then have to keep personal stuff off your page because of the 300 stranger-friends.

LOL GameCox You're my play cousin. You know we all have/had friends that we call "cousins" lol

GameCox you crack me up!

I've posted minimal things about my wedding on my Facebook because honestly I mostly use Facebook as a way to communicate things that I don't mind my 200ish "friends" hearing about. I've thrown out generic q's like, "does anyone know a photographer they would recommend?" but I've kept other wedding stuff on the DL. I want people to have the excitement of getting a piece of mail that isn't a bill. I am way more likely to post about my dog/dinner/I think Justin Bieber is a POS more so than "Just mailed out my Save the Dates!"

This is quite comical. Hey Nay, you should link this thread to her fb page.