Sorry, I can't come to your wedding because.......

OhHeyItsIna: as flimsy as that reason sounds, I can actually understand people feeling that way. weddings do weird things to people , and jealousy is a very strong emotion!

my groom and I were getting to know a couple that I thought we were really hitting it off with. I asked her out for coffee one day and told her that I wanted to pick her brain about the up and coming wedding. she's about my age & had been married 3 years.

I even tried to turn the conversation to other things, but if it wasn't wedding talk, she was pretty silent. when she spoke of her own wedding, she seemed pretty disappointed. wanted to wear her mom's dress but it was in bad shape, didn't care about the cake so just the groom and MOB went to tastings, that sort of thing.

maybe it was all about her not really liking me or something, IDK, but my groom and I both laughed when he later got a email from her husband.

saying that they weren't going to be accepting any more invitations for things from us since I spent the whole coffee time talking about 'my stuff' and his wife was done with one sided friendships. I was obviously way to into my own life and interests.

I may be all those things, but ask any close friend of mine and they'll tell you I'm right there first thing when they need someone. probably too much so for their tastes

I mean make any opinion you want on someone, but she got all this from a 45 minute conversation???? wow. pretty sure it had more to do with the wedding and not wanting to attend. until the wedding came up, we had a great time with them.

Let is go is my new manta these days

All of my family is in Atlanta, GA and the wedding will take place at our home in North Carolina closer to Virginia. My dad is always in jail and comes out for vacations so he may not be there. When I talked to him about 2 months ago he was out and asked me if I could pay his way up here and house him. My answer "No, I have a wedding to pay for and there is no extra money for anything." It is true but I have him more than a year's notice so we will see.

My mother and siblings all think they are staying at my house. I also gave them more than a year's notice to save their money for hotel rooms. I want no one staying at the house when the wedding is going to be hear. I need no one in the way! If anybody stays at the house it will be FMIL since she will be keeping our daughter.

I have at least one Aunt in Texas coming, maybe 2, that is 24 hours away, compared to the 6 hours it takes for my dad to come. Oh, well... I'm closer to my Aunts than my Dad anyways.

My grandfather, who traveled a lot, just said he wouldn't be coming. Period-- didn't know the date, just wasn't coming. That hurt my feelings a lot. Other than that, people didn't say why they weren't coming, so I didn't have to think about it.

All of FHs family has declined one actually took the time to write out why... The condensed version is it's not worth the drama that is my future MIL and they wished me the best in dealing with her ! Lol

Oh and my sisters not coming because of "school" aka she doesn't want to be around our mother

@ Rigby: funny I got a "i'm not coming bc you didnt invite my mother" lol fam dramzzzz

This post makes me laugh, and it makes me a little sad, but I'm hoping for some declines bc we kind of over invited!

Oh, and my mom's parents are really dramatic and have been saying "we'd love to be at your wedding, providing we're still alive by then" -_-

I got a, "We plan on being there if we can get Halie out of volleyball. Shes in HS. JV. Volleyball. You tell them she won't be there because her cousin is getting married. End of story." My dad's more pissed than I am.

@KaylaP we already know one of FH's won't make it due to volleyball. However she plays for Layola so she kinda has to attend every game. The only electronic at our wedding ceremony will be the Ipad we use to video chat so she can see the ceremony while on the bus. (they already know they have a tournament that weekend)

Disappointed but rational

-new deployment date 3 days prior to wedding

-new promotion/job can't ask for time off yet

Hilarious

-"can't leave my 8 chihuahuas, 4 ferrets and 6 birds for that long, and I would need to find a sitter for my 5 year old"

JaKlyn if it wasn't a public high school in rural nebraska (literally like class C school.) I probably would understand a little more. She's a freshman in high school..

Yeah I'd be a little annoyed then.

My uncle may not come because he forgot my wedding day and booked his time share to Hawaii.

My aunt and uncle who live in the same city as us (and the same city as the wedding) can't come because it's my aunt's MIL's birthday and the MIL lives in Vancouver. I really hope it's a big milestone birthday. My uncle doesn't get along with a diff uncle that IS coming, so I'm not sure how legit this birthday is.

My Nana always has to be so melodramatic and is like "*sniff* I hope I am alive for long enough to see you get married." She had a problem with lyme disease that has gotten resolved and it has made her think she's going to drop dead any moment

This wasn't for our wedding, but one of my friends declined (on the day of) via text message because she got last-minute tickets to see Huey Lewis and News. She has been to see them several times so it wasn't like it was her first (or last) opportunity. I'm hoping she doesn't pull a similar stunt for our wedding.

The one and only distant cousin I want at my wedding declined, saying "I just don't leave the house anymore, and New Jersey is so far away"

Okay Connie, you went to another family member's wedding in The Hamptons, which is Significantly further away from Brooklyn than North Jersey... I wish I wasn't as upset about this entire thing.

We got a "I'm not coming because you refused to invite my wife" referring to my FH's brother.

I get his reasoning...she's his wife. However, she's batshit in a bottle and causes too many problems. lol