Sorry, I can't come to your wedding because.......

Well this was actually for a wedding that we were invited to and were kind of wondering why we were but anyways the date of their wedding falls on an OSU vs NAVY game and I bought tickets for FH for his gift. I told them we had a prior engagement that day and could not make it.

I had one aunt and uncle just tell us it was "too far" for them to come. It must have been "too much" for them to mail back the pre-stamped RSVP too since they told me at my brother's wedding. Grrrrrr!

I'm pretty sure I'm getting a

"Sorry, I can't come to your wedding because you didn't ask me to be in your bridal party."

Not positive, but I can feel it coming...

We had a couple tell us they had already planned an anniversary getaway that weekend, totally understandable. My cousin from halfway across the country and one of FH's friends from 3/4 of the way across the country both said they couldn't come. Distance, and they are both teachers, so an October wedding was a terrible time for them to come. Nothing unexpected yet.

MY MOH's parents (who were basically my surrogate family throughout college) aren't coming because they have tickets to a pre-season Packer game. I'm all for football and what not but seriously that's some BS...it's PRE-SEASON and this is my wedding...I'm very salty about it

Yup! My cousin said "I am not coming because you invited my mother"

UGH family drama

I have had my laughs (and tears of frustration), but at the end of the day, the people that need to be there for my special day - will be. But here's a few highlights for your enjoyment:

1. I have had two separate parties RSVP "Yes" then decline afterward. One said because her husband couldn't get the next day off work (even with 6 months notice? Really?), and the other because he suddenly had to work that day (I'm getting married on a Sunday). Ok...whatever.

2. My FMIL decided to invite a "date" just last week (my wedding is in less that 6 weeks! Ok...seating chart, here we go...again!)

3. FH's cousin waited literally until the last day to RSVP. He told me to just count her out until we checked our mailbox. Our deadline was 7/26, and her RSVP was postmarked 7/26. Wow...really ? I was hoping the dreaded seating chart was done after scenario #2 above.

DH's former boss (whose wedding we attended, overnight in Reno just a year prior) declined because they had another trip planned - TWO WEEKS later - and that was just too many trips too close together. Mind you, my wedding was an easy day trip to the bay area about 2 hours away and over by 5:00 pm.

It hasn't been explicitly written on any invite, but half FH's family declined because the other half is going to be there.

*Rigby* - I feel ya! Family drama city over here!

I haven't had any family not come because the other is coming. But my parents and FH parents are divorced and don't get along. EVERYTHING is a big deal to them...cannot sit by each other, cannot be in pictures next to each other, cannot stay at the same hotel as the other. Ugh...FML.

Similar to Rigby's, we got a "I can't come because you invited my wife" [and she served me with a restraining order yesterday]! What?!?

Here's been my reasons so far, all disappointing but all rational:

-'I'll be flying back from europe that day'

"I'll be shooting a tv show that day"

"the time of the wedding is when I'll be costuming up and doing make up for my appearance that night"

"I'll try, but I think I'll be working on the riverboat during that time"

-sick family members

-too far to travel considering getting away from jobs, kids, things like that.

all the reasons are totally legit, and most I expected but I didn't want to just exclude these people since I do want them to come if possible.

I have a few maybes, but they probably won't know if they can come or not until last minute. one maybe is going to be depending on not only his work schedule, but what's going on in the world of physics and astronomy during that time. he gets pulled in to work on teams that do things like report on discoveries of new planets, charting the universe and other 'stuff'

I try to keep up on my friends and families lives, but most of the time it gives me a big headache! :/

I had a friend that i drove 10+ hours to her wedding, to stand up in and to do her flowers, drive 10+ hours back to where we were living at the time… then… 4 months later for my wedding, she couldn't make the 3 and a half hour drive to my hometown because she wanted to hang out with her brother and sister that were going on vacation for a month to florida…. sure. go ahead and miss my once in a lifetime wedding to hang out with family that you see all the time and live in the same city as.

My FH Both sets of Aunt and Uncle's told us that they will be out of town in Chicago the weekend of our wedding. But His grandma told us that they are not going out of town. Caught red handed lying. oh well (im not upset about it..they are a little crazy)

Also I for sure got a decline back cuz I didnt put her in the wedding. She didnt say anything about it. But ever since I picked my BM she has not talked to me at all, and has declined everything.

@Milwaukee_Bride: I lived in Appleton in the Fox Valley for about 6 years, and it doesn't shock me at all that someone with any kind of packer tickets would go to a game over a wedding.

I know it's pre season, but tickets to a packer game were worth more than gold to most anyone I encountered in that area.

people would file complaints to deans of colleges when instructors wouldn't let people out of class to watch the games on tv

companies would choose not to employ people if they weren't packer fans.

when the planes hit the twin towers one new station reported that as the follow up story after the news on the packer game.

I don't agree with it either, but for many packer fans the world revolves around that.

don't take it personally, for many nothing is more important then those packer tickets!

Not really disappointed but more funny FH coworkers declined bc there's an ohio state football game on. We live in MA I don't really care we are not that close with them.

We haven't even sent our invites yet but my cousin told my aunt who told my dad that he isn't coming because we aren't inviting children to our wedding, and since his little 5 year old isn't invited, he won't be bothered to attend. Keep in mind, his two other brothers also have kids and are excited and ready to attend sans children. We haven't even sent save the dates yet either! Jeez...

"I can't come because your wedding is going to be better than mine, and I don't want to feel bad"

My own FATHER said "I don't know how I'm going to feel... physically." I was kind of curious what his "excuse" was going to be.... His excuse to not coming to my highschool graduation was " I didn't have enough notice"... I guess 18 years wasn't enough notice. He didn't come to my sister's wedding, but she only gave 2 weeks notice, so I kind of understand. He is 6 hours away. I'd be really really shocked to see any of my father's family show up to my wedding, really.

I gave him a year's notice for my wedding just so he couldn't use that excuse! Just an fyi he's not that old or in bad health, which is why this excuse shocked me.

We haven't sent out our invites yet, but I'm expecting a few good no-show excuses from certain family members. My aunt and cousins are sooo strange. One time they didn't show up to a family function because, and I quote, "they couldn't find ____________" (that's my 23-year-old cousin). They live in a tiny 2-bedroom apartment. He's almost 7 feet tall and weighs at least 350 pounds. I'm expecting (and kinda hoping for) an equally-entertaining excuse as to why they can't come to the wedding.