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Song requests

Laura, on May 19, 2018 at 11:05 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 15

Are you taking song requests from your guests? If so, how are you gathering them? Are you tossing out requests for songs that you don't like?

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Latest activity by Slightly Off-Center, on May 30, 2018 at 4:12 PM
  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    I definitely didn't want to ask guests to add their song requests to their RSVPs - I didn't want anyone to be disappointed if they didn't hear "their" song. I think we're going to let the DJ take requests, but will have a very clear "do not play, even if requested" list and let him know that he doesn't have to play any specific request if it doesn't seem to go with the vibe of the time/crowd.

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    Dedicated July 2018
    ItalyBride18 ·
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    We're having a destination wedding with about 65-70 people and I wanted to make sure we personalized the music to them since they're coming so far and it'll be a late night so I want people to get excited when they hear their request. The requests we've gotten back have been really good/ funny and none are songs we wouldn't play.

    We'll be putting together a short DO NOT PLAY list for our DJ along with a sets of songs to play. We trust our DJ to play each song when the "vibe" is right!

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  • Jillian
    Devoted August 2018
    Jillian ·
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    I'm collecting song requests on our website. It's fun when you're at a wedding and hear a song you requested. I think I'm going to give them to my DJ and tell him to put them where they fit. We have a worksheet that we fill out for him with different parts of the wedding and what type of music we want played during those times (pre-ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, etc). My officiant/coworker was so excited to request songs and had a whole list and was bummed that it would only let him enter 5. I told him to just go back in and enter more haha.

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  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
    BB-H ·
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    I don't know. I initially thought it would be fun to take some requests, but I also know that there are some big wedding staples that FH absolutely hates and I don't know if we'd veto those if they were requested. If we do take requests, it'll probably be on our wedding website.

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  • K
    Expert October 2019
    Kierstin ·
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    We will take requests at the wedding but we will have a do not play list. Like that song the wobble? Like what is that? Lol. My cousin had someone request it at her wedding recently. I was just standing there like why is this a thing?
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  • S
    Savvy October 2018
    Samantha ·
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    Our RSVP cards have a line to request a song on them. Our dj has a must play, play if there is time, and do not play list. I doubt people will be that upset if they don't hear their song, but I feel like it's a good way to make the party flow if people actually like the songs they're hearing since they picked some of them!
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  • K
    Devoted May 2018
    Kaitlin ·
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    I made a separate song request card to go with out invites. It said I promise to dance if you play _____. That way there is no promise to play their song. Only a few of my guests used the card though.
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  • Malwen107
    VIP October 2018
    Malwen107 ·
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    We were going to put it on our RSVPs, but decided not to, and will not doing requests. We've included songs that are significant to our group in our "must play" list, and will leave the rest up to the DJ. I don't think most people we are inviting are the type to request at a wedding, it wouldn't really cross my mind. I would assume the bride and groom had an arrangement with the DJ about what they did and didn't want played.

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  • Tessa
    Savvy May 2019
    Tessa ·
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    I like that wording, I think i'll make the change to my wedding website RSVP questions. Thanks for sharing.
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    Dedicated September 2018
    Dominique ·
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    We are taking song request. On our RSVP card for invitations we included a line that reads "You'll catch me on the dance floor if you play:____" This way we can provide a list to the DJ ahead of time so they can make sure they have the songs. We will be tossing out some we just do not like - for instance, we are not fans of country music so we will likely only play one or two country songs for those that like the style.

    We will be giving our DJ our "must play" songs and they will ensure we are present for them. The "Other" songs will be played once the must plays are done.

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  • FutureMrs.Jacobs
    Super October 2018
    FutureMrs.Jacobs ·
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    DJ can take request!
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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Fall Bride ·
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    Nope. And we specifically told the band we hired not to take requests from guests.

    As a wedding musician, I actually really hate requests. We put together a curated set list based on the couple's personal taste, and one that appropriately flows with what's happening at the moment. As corny as it sounds, we want to take guests on a "musical journey", and we don't want to deviate from that with a bunch of random songs that don't make sense together. Most DJs I know also feel the same way. They plan their sets too, and pitch and beat match so songs are seamlessly going from one to the next. Random requests screw all of that up, and it's super annoying.

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
    kymarmck ·
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    Our DJ let us know that we can have people request songs but that he can't guarantee that they will all be played since they go off of the "vibe" of the crowd (which is totally fine by me).

    That being said, we will be putting a "song request" card with our RSVPs so we can see if there are any songs that a lot of people want played and then we will give that to our DJ and just say "if you can play it, great! If you can't, no big deal!"

    On the card it will explicitly state "we cannot guarantee that this song will be played" so that that guests don't come EXPECTING to hear their song. It would just be a bonus for them if it played!

    At the reception itself, however, guests will be unable to make a request.

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  • Kristina
    Master August 2018
    Kristina ·
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    Our DJ just takes requests on the day of, during the reception.

    If it's overly inappropriate he'll tell the person requesting it that there are children present and it's just not appropriate for a wedding.

    I was going to do the thing to have people request a song on the RSVP cards, but the DJ advised against it, saying in his experience, a lot of people put their songs they had their first dance to, which would make for a very boring reception!

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  • Slightly Off-Center
    Dedicated September 2019
    Slightly Off-Center ·
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    Two friends of mine are having a Game of Thrones/medieval themed wedding. So the back of their RSVP card said something along the lines of "If the bard plays ____________, I will get up and dance." I thought it was great! Floof and I put down a catchy 80's tune.

    And I know that they're vetting the responses and tossing out ones they don't like--especially because some of their friends would choose music that makes inappropriate GoT references. ^^;;

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