Some people just dont get no babies at the wedding!

I feel that it is you and your FH's day...what YOU guys want should be what goes so stand your ground. If you could think of a reasonable compromise that works than great! But if not and no babies for the whole day is what you want then do it. I personally can't say anything b/c there will be kids at my wedding and reception b/c I have a will be 8 year old and 5 year old come time for our wedding, and FH has a will be 8 year old little brother and some of our family and friends have kids that are close to my kids and they will entertain each other and not be all up under my feet. But that is what me and my FH want. So, do what you want, regardless of who is paying. And if your mom is putting up too much of a fight...just remind her...it's either no babies for anyone or you will elope She might back off then!

I would have no problem with the baby at the ceremony. If the parents are attentive, it won't cry. It will probably sleep right through it.

But may I suggest a different approach- tell them that the music and conversations will be quite loud. You are concerned about the baby- because it can cause damage to her fragile ears.

Sorry- but by the time a child is 6 months old- the parents should be begging for a night off! It's unhealthy to be that attached and smothering to a child! It doesn't mean you don't love them, but as Dr. Phil says "Children join your lives. You don't join theirs."

@ Meghan B...I love that quote! Well said.

Thanks for all your advice....I have a lot to consider and discuss with my fh!

"I dislike when people talk about babies like they mean nothing. They are family, after all. "

I highly doubt anyone is talking about babies like they mean nothing. Just because someone doesn't want any kids at their wedding doesn't mean they don't think of them as family.

I am enstating a no children policy- AND I have a daughter who will be almost 2 when we get married. I intend to have someone come pick her up shortly into the reception so I don't have worry about her all night, and I don't want anyone elses' kids there? Why? Because my FBIL has four OBNOXIOUS children, and my sister is dating a guy with a completely annoying 10 year old. I do not want them at my wedding because they most likely WILL ruin it, at least in my eyes. I don't like them on a normal basis, so I don't want to put up with them on such a stressful, big day.

Unfortunately, this means all the cute babies in the family that I do love are not invited as well. Sucks for them.

Well I call my mom for a final count on my sister in law and her husband- to see if her sister is coming as well and of course we ge tinto the issue- why cant they all come- we'll pay! ugh. they will just show up with the baby and start family fueds among other relatives that have children that werent invited. And im sure it will cry durin ghte ceremony- and during cocktail hour and reception since its a live band and theres one big ballroom it the bathrooms behind the band stage- so its loud everywhere!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we should have eloped liked my fh wanted to....

I was dealing with almost the same situation for about 3 months, and also as you see by responses you got, it's a sensitive question.

Whether the baby will or will not cry is irrelevant at the end of the day. You have your reasons for why you decided to have adult only reception. Stand your ground. You are indeed opening a can of worms if you start picking and chosing whose kids can and whose kids cannot attend. As far as "baby attending the wedding", do you remember when you were 6 months old and your mom wanted you to participate in... My point exactly.

OMG... we experienced the same thing. Invited on of FH's single cousins and she added her 5 year old daughter as her "plus 1"!! Some people just don't get it!

I see so many of these posts and it makes me very grateful that I did not have this issue. our family has ALOT of little ones, and we couldn;t imagine not having them there, so we made it happen. I do understand why many people say no kids, and have been to receptions where children were a bad idea.

@ Amanda, my best advice would be to try and come up with a compromise. It seems like it is a very difficult situation for you. I saw someone mentioned maybe allowing the baby just for the reception (and probably cocktail hour). I understand your concerns, but if you truly feel this could become a serious conflict, that may be the best course of action. At least then there would not be any crying at the ceremony--from babies anyway

Ok so my guess is that some of you dont have children!( i said SOME) at 6 months, its all still fairly new and no you really dont need a night off. when they're older and cant stop fighting. HELL YES, night off required, but at 6 months, that sweet little baby cant help herself. this is YOUR wedding... you do what you want. I CAN see your moms point. you will have Fam photos and i am sure its a great way to include her new grandbaby and your niece. This isnt COUSINS kids, etc.. this is YOUR niece. and unless you put her right by the speakers she wont go deaf, lol...BUT, i think also think a baby at the ceremony isnt a big deal. Granted Crying children never bother me.. someone could sneeze really LOUDLY or have a coughing FIT during your vows, or cell phone goes off..sure they'll feel bad about it, but not much they can do...ya know? the baby crying would be the same thing. Stand your ground if thats where you're leaning, but dont ruin your day and relationship to do so.

Stand your grand Amanda. It is your day.

Babies should always be allowed. A baby crying at a wedding is beautiful and welcome in all weddings in Spain. Even priests celebrate babies participating (crying :-) ) in the church. Marriage is for the purpose of building a family. And other parents with kids are an example new marriages should learn from. Respectfully, Maggie (about to wed!!!!).