Social media question: Did you post about your wedding close to the day?

I didn't and I don't recommend you do it either. It'll probably spark those awkward "where's my invite" responses.

Truth be told, I haven't even posted my engagement on fb and it's been ten months! I'm of the school of, "if you were supposed to know, then you already do".

I've really only posted when we got engaged, when I picked out a dress, when I picked out my bridesmaids. We've been engaged for almost 2 years now so every once in awhile I'll post something along the lines of "can't wait to marry this man!" But that's the extent of it. But I have seen where couples post a pic of them holding their marriage license about a week before the wedding when they get it, and I think that's super cute!

Thanks @LeahH. That's exactly what I'm trying to avoid!

If I don't post anything, will people wonder what's wrong?

I suppose the happy medium is simply to update my profile picture and cover photos once I get those first few back from the photographer, after the wedding day. What do you think?

I only updated my FB status that we were engaged and that we were married When you post about your wedding on social media you definitely open yourself up to questions about your wedding and people asking for invites!

ETA: Yes - I definitely posted wedding pictures once I got them back

@Erin That's a cute idea. I like the way you handled it. Our engagement has been shorter (a little more than 8 months). Hence, just two posts.

@Lisa Great point! Who needs that??

I have seen people post about reminding people to send back their RSVP's. There are ALWAYS those awkward (and very rude) people that post "My invite must have gotten lost! Haha!"

I don't generally post because people tend to ask when they should be expecting an invite. I really only posted when we got engaged and will probably post pictures of my shower and wedding pics after the fact.

That's kind of a weird thing to wonder TBH. People will only assume that something is "wrong" if you change your relationship status from engaged to single. Not being rude but I doubt people on Facebook care *that* much about your upcoming wedding.

I posted some as we got closer and then some once the day passed but I did not go crazy with it. I may have the unpopular opinion but I feel like if someone gets offended because they were not invited to my wedding, that's their own problem. There were many on my friends list who were not invited and while I would have loved to include them, it just wasn't possible. I have congratulated friends on my list who got married and did not invite me and have never felt the least bit upset that I was not invited.

I post very vague things. I posted we got engaged. And a pic of FH saying can't wait to call this man my husband. or I'll tag my bm in random funny wedding memes, but never any details. I ignore the when's the wedding comments and better get my wedding invite comments. I may post the night before something exciting but equally vague.

I haven't posted anything wedding related on FB. We didn't even post that we were engaged. FH and I are pretty private when it comes to our relationship.

BUT, we will post the day we get married. The plan is to take a picture of us immediately after getting married. The caption will be:

Them: When are y'all finally getting married?

Us: NOW BIOTCHES.

Classy, I know. After seven years together, you really get sick and tired of mofos asking about your relationship when they don't know shit.

I doubt I will. I *might* post a pic or two, after the fact, but even that is doubtful. I don't really put any of my life out there on social media though, and I primarily only have it for my business.

Nope, I haven't posted my engagement because I don't want "Where's my invite".

This totally depends on the person and how you act on social media anyway. Most people are more reserved, and it's not the best etiquette to broadcast anything, let alone wedding stuff, on social media. However, I'm a pretty public person (to my friends), and am very active on social media. My friends and family are scattered and we use social media a lot. I "document" lol. I definitely didn't post wedding details, as it was a tiny wedding and most people knew they weren't invited. But I did post about our engagement, and about our wedding after the fact.

I think this is up to you. Don't overdo it, but don't feel like you need to keep the happiest day of your life--and the build up to it--a total secret shrouded in mystery either.

Who you're 'friends' with on FB and what you use it for is also relevant--I personally only have friends, family and a few friends who've become more like acquaintances (220ish). Some people have thousands of FB friends, which opens up for more drama.

I know some people think it's rude, and that people shouldn't 'have' to find out about an event they're not invited to, but guess what: that's Facebook. I see shit happening that I'm not invited to and IDGAF.

Be prepared for some 'can't wait!' and 'where's my invite?'s if a lot of your FB friend connections aren't invited. Be prepared with how you'll handle it. But don't necessarily let it prevent you from sharing any joy about your upcoming wedding.

Rebecca: "If I don't post anything, will people wonder what's wrong?"

Is that a serious question? Why do you care what people will think? FH and I rarely post pictures of ourselves, and lots of times my pics are of me hanging with friends without him, and vice versa. I'm sure some people might think that at times we are no longer together. YOU know the two of you are together and happy, right? So what does it matter what everyone else thinks?

You don't need to advertise on social media with a pic once a day/week/month to prove the validity of your relationship.

Along with @FallBride, I have never gotten a single "where's my invite", just a lot of well wishes. We are in our early 20's and a lot of people my age have been posting a lot about engagements (it IS engagement season) and I haven't seen anything like that on their posts either... Maybe it's just an age difference?

We posted about our engagement and that's about it I think. I have friends who do screenshots of their countdowns or frequent updates and I don't mind seeing it since they're clearly excited and I'm happy for them. Facebook has a very handy unfollow option so if someone doesn't want to see those posts they can easily unfollow.

I would possibly post at the 100 day mark if I remember but that's also unlikely since I tend to forget about these things. I wouldn't post anything specific about the wedding (like location) since I have safety concerns over a previous abuser.

I posted when we got engaged, and nothing since. I had a few people come out of the woodwork who I haven't spoken to in years but never asked for invites. Only one person openly fished for an invite, and he was always on the invite list as he is my cousin.