Social media question: Did you post about your wedding close to the day?

@Soon to be Mrs.Terakawa I hear ya. An engaged friend of mine posted weekly, through the dating and the engagement. She even posted a picture of her Louboutins on every social media format with a "thank you, baby!" tag on it. Knew I did not want to be That. Girl.

Omg i know @Rebecca, literally she put up a pic of her and her boo "walking into the sunset" after picking her beach venue. Don't get me wrong I'm happy for her, but geez give it a rest! I bought myself my red bottoms, don't need fh to buy them for me, and haven't told my ig friends either.

I purposely don't post so people will still want to be excited to come to my wedding lol.

I posted when we got engaged, shopping for my dress, bridesmaids shopping and the 6 month mark. I'm pretty active on social media but I don't overdue it. Lol at least I don't think I do. Most people are genuinely happy for us and I haven't had any issues with friends being sour about not being invited.

I posted a handful of times (when we got engaged, one engagement picture, and maybe 2 or 3 "countdown" posts at significant numbers), and I did limit 1 or 2 of those posts to only people who were invited. I have several friends on Facebook who have been posting stuff like 436 days til our wedding! (no one cares) and sharing their engagement picture album multiple times in one week (no one cares!!!!!) which is just super obnoxious

I did make a few post on instagram about our wedding day approaching but in a somewhat subtle way. I was #x more days til this man is my husband or something similar. I would on occasion share the post on FB as well. I also posted one time a picture of us standing at the stop of our wedding ceremony. I tried to post very little but I was so excited that it was hard to keep it completely contained. I have posted plenty after the wedding though- gotta share those pics & wedding video!

I made the mistake of posting something and now get asked by a shit ton of people about their invite.

I don't plan to. Even know, I'll post something but not to the extent of going in full detail about my wedding day.

Considering I have a few hundred FB friends, none of whom are invited, I won't be posting anything until it is time to change my profile pic and relationship status. Even then, there won't be anything posted, just the updates. Those that need to know will be there, so no need to put personal info out there. Then again, I try to avoid drama when possible, so maybe that's something....

Posted when we got engaged, with ring pic, then nothing until the day I picked my parents up from the airport, three days before our wedding, the next day when I picked my sis and her husband up, then a post about heading to the town we were getting married in with full cars! I think I changed my status to "married" the day after the wedding.

I think the problem comes in when people are bombarded by constant updates. Even then, probably an UO here, but I feel like if adults get offended by oversharing wedding stuff on FB then that's a bit much...annoyed yes. I've had soooo many friends get married these past years, some posted about their wedding minimally and some constantly. Never once did I assume I was invited to their wedding just because we're FB friends.

I've only posted so far about the engagement and the 1 yr mark (and occasionally on dating anniversaries there will be a comment like 'can't wait to marry my best friend' or something in a photo caption) and I haven't had anyone post or message me anything about being invited.

I made the mistake of changing my status to "engaged" and posted a pic of my engagement ring and there came the "when should I expect my invite?" questions... lesson learned.

That's so interesting for me!