So worried people will bring their babies to the wedding.

How old is the baby? I can't imagine separating a nursing mom and her baby

If the baby is nursing there is not much they can do. I doubt you will even notice their child is there if it's that young.

Especially if they're coming and getting a hotel for a night or two. I can't imagine asking anyone to leave their infant.

Nursing infants are the exception to an adult only invitation.

I don't know the couple but my fiancé said he's a couple months old. My bridesmaid's baby is 2 months old (will be 5 months at the wedding) and she breastfeeds, and she's either leaving her baby with her mother out of state that weekend or bringing her mom to stay with the baby in the hotel.

@Sarah M I just assumed since the baby wouldn't have a seat/meal, they wouldn't include them on an RSVP. I hadn't thought about it much because I just assumed no one would bring their child, but another friend (who has 2 children) said most people would think babies are the exception to the "adults only" rule.

Usually babies are considered an exception to the adults only rule. Especially if they're nursing.

I can't imagine telling a nursing mom (including a bridesmaid) that she can't bring her baby. Many babies nurse well past a year.

ETA You shouldn't expect this woman to leave her baby because your bridesmaid is

I think a baby that young shouldn't be an issue I'm sure the couple will leave out of the ceremony if the baby starts to act up, plus they won't be an added expense.

Breastfeeding babies should be included with mom on the invitation.

I don't know if the woman breastfeeds or not. She is a working mother with long hours (doctor) so the baby must take a bottle while she's at work.

This is something my fiancé and I, along with my parents (who are paying for a large part of our wedding) feel very strongly about, not having children/babies there. I have been to weddings where people let their babies cry and fuss during a ceremony. If we are asking 3 members of the wedding party to make other plans for their babies then I don't want to budge for other guests. It may be an unpopular opinion but that's how we feel.

You can't take a nursing baby away from the mom ... I'm nursing my baby and my FH is in his friends wedding on the 28th ... my daughter is definitely comming ... she won't take a bottle whatsoever.. it's not like your paying for the child ...

Op baby won't need a seat or a meal lol. Moms hip and breast is all. My friends have made arrangements at past weddings to pump and have someone watch the baby. I too don't think babies should be at weddings BUT nursing mothers would get a pass.

Awww Babies are so much cuter than toddlers and children. Even their cries are more tolerable than whining children. Just let it go, and don't worry about it. If they bring the baby, then so be it.

A couple months old? They should probably be with their parents. If you want them to come, they should get a pass. If I didn't get a pass I wouldn't be coming to the wedding.

Ps: I think it is super rude that you asked one of your BM's to give up their infant for the wedding. Babies do better with their moms and dads. But I suppose it's none of my business.

The OP does not have to allow babies at her wedding. The guest list is up to her. Yes, many people do make exceptions for infants, but it is not a blanket rule or requirement. If it is strictly adult only, then some parents may have to decline the invitation if they are unable to make other arrangements for their babies.

I'm pretty sure the OP is well aware that the baby doesn't need a meal or a seat Jillian. That's not the point.

Her problem now becomes if they bring their baby but she's already told some in her wedding party that they can't bring their babies whom she knows is a nursing baby. Confusion?

Carrina not everyone thinks babies are so cute, nor do they want to hear them crying through their ceremony.

OP- I'm not advocating for this but if you're really that adamant that these people do not bring their baby FH can call his friend and tell him it's adults only.

Idk I'd be super annoyed if someone brought their baby to ours. I have nursing friends. Not one has expected me to say oh ok you're the exception. We don't want kids there, babies included. I think you've made that abundantly clear. But I would just have a convo with her and casually mention the no kids thing. Maybe say oh we noticed you mentioned "baby's" name on the guest book, we just wanted to make sure you realized this was not a kid friendly event. Or have your FH do it if he's the friend. Yeah, I'd make him do it.

Obviously, I know not everyone thinks babies are cute. I wasn't trying to speak for everyone. Still, I think that babies should be allowed for the numerous reasons people listed. Anyway, do what you really want to do OP. If the babies bother you that much then just tell the parents their babies can't come.

The wedding party is of the "yay, a baby free night for mom and dad!" mindset. One left her baby at 5 weeks overnight with her sister and has had to leave her for a week for work, and the other is leaving her 4 month old for 2 nights for my bachelorette party. The groomsmen's wife told us she's using our wedding as motivation to get back in shape and they'd already lined up the grandparents as childcare, and their baby was just born last week. So I'm not twisting anyone in the wedding party's arm by having an adults only wedding.

FH is convinced I'm overthinking (I tend to do that!) and that I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill. I guess we will just wait and see when RSVPs come back!

Thank you all for listening