So I went to a dry wedding

Oh wow that sounds terrible

Omg ! No words

PSA: @Emily

THE MOMENT YOU INVITE PEOPLE TO TAKE PART IN YOUR WEDDING DAY, IT JUST ISNT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. YOU HAVE TAKEN ON A ROLE AS A HOSTESS. IN THAT ROLE, YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO GIVE GUESTS A PROPER MEAL AND DRINKS (Not including tap water).

I had to write in all caps because I was yelling that shit.

It's rude because most adults like a drink at a party. Most adults are not alcoholics, they don't get shitfaced and wrestle in the parking lot, they don't throw up in the ladies room. Let's see, did I leave anything out?

No.

That's why you have drinks available at a party.

This girl is beyond repulsive and her husband should have done an intervention because this wedding will be the topic of conversation for years to come, and not in a good way.

@emily no calm your tits! If you can't afford to throw a proper wedding reception don't have one! Instead of inviting over 100 people she should've brought her close family and friends to a nice dinner, or have an afternoon reception.

I was over the whole dry wedding thing, I went giving it a fair chance and I was expecting a decent reception just no alcohol so maybe people wouldn't dance as much or leave a little early. Her ceremony started at 5pm and the reception was to end at midnight. How the hell do you expect people to go that long with little finger foods????? How?! Would you invite someone to your house for a dinner party and sever finger sandwiches and water?

In the end she wasted more money than saved bc she paid for the DJ no one wanted to dance bc they were hangry, she paid for all those hours at venue people left by 8/9. I'm sure she lost a few friends bc the way she was acting was absolutely rude. When we went to congratulate them the groom said thanks for coming and apologized for the lack of food and drinks, and she replied with "ok I can't hung people bc I don't want to f up my dress". She's always been a little over the top but this was a new side of her I never seen. I really wanted to give dry weddings the benefit of the doubt but this was worse than the potluck wedding I went to!

TAP WATER?!?! That's the only type of beverage they offered? How did the groom not know? That's baddddddd. At least if you're going to go the dry wedding route (not recommending it at all btw) have a fun non-alcoholic beverage - like a milkshake station or something.

The wedding being Dry is one thing, but everything about that sounds just...not fun. I am usually one that is all fine with differences in what is needed and why, but there is no saving that story. No Alcohol. No drinks. No food. That is just insane. Thank you for telling us the story. I get alcohol might not be important to some people but at least have a good dinner and provide some regular drinks for people. It is sad when even the groom and the brides family is put off by the wedding.

My advice to dry wedding people is don't have one if your guest drink. But since most of you will go ahead and do it anyway, have a bomb ass dinner, have other drinks hell have mocktails, if your going skip out on booze have other things to entertain the guest (but honestly most just want booze) it'll be cheaper to have beer and wine than hire a belly dancer/comedian/photo booth/fire breather.

My advice to the "its my day my way" brides/grooms go to the courthouse and a nice dinner just the two of you and have YOUR day.

It's very simple. And I cannot comprehend how anyone would disrespect their "guests" like that. There are ways to cut costs but still properly entertain your guests.

You weren't a guest at this terribke wedding you were a victim.

OMG. That's awful -- she should have gotten a toaster

Also @Emily - the ceremony is about the couple the reception is about your guests and thanking them for being there, they should be properly hosted. Inviting more people than you can properly host means generally means that you're just looking for gifts.

The average cost of a guest attending a wedding is about $300-400 (local), $600+ (out of town guests) - keep this in mind when you're feeding them finger foods and tap water.

Emily P - you must also think it's okay to not take care of your guests properly. You must be one of the ones also doing no food or alcohol. Smh

That sound like a wonderful party, said no one ever.

That sounds horrid

@Emily P - I have a friend who is allergic to alcohol. When she comes over for dinner, lunch, brunch, I always make sure that we have a ton of non-alcoholic drinks on hand for her to choose from, why? Because I'm a good host like that. This reception was appalling and made my eye twitch, I could possibly get past the no alcohol, but to not even serve proper food or beverages, uh-uh!

Once you invite one guest, you must host your reception properly, food, drinks, seats.

I minimally get the "it's my day thing" ...to the point of decorating how you want and buying your dream dress or whatever...........................BUT YOU NEED TO SERVE FOOD I'm sorry but if I was not fed at a wedding, I would have to leave immediately. Also if you have a dry wedding (which, don't) but if you do, you should not be feeding yourself and bridal party alcohol behind the scenes. SO TACKY.

I have no idea how the husband didn't know! He seemed genuinely apologetic and embarrassed.

My FH isn't super involved in the planning process, but the food and booze is the only thing he cares about. so he damn sure is involved in tastings.

WOW! So cheap that she wouldn't even pay for soft drinks? and with a reception at 7PM you should be having more than cocktails. I'm glad you found that bar to hang out and get some food!

Also would like to point out the saving money on food thing: We chose a place where we can bring our own vendors in. I am having Famous Dave's BBQ. We chose the MOST expensive option because it was still only 17.50/pp. The cheapest was like $14/per plate. If you minimize your guest count and do something like this not only do you serve a full meal but you get A TON OF FOOD. With my option it's ribs, chicken, AND pork plus two sides. Guests don't choose one meat, they can have all 3. And it's relatively cheap. We're also getting our alcohol delivered from a local liquor store. If you want to save money on that just do beer/wine and maybe a signature cocktail! There are plenty of ways to penny pinch without serving tap water and giving appetizer food items for a 7 hr reception JUST SAYIN

Emily, get off your white horse and think about why people host weddings. It's a thank you for the people who gave up time and money to spend what usually amounts to a day with the couple.

If they had no budget, they shouldn't have had a big, rude, shitty party.