TheTindles
Savvy October 2020

Small or Large Wedding Party?

TheTindles, on November 13, 2019 at 9:29 PM Posted in Planning 0 22
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We just got engaged on 10.10.19 and we are undecided on whether to have a small or large wedding party...we are thinking small vs large, maybe no more than 3 to five on either side...I would be happy with one on each side just to be a witness, no ringbearer, no flowergirl.

What have you all decided on? Small or Large? How many people will you actually have in your wedding party?

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We didn’t put any thought into whether we wanted our bridal party to be small or large. We just asked the people that we couldn’t imagine getting married without. For me that happened to be 4 people, and for my FW it was 3.
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    Devoted November 2019
    Emily ·
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    I was at first interested in large but we went small. You save money with your floral budget and gift budget to do small !
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  • Mandee
    Dedicated September 2020
    Mandee ·
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    I didn't really think too much about the size of the bridal party. I just knew who I wanted standing with me, and same with the FH. We ended up with five on my side and four on his, but we solved that problem with one of my girls walking my ring-bearer doggo down the aisle!

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  • Yoice
    Rockstar March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    Congratulations!
    I say small! Is easier, less drama and better coordination. I only had 4 on each side and it was perfect number. I was part of a wedding as MOH with just 2 and it was great, I also did 8 as a BM and it was so chaotic at times. So hard to arrange everyone schedule, and coordinate. Avoid the extra drama while you can.
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  • Erika
    Devoted April 2021
    Erika ·
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    We have 3 BM's and 3 GM's plus our MOH & BM and 1 ring bearer but we dont have a flower girl...yet or maybe none at all. We don't know anyone with a little daughter that can walk down the aisle. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Caitlin
    Dedicated September 2021
    Caitlin ·
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    I just thought of who I couldn't get married without them standing up there with me and that happens to be 5 people. Smiley smile
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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
    TheTindles ·
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    Yoice exactly what I am thinking and congrats to you as well.

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  • Ashley
    Expert November 2020
    Ashley ·
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    We are having a small wedding party with only 4 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids. Picked our absolute closest friends, the ones who've been there for us through it all; before we knew each other and throughout out whole relationship.
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I went with five. I think I chose that based purely on who I wanted there with me that day
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Zero! Worked out great. No extra cost, stress or drama for anyone.
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  • Kelley
    Dedicated May 2020
    Kelley ·
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    Our wedding party is 20 people total (faint) lol. Besides my FH and I, we both have 7 bridesmaids/groomsmen then 3 flower girls (all our nieces) and 1 ring bearer (my nephew). The kicker is we called it at this number even though we felt guilty that we didn’t have more of our closest friends in it. I totally agree the more people you have the more expensive it is, especially with the girls for flowers and gifts etc. But I will say I’m so happy with all that we have in our wedding party!
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    We had a small wedding so we did a small wedding sorry (MOH and BM only). If you are on a budget the number of people is also something to think about. If that doesn’t matter then ask yourself who could you not imagine standing beside you on that important day and make your list. It doesn’t have to be the same number on each side so make your list and he makes his and then you have it. Don’t overthink it. 😊
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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
    TheTindles ·
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    I overthink everything! Your right though only those few that I could not see myself standing there without.


    Thank you!
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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
    TheTindles ·
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    Yikes! You must be one patient person...I would be a total wreck, LOL.


    Congratulations and Thank you!
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    Congratulations on your engagement. We only chose our sons to stand as our best men. It is up to you to have as many or as few people by your side. For us it was just easier and more meaningful for it to be just my wife, our sons, and me up there.

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    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·
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    We had a large bridal party and I have no regrets at all. My bridesmaids were 6 friends and my SIL. Then I had my husband's 2 younger half sisters as junior bridesmaids and his other half-sister as a flower girl with my little cousin. My other little cousins was a ring bearer and the last 2 were junior groomsmen. Then my husband had his brother, my brother and 4 friends as groomsmen.

    It was really important to us to have our family involved as well as our best friends. It added up to a lot of people but it truly wasn't difficult or stressful.

    My advice is pick people, not a number. Ask yourselves who you really want up there with you and that's who you pick, doesn't matter how many, doesn't matter if your sides are even or not.

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    We didn't pick a number and then find people to fill it. We each picked our nearest/dearest family and friends without any thought to how many there were. I feel like it should be an obvious group!

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  • Kelley
    Dedicated May 2020
    Kelley ·
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    Lol I'm extremely organized, so that definitely helps! Also hoping to score some good deals on black friday to save money for gifts for everyone. It is a lot to coordinate though, especially when 4 of them live out of state!

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  • Toya
    Savvy April 2020
    Toya ·
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    Congratulations on your Union . Lets just say mine started out as small but somehow grew in a matter of months the best part about it is its on a beach so space is not a concern LOL ...

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  • Toya
    Savvy April 2020
    Toya ·
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    Our Wedding is not big or small a little in between I think I have my sisters and my sister in law which makes 4 standing next to me and my Honey has family and friends standing next to her equaling the same. One ring bearer and one flower girl. I will be given away by my brother who will walk me to my father to take me to my bride I wanted them both to stand for me. I have the beautiful scenery of the beach behind me and that is just enough to make me happy.

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