sister or best friend as maid of honor

I say whomever YOU want to be the MOH. This is your wedding so plan it as you want and choose the people whom you want in it. FH can choose with you on some parts. But for this subject it is your choice and your choice only!

You know there is no rule that says that you can't have two MOHs. I am having a Maid (my 12 year old niece) and a Matron (my best friend) along with two bridesmaids. We also have two Best Men (my husband's best friend and my 18 year old nephew) along with two groomsmen. I LOVE it. If they are both close to you then ask them both.

I like LuckyinLove's idea, since we are doing exactally the same thing! I am having my sister as my matron of honor and my best girlfriend as my maid of honor. My fiance's having his brother and his best friend as his bestmen. My mom thinks that is just silly, but I say to each his own! I just could not choose one over the other and feel okay with that, so I think you should do whatever you feel comfortable with.

I think if its to hard of a choice pick both and give them both things to do and neither one feels left out. good luck to u

I agree, there is nothing wrong with having 2 MOH's. I would consider doing that. Good luck

Awesome idea! I would always say the sister because of family ties, but I totally understand the BF. I would have two MOH because it doesnt leave anyone out and the BF can help the sister! Working together!

I have 2 sisters and 4 brothers... my older sister lives in a different state and my younger sister stresses out easy. I choose 1 of my brothers so, I am having a MAN of honor. When I picked him he cried and couldn't believe I wanted him! And one niece as a jr. brides maid. I have seen the two MOH and it worked out great.

I was in the same situation. However I chose my sister. My best friend understands and I gave her the title of "secret maid of honor". But like everyone said its your wedding you choose who you want!

Or you can just call them both bridesmaids. Being that they are both special to you in their own way there is no need to highlight one over the other.

If you don't have them both I'd pick your sister. I'm much closer to my best friend and we talk a lot more, but family is first for me so my sister will be standing beside me.

For many the MOH is a huge title responsability.. they feel they have to do it all, well untrue. You go with your heart not what people say and do. For this is your day and your FH's day. You both decide. My daughters are both MOH and also giving me away. They mean the world to me and to have them be with me and standing with me is a dream come true. For I am doing the work, no one stresses but me. and that for me just fine....

I chose my bf of 15 years over my sister, we are extrememly close. But if the decision is to hard..... I agree pick them both.

Thanks guys for all your input. i really like the idea of having the both of them as my moh. i can't wait to tell the the news.

Do you just have the one sister? I have 2 sisters, so my BF is my maid of honor and my sisters are my bridesmaids because I couldnt choose between them.

Go with a maid of honor

and a matron of honor

why not have two moh?!

if you need to choose one, just choose your friend....your sister can still make a speech for you at the wedding reception in addition to the official moh. all the glory without all the work.

Kristen I love the "secret maid of honor" title. My first thought was to do the matron and maid of honor. I was a bridesmaid in my girlfriends wedding and she didn't have any titles. We were all bridesmaids and equally helped and were of equal importance...it wouldn't have mattered to me either way but I loved it! We all go dressed together and everything it was so drama free and wonderful! I feel your pain tho because I have a blended family... don't want to have 1 sis and not the other and on and on. FH wants no attendants so we'll see Good luck!

My best friend couldn't pick between me, her other best friend (who she had been MOH at her wedding), and her two sisters, so she just had us all be bridesmaids. MY friend whispered to me at one point during the wedding planning that I would have been her "real" maid of honor if she hadn't been worried about the others' feelings (who knows maybe she told THEM the same thing) anyway, I wasn't bothered and I understood. So if you don't want to choose, make them both MOH or make everyone BMs! Good luck!

Luckyinlove had a good idea. if you only want one, go with your best friend. sisters usually end up in some sort of fight before the wedding either way, so you might not be able to avoid that. and anyway shell still be in the wedding, and still be included

I feel the same way, my best friend recently got married too and asked me to be the maid of honor... unfortunately i couldn't make it. you should go with your best friend if you feel more comfortable.

I'm having the same issue, I decided to have my BFF and My sister as Co MoHs. My sister will sign the marriage cert. and my bff Sara will stand next to me and help hold my dress while I pee!