Sister declined bridesmaids invite

Asking her with an elaborate gift, in front of everyone is a terrible amount of pressure for many people. This is why people should stop with 'bridesmaid proposals' I'm sorry that this happened to you, but people decline for all sorts of reasons.

Say something to her! I would be devastated and confused if my sister didn't want to be in my bridal party, especially if she didn't even bother to talk to me about it or give me an explanation. Now that you've had time to cool off, you should be honest with her and tell her you are hurt. Your sister, of all people, owes you an explanation especially because you do not have a bad relationship.

I changed my avatar picture.

Seriously - you will get more responses if you don't have the double rings.

Talk to her about it, especially since there is no known bad blood between you. She may have reasons she didn't want to discuss in front of so many people.

What others said about talking to your sister.

Also it's totally fine to have uneven sides. Don't find a replacement bridesmaid.

I would not put the gf in the wedding party just to fill a spot. It should be people that you are close to. Talk to your sister. She may just feel that she can't do as much for your wedding as she would want to if she were to accept. FWIW, my only sister isn't even coming to my wedding. Decided she has something better to do.

I know how you feel. I had two friends I asked that said no and it really hurt at the time.

That sucks, but it's better she tell you now than later. It also must have been awkward for her to say no in front of so many people. Maybe she just can't afford it? Try not to overthink this.

Don't replace her. Talk to her.

Since she is your sister-you should talk about it. Be understanding and be willing to accept that maybe she won't be in your bridal party for some reason that is currently unknown to you (maybe she is pregnant now!). Don't replace her though. The bridal party does not have to be even and it would probably go a long way with your sister to tell her that a spot is always open for her by your side on your wedding day.

Also-change your avatar from rings. You'll get more responses

I reached out to all my siblings to ask if they would want to be involved in my wedding, and if they did how they would like to be involved. 2 said YES- that they would love to stand up, 1 said that he would do whatever I wanted him to, and one didn't respond. When I told him that we could talk at Christmas he didn't show up.

It sucks. It hurts. I'm sad about it but know that people have things going on in their lives that make it hard/impossible to stand by our sides when we say I Do.

I'd rather know today that they don't want to stand up and have us work on our relationship (if that is needed) rather than have them say Yes and it drive a rift in our relationship.

I know it's hard that she said no in front of everyone. Nothing can erase that pain, but the most important thing is your relationship with your sister. If you were close enough to ask her to stand up, you are close enough to have an honest conversation with her (not around anyone else) about why she declined. At that conversation you get to decide what side of yourself you are going to show her. Love and support in whatever she is going through that she doesn't want to stand up or resentment in the fact that she won't stand by your side. The choice is yours.

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Sorry that happened to you, but she might feel as hurt as you do. Someone else mentioned all the pressure of the proposal that could be it. I think talking to your sister alone would be best. She is probably sad about it too.

I understand and can sympathize-- I asked my BFF, and she declined (she had a VERY good reason, being in Nepal while I live in CA, so that is a HUGE difference, I'm guessing). For a few weeks after I got her letter declining, I really just wasn't into my wedding at all. As others have said, she may have her own reasons for declining, and talking to her about it is the way to go. I promise, as overwhelming as it seems now, you will get past it and be able to enjoy your wedding.

Eek talk to her alone. Don't just add someone if you aren't completely comfortable with them. Good luck hun.

Definitely talk to your sister. Sometimes people have personal stuff going on that they just have not divulged. You may find that she wants to be involved in other ways.

I know exactly how you're feeling. My sister doesn't want to be my MOH or BM. Try talking to her alone about it. If she still declines then at least you tried. We're having uneven sides because of it and that's fine. Don't replace her just to have even sides.

And if she still declines, still invite her to things like dress shopping. My sister told my mom how upset she was I didn't tell her when we were going bridesmaids shopping.

That's a bummer and I sympathize with you. My sister was pregnant when I got engaged. We moved our date back so the baby would be at least three months old for our wedding. There were times I felt like she didn't care about the wedding or was even happy for us. She was, she just had other things on her mind and was going through a life and body change. She came, she walked me down the aisle, and gave a beautiful speech.

Talk to your sister, try to understand her perspective. Hopefully, everything will work out!

I can't even imagine saying no. My sister got engaged after me and is getting married before me. I threw a fit, I'm still not really over it tbh... But when she asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, I couldn't imagine saying no. Yes, I am mad at her now, but 30 years from now I don't want to regret it.

I don't have any new advice for you, I just can't believe how many people have been turned down.

Who is your MH? She could be upset because you didn't ask her to be. I know my sister was a little upset because I didn't ask her to be, but I chose my best friend because I didn't want to have to choose and explain between my sisters and my cousins that are like my sisters. I think you 2 should talk about it, I wish I would have been able to talk with my sister about it then but now it's too late and may not seem sincere...although it is.