Sigh. Why are strip clubs even a thing .. :(

Cosigning @mrsarmstrong

I agree with Cheval here.

And honestly the issues isn't "are you okay with strip clubs or not"

You clearly are not. I don't understand it- but you don't have to justify your feelings to me.

The reality is YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH IT.

Pussy footing around and not communicating well with FH is the issue.

If you make it abundantly clear to him you aren't comfortable and he says- tough titties? that's a problem. A big problem.

The issues is the communication and expectation management.

not the strip club- the strip club is just the catalyst.

(Which- whatever- I don't care- he won't go- he doesn't like to go- I went with some friends- I had a good time but I certainly wouldn't make it a habit of going- and it made him uncomfortable- so I won't/don't)- but the issues is we talked about it.

Strip clubs don't bother me but if it did my FH would respect that. If this is something that really bothers you then you guys need to discuss it and yes I would talk about any and all problems in counseling

My FH is probably going to go to a strip club. His GM are taking him to Vegas and they flat out said "if you have an issue with strip clubs, speak now or forever hold your peace."

I personally don't care since FH has never given me a reason not to trust him, but if he knew it bothered me he probably would tell his friends no. Just talk to him rationally about it.

I've honestly never understood why guys have to get their last hoorah in before they're married. I realize every man/women is going to look at others and be attracted to them, but out of respect for your FS, I don't see why going to a strip club is necessary. Let's just put it this way, my FH knows better than to go to one lol. I hope everything works out for you! Just remember regardless of his decision, he is marrying YOU and loves YOU, not the naked girl dancing on the pole.

Tell him you're uncomfortable with it. Say that he's an adult and can make his own choices, but that you would prefer he not go because it would make you feel uncomfortable and like your feelings are not being considered. I mean, personally, it would tickle me to death if FW went to a strip club because that's just soo not something she would ever be into so it would be fucking hilarious, but I also think your feelings are totally valid.

The thing is, after you've told him this, you have to let him make the choice. If he's more swayed by peer pressure from his friends than by the sincerely held feelings of his fiancee, that's a problem.

To be honest I think you're both being a bit unreasonable and also totally understandable. You're overreacting a little, but he's being insensitive to your feelings, and neither of you are 100% right or wrong.

Just keep talking to each other about it, in a calm way, and try to understand where the other is coming from. What is it that really bothers you the most about him going to the strip club? Why does he not want to cancel even if he doesn't really care about going? See if you can find some sort of compromise. No matter how it goes with this situation you guys will move past it and be totally fine. But, every marriage eventually has to face issues of jealousy, insecurity, finding balance between your friends and your spouse, etc... so it's important to face them and practice working through those issues, communicating with each other and finding compromises!