Sick and tired of HoneyFund

This is the first time i'm seeing people get that upset over it. I'd much rather help someone pay for an incredible experience than a salad spinner they'll never use.

But for the sake of getting the opinion, if a registry states "Please don't feel obligated but if you would like to purchase a gift for us, we are registered at *specific store* or asking for funds to help pay for our honeymoon." Is this tacky to all of you too? We live in an age of minimalism and a lot of people don't want a bunch of extra stuff in their houses, and most couples already live together before getting married so they don't need a wedding registry to furnish their house, they've already got all the small appliances they need.

I think honeymoon funds are a lovely idea.

We used one for our wedding, using flyustothemoon.com, as we already live together for a few years and have all the household appliances. Having money to got on our dream honeymoon to japan was really important to us! we'll probably never have the chance again in our lives.

This is a really old thread, but I do have something to add. Just recently here on WeddingWire there was a poster that bought an "experience" for someone for their honey fund. The couple never took the honeymoon, and that guest was kind of put out by that. Honeyfund is deceptive. The guests think they're paying for a meal or experience, but honeyfund just cuts a cheque minus 10% or something. So if anyone is using Honeyfund, make sure you do the things that were gifted to you. What if the gift giver wants to see photos of your river rafting adventure they gifted to you but you took the cash and didn't do it? Just something to think about.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Although many people do not give cash gifts by default, it is up to the guest to decide whether they buy from the registry or not. We need to go back to the mindset of people having the event they can afford to finance themselves: whether a wedding or honeymoon

My FSIL is getting married this year, 1.5 months after me, and she has a HoneyFund. I looked through the option for donations as they have no other registry. I don't know if my thoughts on it are because I know what their financial situation is like compared to me and my FH, but I was really bothered that they had everything listed-- down to helping pay for their DINNERS. They are having a very expensive wedding, can afford to, but are now asking their guests to pay for every little thing on their honeymoon? I thought that was a little rude.

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Just FYI they don't really get a dinner, they just get the amount minus 10% in a cheque. So you're not gifting them what you think you are.