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Should i not wear a wedding dress

Addy, on October 10, 2018 at 3:36 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 32
My mother just asked me if I am wearing a bride/wedding dress or reg dress for my wedding. Little background story
This is my second wedding, I got married at 21 pregnant and the whole planning was done by my mom. Well mainly her...I got divorced about 2.5 yrs ago. I did not want a reception, mainly becaude my family is not supportive and no one on either seems happy. I will be 29 I feel I am not as young as a qst time bride but it is my wedding and its my fianc茅's 1st wedding he santed to go all out. Is it tacky for me to wear a wedding dress(NOT WHITE THOUGHT). Should I just cancel the reception and elope...馃槶

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Latest activity by Kiwibride, on October 12, 2018 at 12:56 AM
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    There is nothing wrong with wearing a wedding dress... i get the color thing but i think u should have fun with this and enjoy what will soon be your new life... just take a deep breath and think about what u want...
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  • A
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    Wanted a champagne/rose gold undertone od something like that. I am getting so much negative vibe from them
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  • ThatGirl
    Super January 2019
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    You wear whatever you want! Wear a snow white ballgown if it makes you happy! When I got engaged my mom did the same thing - it's my 2nd marriage and I will be 41 at the time of the wedding - ancient next to you ;-) lol... My mom gave me all kinds of grief about wearing a gown, having a bridal party, etc... It made me feel TERRIBLE... but I just kept planning and relying on friends and the WW community to get me thru it... it's 10 months later and I am happy to say my mom came around... she's really excited now and happy for FH and I. There's no telling if your mom will come around or continue to be difficult, but I speak from experience when I say "this day is about you and your finance" Don't worry about what others say so long as you are happy. Good luck!

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  • Katelyn
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    Not at all! Wear a dress girl have the day you both deserve!
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  • Official Mrs.K
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    Girl- get the dress YOU want. Honestly if we went by the old traditional 鈥渞ule鈥 of wearing white you would probably not be seeing too many white gowns. This wedding should be about the joining of lives between you and your FH. There is no reason that you cannot wear a wedding dress unless you don鈥檛 want to wear one.

    Unfortunately families may not always be supportive of what we want but you have to remember which is more important; you and your FH鈥檚 happiness or your families'.
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  • Lisa
    Devoted October 2018
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    Wear what you want, have the wedding you want, celebrate you and your FH the way YOU want. Don't let anyone else's opinion matter.

    I was married for 18 years. I've been divorced 6. I am having my second (and FH second) wedding - and we are doing it all - a ceremony and reception just like we wanted. We are having a wedding to celebrate our love and our past has no bearing on that at all.

    I go multiple comments from people about "was I having a "real" wedding and the whole thing" my response was yes - I am celebrating my love for FH the way we want because we deserve to celebrate us.

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  • MrsD
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    Wear the dress!!! If you go off that logic, anyone who isn't a virgin shouldn't wear a white dress...and that would eliminate quite a few brides haha! Do whatever you want.

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  • A
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    Thank you ladies. It's so hard feeling happy when the whole family seems to be against this. Even planning I feel so sad with them acting this way. My FH tells me I should not care. I try but then they make their comments and my heart sinks again.
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  • Ashley
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    Do you want to wear a wedding dress? If so, you should wear it. Just because you are getting married for a second time doesn't make you any less of a bride. Wear whatever you want- big white dress, pantsuit, jeans- whatever makes you feel good!

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  • MD
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    So not tacky! Afterall, it still is a wedding. I think it's truly up to you and what you would feel more comfortable in.

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  • MrsV1027
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    This is my 2nd wedding and you better believe I'm wearing a wedding dress, veil and tiara. My first wedding was the classic love story of girl gets pregnant guy proposes girl loses baby and they get married 2 weeks later to prove we weren't getting married because of the baby story. Yeah that turned out well...so this time is more real to me.

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  • Rachel
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    You should do what you and your FH want. Who cares if it鈥檚 your second marriage? If you want a huge white wedding gown, with all the bells and whistles, get it!!! Don鈥檛 downplay just because this is your second time around. This was my second marriage as well, and we went all out, and had a great time! I would not discuss and wedding plans with your family if they are going to be negative. You don鈥檛 need that in your life!
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
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    This is my second wedding. I was young and pregnant the first time as My mom was kind of the same way this time but, I don't care. I'm happy. I'm paying and she seems way more excited now that it is closer.

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    Who cares that you were married before. I was married twice, my first wedding with at he JP living room. The second I had a big wedding with the dress, reception, etc. Have the wedding that you want and stop letting others get to you. I know that your moms opinion usually weighs on us but dont let her get to it. As for your dress, white doesn't mean anything anymore or if you want to wear white do, if you want another color than do that. Please go ahead and have the wedding and reception and party on!!!!

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    Thanks ladies. I hope she comes around. It does hurt as she should be happy I am happy.
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  • AF412
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    2nd time bride here, pushing 40 years old, with 2 kids, and you better believe I'll have a white gown and a full blown reception. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. You have my support!


    Champagne & Rose Gold are beautiful gown colors.

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    Thank you Smiley smile. I have been feeling so down. Needed some moral support. Thanks ladies.
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  • Mrs. S
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    I think you should wear a dress in white if you want and have a reception. No reason not to celebrate your new life.
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  • earias
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    Wear whatever you want and have the wedding you want! This was a 2nd marriage for both of us and we are both in our 40s. We went all out and I had my dress and veil custom made. It doesn't matter how many times you've been married. This is a celebration of the love between your FH and you!

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    Beautiful dresses
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