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Should i not wear a wedding dress

Addy, on October 10, 2018 at 3:36 PM

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My mother just asked me if I am wearing a bride/wedding dress or reg dress for my wedding. Little background story This is my second wedding, I got married at 21 pregnant and the whole planning was done by my mom. Well mainly her...I got divorced about 2.5 yrs ago. I did not want a reception, mainly...
My mother just asked me if I am wearing a bride/wedding dress or reg dress for my wedding. Little background story
This is my second wedding, I got married at 21 pregnant and the whole planning was done by my mom. Well mainly her...I got divorced about 2.5 yrs ago. I did not want a reception, mainly becaude my family is not supportive and no one on either seems happy. I will be 29 I feel I am not as young as a qst time bride but it is my wedding and its my fianc茅's 1st wedding he santed to go all out. Is it tacky for me to wear a wedding dress(NOT WHITE THOUGHT). Should I just cancel the reception and elope...馃槶

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  • earias
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    Thank you!
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  • Stephanie
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    Do whatever makes you happy and forget the negative nacys telling you otherwise. If you want a wedding dress, wear a wedding dress. If you want it to be white, black, ranibow unicorn, let it be so.

    The most important thing is that the 2 of you are happy, whether its your 1st wedding or your 4th wedding shouldnt change anything because the two of u are making the commitment to share your life together
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Wear whatever makes you happy! It鈥檚 your wedding day for you & your fianc茅 to celebrate any way you want!!! Plan the wedding you want and you鈥檒l never regret it (versus trying to please others). If your family throws a fit or decides not to go, that鈥檚 sad but too bad for them.

    It was my 1st wedding in my 40鈥檚 and I wore a white ball gown. So happy. Because it was my hubby鈥檚 2nd wedding, he didn鈥檛 need a church wedding which didn鈥檛 fit us anyway. We had a blast.
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  • Phelicia
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    No who said it was. It YOUR DAY and you can do what you want..
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  • Kate
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    This is my 2nd wedding and I am absolutely wearing a gown. The day is about you and your SO, you do what makes YOU happy!
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  • MrsRies&Love
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    WEAR A WEDDING DRESS! Actually, do absolutely everything that you want to do. It's your wedding. Not hers.

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  • Jennifer
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    Wear whatever you want to wear. It was my second wedding I wore white (well ivory). Don't let anyone tell you what you should wear that is totally up to you and only you. If you don't want to wear it then don't. This wedding is about two people you and your FH.

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  • Mrs. J
    Expert October 2018
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    The rule is so dated. This is YOUR day, and I'm sure FH wants to see you in a beautiful gown. Go for whatever you want!! Don't let your prior marriage affect this marriage, these are totally separate occasions and you deserve to feel special! Plus 29 is not even an old bride, I think early 30s is the average age of brides anyway. Smiley smile

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  • J
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    Wear what you and FI want. My second marriage I wanted a Maggie Sottero that was white lace over pale gold. I did not want the attached train, so factory order to level hem back of skirt, and send train not attached to dress. Dressmaker made it a detachable train from back midriff. I wanted to dance out on the stone patio with it off not bustled, though, didn't avoid permanent train because I thought it a first wedding thing. I simply wanted the on or off at different times feature. No comments, directly or heard via the grapevine, from either family or friends, about wedding dress not being appropriate. Get what you want, and enjoy it.
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
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    You do what you want and do not let anyone make you feel bad about your choices!

    This is my second marriage as well. Here is my dress. While not traditional, I think it looks fairly bridal.

    Should i not wear a wedding dress 1

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  • Cheryl&rock
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    It is "your" wedding 1st or 10th! What do "you" want to do? How do "you" picture it? You can wear any color wedding dress "you" want.

    Who is paying for the wedding? You stated your FH wants to go all out! How do "you" feel about it?

    No one but you and your FH should say what you can have or dress like on "your" wedding day, unless they are footing the bill.

    People tick me off when they are so negative about something that should be a very happy time.

    Also, you are by no means "not young as a 1st time bride"! Age is not important!

    It is not tacky for you to wear a wedding dress!!!! Don't let anyone tell you it is. And if you want white for the "purity" of your love for him, go for it!

    Congratulations and do your thing!!!!!

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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
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    You're a bride, that means you get to look bridal! Also, wear whatever colour you want to. If you want another colour then go for it, but white wedding dresses were a symbol of wealth, not your purity. That symbolism has nothing to do with it being your second marriage except that you're now older and potentially wealthier than at 21 馃槂
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