Should I invite step daughter to wedding

I think if you both agree with not inviting them then don't and just leave it at that.

I mean I would feel bad bc it's her father but at the same time she did so a lot of shit to you guys I would be stuck go forbid she steals money or envelopes at the wedding

I think that's the father's choice to have his daughter there or not. If he is uncomfortable with the idea of having them there and is okay not inviting them, then do what's best.

First, I feel like this more of a decision for your FH. Also, not inviting HIS OWN child will likely ruin any chance of repairing the relationship and creating a positive parent-child relationship. Inviting one child and not the other just further adds insult to injury.

She needs to be invited. Sorry.

If my father hadn't invited me to his wedding I don't think I'd ever forgive him. And he got married 12 years ago. That's a big moment to be left out of. And she's a 16 year old girl who is very possibly struggling with her dad getting married and with him living far away.

FutureMrsPerk?

My brother was not invited to our father's wedding due to various behavioral/mental health issues and their relationship has never recovered. It pretty much destroyed the last smidge of relationship they had. This is something that will most likely have serious consequences.

She needs to be invited. While she may be difficult now, their future relationship will suffer. What will happen once she out grows being 16. When it's her turn to get married or when she has kids (his grandkids). He is going to want a relationship with her then. But if she isn't invited to his wedding then it may do irreversible damage. And he will regret it later.

The daughter needs to be invited imo.

I think you have to invite her. I would never have forgiven my dad if he had not invited me to his wedding.

Does CM stand for child's mother? Unless I'm reading this wrong, it sounds like you're inviting one child and their mother and not the other child and their mother. Why do you need to invite the mothers? Both children should be invited but there's no requirement you need to invite their mothers aka the exes.

The daughter needs to be invited. You don't do that, whatever the reason.

Good luck weeding in peace. When I weed I always make sure the kids aren't included either.

You are about to be her step mother. How would you feel if your FH didn't like your child? Sure the mother might be a raging bitch...don't invite her. Maybe the daughter is disrespectful because of her mom. She is a child and if you cut out disrespectful teens then you will only find a handful of teens that ARE respectful (and even then they will have their moments). Daddy not being with mom and being with a different woman is hard to kids sometimes... especially if the other parent doesn't try and help to make it work. I think you should invite her because she is his child and is about to be yours.

This is horrible. Yes, you should invite his children to his wedding.

I think the girl should be invited... if my dad got remarried and I wasn't invited, I would really be hurt.

I can't believe you're actually considering NOT inviting his *CHILD*. I can understand the mom... but if the child still has contact with him, and is apart of his life, then she has to be invited. End of story. You marry the man, you marry the child. They are a *package* deal. So you need to get over yourself on your day, and deal with those that apart of him and vice versa.

Seriously though...imo...she needs invited! That will be your step daughter! FH needs to extend the invite.

All teenagers lie and manipulate. Why punish her for her mother's mistake? And his baby momma being at your wedding is a little weird imo ...but to each it's own.

It does come across as you're wanting your FH to chose between you and his child. She's 16, she will be older one day and hopefully grown out of this behavior. Don't setup a situation that could ruin any chance of a relationship between a father and daughter. This is a situation that definitely needs to be dealt with.