Should I Invite my father to the wedding?

Maybe you could meet up and test the waters. Try to see if forming a relationship again is worth it.

I'll cut to the chase with how I decide: Is he important enough to you to be in attendance on one of the most important days of your life? Really think about it, and if the answer is no, then that's okay.

I don't think we can give you really good advice because we don't know enough about your relationship. Would you be willing to meet up to test the waters? If not and you just sent him an invite, do you think he would come? If he doesn't come, would that have a huge affect on you and how you feel about your wedding? If he does come, I wouldn't seat him with your family members that would just end up being awkward for him.

I would reach out and see if he wants to work on repairing the relationship. You have 9 months until your wedding, you have time to see if he has changed and is willing to try to fix things. If he hasn't and it ends up being more drama than it is worth, don't invite him.

I didn't talk to my dad after my mom divorced him when I was 7 years old. I didn't see him nor talked to him until I graduated college. I still occasionally talk to him and see him once very few months because he wants to, but I honestly don't really care about him and he is just somebody I know rather than a "dad". He found out about my engagement through facebook and he asked if he is invited and I straight up told him no. My mom still does not like him and I don't want to ruin my big day because some people think I should invite my dad. At the end, it is what you want rather than what other people say you should do.

It depends. I didn't invite my half sister and some people didn't approve but I know I don't want her in my life going forward (we haven't spoken in a couple years) so it wasn't an issue to me. Personally, the one thing I will say is I wouldn't have the wedding be the first time you see each other again. There's too much of a variable there and you don't want that happening day of.

My FIL wasn't invited and I've never met him. My husband doesn't speak to him. I asked him if he was OK with his dad not being there and he said yes. It's totally your call and how you feel. I will say, if you want to invite him, I don't think the wedding is the place to have the first reunion. Maybe a dinner or coffee first to see how things go.

I don't have much of a relationship with my father either. Before I saw him while he was on a business trip in Las Vegas I hadn't seen him in 6 years. Nothing bad happened when I saw him, but I decided that I'm not inviting him, it would cause too much stress for me. I hope you figure out what's right for you

I didn't invite my father. No regrets.

If your inclination is 'no', and it's just your FH's insistence that makes you think, "Maybe", don't do it. As much as you love FH and he loves you, he isn't in your shoes and comes to this situation with his own set of baggage.

I was sort of in the same situation. Its up to you completely. I suggest only inviting people you couldn't imagine not being there. I didn't really feel like inviting my mothers side of the family because they never took interest in getting to know me but because she passed away in high school I invited them. I'm not sure if they will come but I did it for my mom not for me. In your case, your the only one that can make that decision.