Shot Glasses with name tags

I have hidden several posts that upset people, hurt feelings and insulted them when that was not my intention. I think that's the right thing to do. As far as advice? I stand by it.

The fact that you can't even figure out the difference between shot glasses and bottles of liquor on the table and people pouring each other a glass of wine?

Weird.

You want to stick with that advice?

Fantastic.

Kathryn I never thought you were being a B. I guess I should have added even though they didn't turn out bad I still would never do that for my own wedding, even if it is tradition in their case. Wine over bottles of hard liquor are the best option and the best advice people have given.

I totally read your post 100% opposite! Lol

I know the difference between shot glasses and bottles of liquor and people pouring each other a glass of wine Celia. I also know what I posted and offered as advice. Yes, I stand by that. The life experiences I have had both personally and as a professional photographer have never entailed tables of grown up doing shots at their tables to the point of what some posters are expecting to have happen.

As a professional posting on a forum, I am able to offer my experience and advice to those who ask without demeaning or namedropping another vendor whose advice I disagree with. That is possible you know ... to get your point across without bringing anyone else into it.

Again Celia, leave me out of your comments.

Okay, now I'm taking out my red internet pen. Jessica, if you can't master the basics of written communication, NOBODY will take you seriously. I'll capitalize all of your mistakes. You should retype your post three times -- correctly. Perhaps that will help you personally or professionally (although having to ask nothing more than "Do you want cheese on that" and "Do you have any coupons?" probably hides your deficiencies).

"We aren't in an English class (ADD A COMMA) so who the hell cares. (THIS IS A QUESTION, NOT A DECLARATIVE STATEMENT. YOU MUST USE A QUESTION MARK AS PUNCTUATION). And (NEVER START A SENTENCE WITH "AND" OR "BUT") no no (A "NO-NO" IS A WAY OF SAYING, "WE DON'T DO THIS". IT DOESN'T MEAN "NOBODY") wins cause (IT'S "BECAUSE" OR "'CAUSE") your (THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE CONTRACTION OF THE WORDS "YOU ARE", SO IT'S "YOU'RE") all dumb. You don't see my points, (TWO DIFFERENT SUBJECTS CONNECTED BY AN "AND" OR AN "OR" IN ONE SENTENCE REQUIRES A COMMA) and apparently (YOU NEED A COMMA AGAIN) I don't see yours (YOU NEED ANOTHER COMMA) so it's stubbornness and stupidity (WHAT IS?). Yea (IT'S "YEAH", AND THEN A COMMA) im (A CONTRACTION OF "I AM". IT NEEDS TO BE CAPITALIZED AND WRITTEN "I'M") still commenting 4 (ONE TO NINE IS WRITTEN IN LETTERS. ANYTHING OVER 10 CAN BE WRITTEN IN THE NUMERICAL FORM) hours later (YOU NEED ANOTHER COMMA) but apparently you are too and everyone else (YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE ARE WHAT? BETTER THAN YOU AT ENGLISH?). This really is a waste of time (ANOTHER COMMA) but boy did it kill time for me. Thank you (SIGH...COMMA) everyone!

Forget about vodka and wine, Jessica. Get yourself a fifth grade English book. Open to page one. Nothing is more irritating than being called stupid by someone who can barely get those words on the screen. Yes, it matters, and the people who don't believe it are...to use your words...the stupid ones.

Kathleen, cut it out. This is an internet forum. Nobody has to leave you out of their opinions if you offer it up for consumption -- not a bride or a vendor.

You gave bad advice. You don't think so? That's fine. I do, and it is my right to say so.

Centerpiece, you cut it out!!!! OMG! I'm laughing right now!!!!!! You are always talking about being professional and offering your advice and experience. I am too. When you post something I disagree with, I am able to make my comment without demeaning yours. That's being a professional. What you and Celia did multiple times on this thread is not professional. I asked you to stop it.

Are you going to?

Goddammit I had to work today and missed all of this! Gaaaaahhhhh!!!!

This one was bad, you also missed someone self catering for 450 people for $350. And I did not leave out a 0. Lol

You must be literally rolling on the floor, Kathleen. Four exclamation points?

No, I am not going to stop highlighting bad advice. If you're talking about photography, I'm backing out. However, what you're talking about is alcohol consumption, and that opens it up to everyone. It is not unprofessional to tell couples that a vendor just gave them bad advice, especially when that advice has nothing to do with their expertise and/or could lead to serious trouble for the couple. There is no way for a bride/groom to monitor the hard liquor intake of every guest who's in arm's length of vodka or whiskey. Will everyone get trashed? No, of course not, but all it takes is one (like the client who told us that a few of her hard liquor, car bar guests -- yes, there was wine on the tables -- smashed a venue window with a chair because...well, nobody was cutting them off in the parking lot and they got polluted. That stuff happens, and I don't want it to happen to anyone on this forum. The safest approach is the one that works and the one that most venues require: a licensed, professional bartender who serves and cuts off).

We're not talking about DIY centerpieces, cash bars, Honeyfunds, your uncle the officiant, or my aunt the amateur photographer. This is about the consumption of hard liquor without controls in place. That's huge, and it's a potential disaster.

If you're offended, so be it. I'd rather you were offended than imagine that any lurker reading this thread would ever consider what this OP, and you, are endorsing.

Welp...All I can say for Jessica...(for those instances you want to reach through your computer screen and bitch slap someone but can't....because physics.)

Any pro, of any specialty, that would endorse shot glass favors with bottles of liquor on the table needs to seriously reconsider giving advice on anything out of their area of expertise. Because it's dangerous. You wanted to know, early on, how that was different that bottles of wine. I believe you got some answers.

I understand Kathleen, that you're insulted. And you decided to call Centerpiece and I out because we hurt your feelings in the process of pointing out what dozens of other people pointed out; that this is a dangerous, potentially deadly idea. There is no sisterhood of wedding pros. The day that I advocate for non pro photographers (because having a good camera is equal to being a good photographer) and the day I tell people to make their own complicated centerpieces (because, hey, it's just flowers and they die anyway) is the day you can tell me to leave you out of my comments.

I really think that pros who bother to come here, whether we're just a little January-bored or feel like it's a way to give back have a sense of responsibility to those who read our comments differently than they would another peer.

If you are going to talk about my posts on a public forum, get it right Celia and Centerpiece. For convenience I posted every single one of my posts for yours and the rest of the forum's convenience. ...

Hi masmer! I'm going to assume that you know your guests better than I and would appreciate something like this. Perhaps the glasses could have multiple purposes. Have them set up on a table to be used as seating/table numbers. Inside each glass or tied to each glass could be the person's name and table number. Or at the table each place setting could have a glass with a sweet note put in it and at each table a small bottle of liquor ... lemoncello (sp?), whiskey, etc. and that could be used during toasts. I have a friend who collects shot glasses, has been for 30 years, and selects one to use during special occasions. A number of her guests take a look to see which shot glass she is using and thus a conversation ensues around the glass, how she got it, etc etc.

Congrats and cheers to you and your fiancé!!!

How is providing a bottle of liquor at each table any different that providing bottles of wine at each table?

Yes, liquor is stronger than wine. Let's take a look at aaaaaaaaaaaaaaall those posts and comments about how the adult guests should be able to moderate themselves and that it's proper and good etiquette for the Bride and Groom to host a proper wedding ............. because it's liquor and not wine does not mean opinions should change on how to "adult" and host.

Those poo-pooing the hard liquor are assuming the worst of guests behavior. And having mixers at each table would be unnecessary if using a shot glass properly.

Any event serving any kind of alcohol could turn into a shit show. IMO, having any kind of self serve alcohol at a table is a liability BUT it's no different to me if it's bottles of wine or a shot(s). I'm going to trust that the bride knows her crowd and is comfortable with the risks.

I do think that chalk paint would rub off over time and that would drive me up a wall. So your favorite toast printed off and tied with a ribbon around each shot glass would be my vote! The bottle could be passed around, glasses filled and the first toast of the evening is done!

One more comment then I'm done ........ I hope that those who have a problem with letting adults moderate themselves with hard liquor voice their concerns to all the other Brides who post on here about having bottles of wine/champagne at each table. Let's not forget those venues that have servers walking around with trays of wine/champagne all night. I do believe that if the Bride wanted opinions as to how to personalize wine glasses or bottles of wine for each guest, some of these comments would not have been made. The stereotyping of behavior because of the type of glass involved is ridiculous.

masmer, cheers

Celia and Centerpiece, leave me out of your comments. I do not agree with everything you post and I do not call you out on it. State YOUR opinions about what YOU think without name dropping.

Celia, I most certainly do stand by my words. I have yet to hide a post that gets other people up in arms. Unfortunately I can't show that example because you hid all of them. As a vendor and professional I expect more from you.

I know the difference between shot glasses and bottles of liquor and people pouring each other a glass of wine Celia. I also know what I posted and offered as advice. Yes, I stand by that. The life experiences I have had both personally and as a professional photographer have never entailed tables of grown up doing shots at their tables to the point of what some posters are expecting to have happen.

As a professional posting on a forum, I am able to offer my experience and advice to those who ask without demeaning or namedropping another vendor whose advice I disagree with. That is possible you know ... to get your point across without bringing anyone else into it.

Again Celia, leave me out of your comments.

Centerpiece, you cut it out!!!! OMG! I'm laughing right now!!!!!! You are always talking about being professional and offering your advice and experience. I am too. When you post something I disagree with, I am able to make my comment without demeaning yours. That's being a professional. What you and Celia did multiple times on this thread is not professional. I asked you to stop it.

Are you going to?

Again Ladies ... stop it.

Yawn...you stated your argument, and you made your point, Kathleen. I'm far more interested in highlighting the hazards of such an ill-conceived proposition than I am with finding common ground with you. I think Celia put it succinctly when she said there is no sisterhood of vendors. Your opinion resonated with a small minority of posters (double ring brides, IIRC). The majority of posters/responsible adults seem to believe that you are on the wrong side of this issue. So be it.

Cheers, and goodnight.

I'm fine being in the minority and I am happy to offer my opinion to "double ring brides". I'm not wanting a sisterhood with you or Celia nor do I care to be on common ground. I'm not looking for your approval. I offered my opinion and stand by it without taking anyone down. That's being a pro.

I still don't think you read all my posts ...

It seems this thread has long since passed, and I don't know if OP will even come back, but FH and I went to a wedding with glasses as favors. All they had was our names written on a tag tied around them. Super cute and EVERYONE kept them. I don't know how easy this would be with a shot glass, but something to consider.

I don't care about shot glasses as a favor--I would probably use them at home because I don't have a jigger.

I would DEFINITELY ask your venue about having the bottles on the table, as pps have stated. I think it comes back down to people pouring their own drinks - the same reason you legally have to hire a bartender.

We're doing custom shot glasses for our wedding. They aren't being used but for ppl to bring home. Our crowd is a drinking crowd and most of them like to collect shot glasses. We have a full cabinet of shot glasses that we collect. So do custom shot glasses but don't have ppl use them during the reception.

Wow...I've never seen a thread where vendors are going at it...Lol. There's always a first for everything.

ETA: meme

I know mrs. K, I just was watching.

This is Platinum level drama today!

Don't burn the popcorn, and pass the butter please! ETA: This is all for jokes, don't take offense, and do carry on!