Security and a Guest List?

I would not have a bouncer at a wedding unless I was seriously concerned about a specific violent or unruly person coming uninvited.

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Hey Samantha,

I hear where you're coming from. But how about having the guest list on the ready with someone you trust. Too extreme? Or you'll just trust that those who rsvpd will come and those who didn't won't? I've heard stories of crashers. So paranoid of that. And I'm even more worried about invited fam bringing uninvited people! Yikes!! LOL

View Quoted Comment I guess it’s a know your crowd thing. For my friends and family it’s too extreme. Someone may come with an unexpected guest but I expect at least one no show and we will do our best to accommodate them. If we can’t, there will be place cards and assigned seating so they will realize quickly that there’s nowhere for them to go and I’m okay with communicating to them that they didn’t RSVP so there’s just no space for them. I would be shocked if someone crashed our wedding, but I don’t think we need a designated person to ask them to leave. To me, the guest list at the door makes the atmosphere tense as opposed to celebratory and I just don’t think it’s necessary. But again, you know your crowd better than I do so maybe it’s a good call and you’ll be flooded with unwanted guests.

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I totally hear where you're coming from. I guess it truly is a know your crowd thing. I just don't want random guests coming that weren't invited and I can totally see this happening. But whoever rsvpd will have a seat and whoever didn't won't.

View Quoted Comment That’s totally fair.

So our DOC will be greeting people as they enter the reception and pick up their escort cards. There’s no extra seats so no escort card= no place to put you. I’m not super worried about this though.

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Hey Sarah,

That's interesting. I've never explored the escort cards. What exactly is it's purpose? Does it have each individual's name on it, and their table number?

View Quoted Comment Yeah, essentially they’re take the place of a big seating chart. Each guest will have one with their name and table number on it.

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Wow, that is so cool!! I might consider this! It's a lot less... dramatic and perfectly acceptable. And makes a lot of sense too! Thank you so much for that

I’m having both, but a big reason is that our wedding is in downtown LA and will have a pretty noticeable event entrance so I don’t want random people wandering in. I think if you’re more comfortable having security/someone checking a list you should totally do it!

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Hey Chelsea!!

Oh yeah, I totally understand why you'd want some extra help to avoid random folks. Thank you so much for your input

In my culture we have a sign in table where bridesmaids or groomsmen stand and help escort the guests to their tables or help just like direct the crowd. So in my case they also helped tell people where their seats are and if their name wasn't on the list then that'd be how we'd know.

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Wow, that's really interesting. But, were you met with this issue? Did anyone show up unexpectedly at your wedding?

Hi Andrea, are you hosting at a venue where people are likely to come by without invitation? Or is it just something you’re worried about?

Hi Andrea, I spoke to my coordinator about how she would manage people who aren’t on the rsvp list and showed up. She informed me she would check in with me first as sometimes people get missed on the list and if in fact they are not invite she and the venue would kindly inform the person they are not on the list. I’m having my coordinator manage this and yes I’ll have the guests list st the door and guests wkll
collect their table place holder from the coordinator after being checked in.

I am having a couple of people do this. Anyone who was not invited will not be allowed to enter. Anyone who did not RSVP will not be allowed to enter. I have made it clear to the people I have invited that if they don't RSVP they will be welcomed anymore. I am giving a list of people who RSVP'ED to the selected people. I am also giving reminders for RSVP'ING as well.

Anyone is welcome to attend the ceremony. However, if they failed to RSVP, then they will NOT eat.

I text my Hostesses last week about that.

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Hey Megan,

It doesn't really have much to do with the venue, it's more just a worry for me!

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Hi Folake,

That sounds like a great plan and set up. Thank you so much for your feedback