Save the Dates

You could send a save the date evite. I wouldn’t post anything on Facebook because I doubt you’re inviting all your Facebook friends.

Right. I just don't have everyones email addresses.

View Quoted Comment Then you could ask for peoples email address or you could skip them. I don’t think they are necessary if your guests are mostly local. Or you can reach out to the out of town guests individually to tell them.

I bought mine via zazzle, super cute and inexpensive.

I am skipping save the dates too! I just created a private Facebook event, so I can post updates and what-not, and I shared the link to our wedding wire website. Pretty much everyone we are inviting has Facebook, except for some of our older relatives. We will be mailing out official invitations next spring/early summer, so guests will have plenty of time to RSVP.

I like that idea.

I dont think posting it on facebook is a bad idea. I have always been told just because people recieve a save the date doesnt mean they will get an invitation in the end. because of guest list cuts or whatever. Plus facebook friends that you dont actually know or that you never talk to anymore should not assume just because they saw the save the date on facebook means that they get to come. But that is just my feelings towards it

I think save the dates are really only necessary for destination weddings. You’ll always have someone who has to travel, but you don’t need to get them just because of a few people. You can always verbally tell people. A Facebook message or invite is always an option. I created a Facebook group page for my wedding to update people on travel details as mine is a destination wedding. Just keep in mind not everyone is on Facebook and not everyone who is checks it often.

You would need to restrict the post to only those that you actually want to attend.

I did a save the date through email to save time and money since we booked our date only 7 weeks out. It's a Friday so I needed my family to know asap to arrange their work schedules. I found this calendar by typing free printable calendars on Google and mocked it up on paint. There's lots of free options out there!

I'd guess you'll need to ask for your guests' physical addresses, so you could always get a jump on that and also ask for an email address, and then send STDs via email.

I wouldn't post on social media unless you are inviting every single one of your social media friends. I would send an evite and collect everyone's email address.

You can do evites

View Quoted Comment Actually the opposite is true: if someone gets a save the date, they MUST be invited ( unless they have done some recent violent thing, or breaking major laws. ) And the other standard pieces of etiquette, in all settings including weddings. You do not post things about any invitation only party in a place where they will be seen by those not invited. And, you do not have a conversation about an invitation only party, where those not invited can hear or see it. So on Facebook, only okay if every single person who has access to that page, is guaranteed to be invited . . . People who know that is standard etiquette, who see it, may assume they are invited.

View Quoted Comment Until Save the dates were invented and came into use, about 15 years ago, everyone did what about half of all people still do now. Give advance information to those who need it to schedule for a vacation to travel, or to travel long distances, get Visas, etc. Or to essential people, your parents, very closest friends. Make a phone call, send an email, write a standard note or post card, or letter. If you do not know phone, email, or address, ask the person, and say why. You will need the address for shower invitations, and for you to write a thank you for each gift or service ( shower, wedding, could be 1-4thank you notes).
And you need to know the address for anyone they are dating seriously, of fiancé. You should also say, please write out the title and name you prefer we use for letters, cards, and place cards. It really matters to many people, whether Mr., Miss, MS. , Mrs. or Dr. .And there are other titles you may not know, political or religious. So ask once , for any email, phone, it address, and proper title. individually, and if a married couple, do they prefer Mr. And Mrs. John Smith, or Mr. John Smith and Dr. Jean Smith, or Ms. Abbey Abba and Dr. John Smith. People are very particular, and you do not want to repeat a mistake 4-5 times .

We asked for everyone’s email address and sent them a regular email with a pretty photo. Our friends did the same thing three years prior and said it was a great way to collect mailing addresses.
Everyone responded to ours (70 guests) and some thought it was also an invite even though we said save the date in the subject and email. We didn’t have any problem with older guests in their late 60-70s either, everyone was able to view the Save the Date and respond to us.
So I would say either use your email or use paperless post both are great ways on getting info out and saving money!

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Awesome. Thanks