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MrsPej
VIP October 2015

RSVPs via text/facebook/snapchat??

MrsPej, on August 6, 2015 at 10:48 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

I'm really excited because we sent out our invitations last week, and people are starting to get them!! We included RSVP cards/envelopes/postage, but also gave the option of RSVP-ing through the WW website we created. I've gotten a couple of RSVPs through the website already (not surprisingly, from the two couples who most recently got married haha - they still feel the RSVP pain). BUT I've also had people send me snapchats, text messages and FB messages, in which they say things like - can't wait to celebrate with you, ya we'll definitely be there, etc. Do I consider these "RSVPs"? Or should I wait for them to RSVP in one of the formal ways? This is probably a stupid question but honestly I don't know lol.


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Latest activity by Michael, on January 6, 2025 at 5:22 PM
  • MrsPej
    VIP October 2015
    MrsPej ·
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    There is no meal choice, just asked people to indicate dietary restrictions.

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  • Beth
    Master May 2015
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    I don't like texts or FB messages for RSVPs but I accepted them...though I always messaged back "Can you send back the card so I have an official count? Thanks!" However...people are sending snaps? That's a whole other story. That's not okay for an RSVP...especially since it disappears. You have no record of it unless you screenshot it.

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  • stacedeezy
    Devoted September 2015
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    I would just take that as an official RSVP-- or just ask, to confirm. We have plated dinners, so if people don't RSVP properly...they're not getting food. Oops!

    However, I'm being pretty lenient about RSVPs. I told my wedding party if they just want to tell me what they want to eat, they can just text me. One of them was like, "NO! I want to mail this out the right way!" lol. So sweet.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
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    I accepted texts and FB RSVPs. Some of them still sent the cards back, some didn't.

    And some who sent the cards back no-showed. So I think flexibility is ok.

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  • Princess Consuela
    Master November 2015
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    I would definitely accept those, but I would say the same as Beth. I can be sort of rigid, and would still want the cards just because I do. And I stamped those bitches, so stop being a lazy turd.

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  • Mrs. Nicole
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    Snapchat? Well that's fucking new...

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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
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    I got a message via FB messenger this morning at 7am from a friend's girlfriend who said she thought she mailed their RSVP card back, but then found it lying in the bushes near her front door this morning, and maybe the mailman dropped it? She then said to go ahead and mark them down as coming because they will definitely be there. 10 bucks says I won't get the card back and I really doubt she actually mailed it the first time-she is flaky. I just went ahead and marked them down as a yes. (sigh)

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  • MrsPope
    Master September 2015
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    I get these too but I always "Be sure to send your rsvp back so I can count you!"

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  • Mrs. Hunnibear
    Master October 2015
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    I have been accepted them in any way they'll send them to me, hell they are letting me know if they can or cannot make it. That's all that matters to us lol. But snaps.... now that's a new one lol

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  • Emily O.
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    The only RSVPs I would accept that way would be from a family member or person of the wedding party who I knew was going to be there anyway. Otherwise, I would want their RSVP card. I don't plan to use online RSVP, if you're using online RSVP I suppose text or fb message would be the same, but I'm the kind of person who has to have something in front of me to count it.

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  • Future Mrs S
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    Oh so many RSVP woes to look forward to when I reach that point.....

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    I would not consider those RSVPs.

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  • MrsPej
    VIP October 2015
    MrsPej ·
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    Lol ya the snapchat was just a photo of our invitation with a "WOOOO!!!" typed out lol.

    Good advice guys - I will message them back and ask for them to either RSVP on WW or send the card back so I can "officially" count them in.

    Thanks ladies!

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  • Heidi
    Expert September 2016
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    I would say something along the lines of, "That's great! Would you please send me your card, or rsvp on the website so I can add you to the official count?"

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
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    Lol I love that there was a snapchat one!

    We also got text and FB ones, bah. Only one of the text ones turned out to be not true (or at least he didn't show up). All the other ones did show up, though we did reply by asking "so we'll assume you're RSVP-ing yes, right?"

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  • Brittany
    Super September 2015
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    I usually answer along the lines of, "Awesome! Send back the card. Can't wait to see you there."

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  • M
    Super August 2015
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    We had one after the deadline, no card in the mail. So we messaged her to ask for her count, she said she just mailed it and had added a person... We still haven't gotten the card in the mail a week later and that added person was shut down really quick.

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  • Ostrich
    Master April 2016
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    I would count them unless you say something like you're still waiting for an official form. Honestly if you're allowing for electronic RSVPs i don't see this much differently. Coming from a married person, just be glad they RSVPd at all, hunting down people via text/facebook/snapchat a month before your wedding is not ideal.

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  • M
    Devoted August 2015
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    I was so worried about those darn Rsvps that I insisted I would only mark people as coming if they mailed them back. Well, after only receiving 20/51, I went into IDGAF mode and counted people any way they'd respond. I had people tell FMIL they were coming, so I counted them, because I gave up on ever hearing from them. IDGAF about anything at this point. Come, or don't come. I'm wearing my dancing shoes no matter what. lol

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  • FormerUser
    Master July 2015
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    I said something like, "Great, can't wait to see you! Will you drop the card in the mail too when you have some time?"

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