RSVP yes and not show?

I certainly wouldn't be attending the not real baby shower. Did she happen to send a card in regards to the no show?

I mean, that was rude of her, but I wouldn't be rude back. Just sort of casually say, "So sorry you missed the wedding! We really wish you could have been there," or something along those lines. That'll get the message across.

I would by a pack of diapers and nothing more. LOL

Trying to give you a good answer and not a petty answer. So hard. Do not go to the baby shower. Rsvp no and offer no explanation. Wait and see.

My petty side would do as Emily K said and not attend. But the correct way to be would be like FutureMrsR suggested and casually bring it up.

I would've asked her in May why she couldn't attend. Especially if I considered them a close friend. I feel like it's too little too late now.

No one needs three baby showers within 5 years. That's petty.

Im a petty betty and would fing be pissed if I payed for her plate and she didnt bother to show up or give an explanation. Im sorry but I would not attend her shower and would not give an explanation why either. Id probably never talk to her again, but like I said Im a petty betty. Weddings cist a lot of money and she committed on coming and just didnt show up...... thats fucked up, rude and mean. Yeah I really dont know where our relationship would stand, especially since she didnt apologize or offer an explanation.

Wow 16 is a LOT. That is unfortunate.

I would find a way to casually ask about it. It will be a very obvious elephant in the room the next time you see her since you're close friends. I can't imagine not bringing it up at all with a friend. Not accusatory, more like "hey we missed you at the wedding, what happened?" I find it odd and rude that she did not offer any explanation to you.

I would decline the baby shower. Three showers is ridiculous. Part of me would want to rsvp yes to the shower and then no-show!

Don't be petty. If she's a good friend as you said, then ask her about it, or at least tell her how she made you feel. Maybe something was going on with her. She was definitely wrong but I'd say don't assume and definitely don't be petty.

Is she throwing her own baby shower? Where I am from, that is as rude.

Anyway: damn straight I'd be bringing up why you didn't come to my wedding without letting me know. And you say 16 guests did that? So rude!

Definitely bring it up.

Go to the shower if you like baby showers, don't if you're over them.

If you do go, get a practical gift like diapers or lotions etc. I'm sure she has enough toys and clothes and paraphernalia.

I think it's rude of people to RSVP and not show. It's a waste if your money and you could have invited some one else. I had a co worker do that. Then a couple days before stared talking about how they changed her schedule and all this other bs.

I'm so petty. I would RSVP the shower and not show.

Wait... your "close friend" never once asked how your wedding was? A wedding that took place TWO MONTHS ago? But she found time to invite you to her shower (all kinds of tacky going on there).

I'd be re-evaluating that relationship.

I wouldn't feel awkward, but disappointed that she didn't show, didn't explain, and doesn't CARE how your wedding day was.

We all have 24 hours in a day, and obviously you aren't a priority for her. Not to be mean, but friends don't treat each other the way she's treated you.

ETA I wouldn't go to that shower, either. Friendship is a two way street.

If it's a friend, I would have asked. Now, I wouldn't really plan to attend anything of hers, nor would I address it. Perhaps you weren't as close friends as you thought. (Sorry! That's just how I would feel...)

Part of me would want to be petty, but at the same time you don't want to stoop to her level.

I'd just decline without explanation. If she asks, just say you're busy and leave it at that. When/if you see her again, I'd just say something casual like "missed you at the wedding!" and see how she responds.

I don't agree with PPs who think you bring it up casually. That's a very passive aggressive approach, which is just bullshit. I would RSVP yes, then seek out a way to let her know (beforehand) that you're hurt about her flaking on your wedding. If she's really a close friend, this is something you should be able to discuss with her. She will most likely apologize, offer some sort of explanation, and everyone will feel better. Problem solved.

Unless she's completely bedridden for the remainder of her pregnancy, that was pretty rude of her. Send her a pack of diapers from amazon with a note card that says, "sorry I missed you at the wedding"

I would have asked pretty immediately after the wedding why she didn't show, but 2 months later that ship has kind of sailed. Even if she did come to the wedding, I'd probably still decline the shower invitation due to it being her third child. That's obnoxious.

I had the same number of people RSVP yes and not come. You know what I did? Nothing. They obviously had something come up or just plain forgot. It happens. They're still my friends.

Just be a grown up and go to the shower. It being her third shower has nothing to do with it. Everyone I know has a shower for every baby. It's kind of expected here.