RSVP versus Actually Count

First, it says your married already...

Second, from your other post...Book based on the number of RSVPs YOU get. Don't go by other numbers because every situation is different and if you under book, it will be EXTREMELY rude if you turn the "extras" away like you said you would.

I'm sure almost every wedding has some no shows who RSVP'd yes. It's bound to happen. It's not the end of the world. But not having enough food or a seat for a guest is very rude.

Desiree, I'm totally with you on that and that's what I tried to explain before. We had a few not show but I'd honestly rather pay for their place, rather than not pay and turn them away when they showed and I didn't think they would.

Http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/married-ladies-how-many-guests/5ba9f522fe75a5b2.html

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/married-ladies-how-many-people-did-you-invite-and-how-many-showed-up/026c64bd6aaed96d.html

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/how-many-people-from-your-guest-list-actually-came-to-your-wedding/9b38526f66317f83.html

There's some posts (you can look up more using the search), but there's no magic formula. You won't know until it happens. Some ladies have had 100% of the RSVPd guests show, I think Cydney and Mrs S both only had 2 people not show up.

First: I love internet stalkers

Second: Having a Ph.D. in science says if I can get an average number I can directly correlate it

Third: If you ACTUALLY read my first post you would realized my hotel is going to over make by 5%. So if I give a number under by 5%, if the people show they will have meals, and if they don't than I don't pay.

Fourth: You can get married Twiced

Fifth: Where are the guys?

If you already know what you're going to do, and can use your PhD to directly correlate a number, why are you asking us?

I still don't understand why you'd even risk the possibility of embarassing your wife/fiancee, but if that's what you want to do, that's a fight you'll have to take up with her.

Just let us know a. if anyone does show up that you weren't expecting, b. if you really tell them they weren't worth the money, and c. how your wife felt about it.

I did a calculation based off of other post. It says 10% +/- 3 of people who RSVP will not show. I would like more numbers to get a better average

Surveymonkey.com

Statistical analysis.

Doc, I'd lighten up on the sarcasm so soon in joining. I'm a Groom 2 be as well...so you're not alone. Additionally, keep it light. Playing a 'I'm a PhD in Science' card doesn't necessarily make you any smarter than any other members here. In the spirit of the site, I'll let the rest of the spelling/grammar errors slide that you made...but there were many. 'Nuff said on that one.

I'd have to change my position from your other post...you have to go with what you have...if you have 110..then use the hotel 5% surplus and state 105..it may save you some money.

I've seen multiple posts where the no-show range is any where from 3-12%. It's going to differ each time. I don't think others posting 5%, 8% etc is going to do you any good as there is no common variable to fall back.

@TheReenski-you cracked me up on that one.

Well then take your average from your wedding less than a year ago and directly correlate it.

Doc, I understand not wanting to waste money. But I've been on WW long enough to know that what Kris is talking about is an exception. Almost all weddings have some number of people who don't show, or who cancel too late for the couple to make any changes. For any justified or unjustified reason. The thing is though, that those numbers seem to be entirely random. There was one bride who had MORE guests that they invited.

So I suggest the same thing everyone else did. Give the numbers that you've got to the venue. If nothing else, ask them if they would pack the leftover meals for you. We technically didn't have any no-shows, but had 4 people cancel last minute. We ate steak for a couple of days :-) It may be easier to take spending more money than to deal with guests who TOLD you they would be there but there's no meal for them. Trust me, that's not something you will want to deal with at your own wedding.

Since we have had a lot of lack of receiving rsvp's we have padded our count a little. We are having a buffet and know that some people will eat more than others as well. We have planned for about 10% over our actual count. I would much rather have a little extra food than to run out...I think after being a bride, we all have learned how to be better wedding guests! :o)

You might want to keep in mind that even though weddings sometimes have no shows, they also usually have a couple of people who did NOT RSVP but still showed up. I'd give your caterer the number of people who did RSVP to make sure you have enough food for everyone who shows up. While we would all like to tell people who just show up - too bad you should have RSVP'd - few people are actually going to be rude like that to guests they invited. You do not want too little food at your wedding.

Groomzilla, is this english class? Im only worry about grammar when publishing paper. How many have you published? Your a tool.

Well seeing how you are calling people "stalkers" for stating the obvious...doesn't say too much about your character. You can get married twice, after a divorce. However, you can plan a wedding, then a RENEWAL...and if that's the case Mr PhD, wouldn't you already know how to handle your guest count? Being a pissy jerk about things will NOT get you help on this site. Groomzilla's point about your grammar, if I am correct, is that you are pulling the PhD D card, yet cannot type properly and it's along the lines of "pot calling the kettle black" so to speak...get over yourself. If you're going to be rude, you'd fit in better at TK.

Everyone just stop responding. He obviously has a number in mind, and if our answers don't match, he'll just keep making threads on the same subject or disregarding them and acting like they are crazy.

OP, go ahead and underestimate by 10%. No skin off our teeth. You can't help those who don't want your help.