RSVP Procedures

Many of the girls here have done e-mail, phone and even the WW website RSVP (it is a really great tool actually) I think that if you are planning and paying for your wedding then do what you wish. If you want to save some money and the enviorment at the same time. Go for it!

RSVP's by email, phone, or on your wedding website are all very common now. Go for it!

You might have better luck getting them back

Go for it! As I've said on other posts where people are worried about being tacky....if someone is seriously so offended by how 'tacky' you are and RSVPs 'no' to your wedding as a result, then IMHO you're better off without them there! ;-D Go ahead girl, save money!

We did mostly paper invites, but we did some online ones (mostly for FH's LARGE extended family on the east coast...this might sound tacky (haha), but we didn't want to send a million paper invites with all that postage out to Maryland when we know in reality that very few of them (if any) would come...it's worked great so far! I think they liked it, because even as most of them have RSVPed 'no' already, they were able to type a little message giving us their well wishes! How often is someone goign to take the time to handwrite something like that on a mailed RSVP card?

We used pingg.com for the online invites, FYI.

I would go for it! I sent out RSVPs along with the invitations (addressed them along with stamps on them) and put the RSVP card in the envelopes. All they had to do was check yes or no and send them back. And, Im still waiting for alot of them!!

We did phone in RSVP and through our wedding website. I even heckled non-rsvp-ers through facebook. Do what you think is best for you guys!

Honestly, probably only the 'old school' super traditional folks in your family may think it's tacky, but even so, I don't see anything wrong with it. I sent out invites with stamped, addressed RSVP cards and literally only half came back, everyone else either RSVP'd online or not at all (grrr!). Sometimes I wish I'd saved the money on getting the RSVP cards printed and saved the postage!

I am only using the WW website RSVP tool and it's working well so far. But I think email would work also. Good luck!

WE're using the Wedding Wire website for our RSVPs. We did a few traditional paper RSVPs for some of the older crowd and the rest got our website address.

Thanks for all the positive (and in favor of) responses!

We are also trying to be eco friendly and are on a tighter budget-- Our invites are one page but printed both front and back so we don't have to insert all those annoying cards. Our RSVP is going to be a postcard -- so the stamps are cheaper, and its only one piece of paper instead of paper and envelope.

It is totally normal to request RSVP via phone/email/website!! Just to limit confusion--if you do phone RSVP only put one phone number. We thought about doing email/website RSVP but figured since quite a few of our family members are technologically challenged it might not be a good idea

I too would reccomend the WW RSVP tool for your guests.

The problem with email RSVPing is you have to have a great way to track them all... and it can be very time consuming! If you do that- set up a seperate email account, and have folders to move the ones you already read. Have a spreadsheet on your desktop that you mark people off as yes/no, how many guests and RSVP DATE to make it easy to go back and double check them later.

We sent custom printed paper invitations on recycled paper (still beautiful) but saved on inserts and RSVPs. I designed one insert card that would fit 8 to a page when printed. I bought nice cardstock at Paper Zone in a coordinating color and had FedEx Office (Kinko's) print and cut them. The inserts cost a total of $15. The insert directed people to our WW website for more information and to RSVP. It's working well so far--we're more than three weeks from the RSVP deadline and we've gotten more than a third to respond so far. The tool on the site is great for tracking responses and gifts, seating, etc. I HIGHLY recommend it. For the number of inserts/enclosures we'd have needed to convey hotel, directions, RSVP and reception info., we would have spent about $400 to have them exactly match our invitations plus return postage--not to mention we'd have killed a tree in the process! I've also had multiple people tell me how pretty they were--they had no idea part of it was DIY.

It's not tacky at all. In fact, the commonly used RSVP cards are considered tacky by the older etiquette standards. The traditional way to formally replay to the invitation is in writing.

Dear Grace,

We are delighted to hear the news of the upcoming nuptials. John and I will be present and wishing all the best to the happy couple.

Yours Truly,

Margaret

We included email, phone, and our wedding website. There was still only one person that rsvped by the date I asked and that was with a "maybe" so be prepared to have to call everyone up.