RSVP is beginning to stress me out!

When is your RSVP date? Within 3 weeks, people should know. At this time, I'd be calling and saying "Sorry you won't be there..."

Reenski the date was April 27!! That's exactly what I want to say !!

Then do so! Get help from family or your bridal party, call these people up and tell them that unfortunately, you'll no longer be able to accommodate them, but you hope to see them after the wedding.

@Tiffany D: I understand your plight! Try to remember that you are doing the best you can and not everyone is going to send back the rsvp card even if you placed it in some magical envelope. Lol.

My deadline is tomorrow and whoever's I don't have, I am taking that as they are not available to attend. As brides, we have so many other things to worry about and stressing over the rsvp should not have to be one of them.

And you have no time to be stressed you get married this month!! Yes tell them their time is up...

I am seriously thinking we will cut it off ! Things have gotten out of hand with these rsvps!

Date twin and RSVP twin .. I feel your pain. What's so hard about dropping it in the mail? WTF?? We only had a few to followup on .. mainly relatives. If friends cant get back to us, we counting them as NOs.

I can relate!! We have started calling those who haven't.. one asked why we needed to know? LOL..... i love EVERYONE i have invited.. but we do need to know!!

What happens when we don't count them....they don't get to eat and they look at us like we are the tacky ones! I followed up with a couple but I won't follow up with anyone else.

Lol. I had to ask my Mom and FMIL to ask the family members...it's ridiculous!

I am SO dreading this :-/

Tacky? They're the ones who are tacky enough to NOT RSVP and STILL show up! The nerve!

Tiff, can I ask, did you send out STD too?

I have a few family members that also have poor RSVP etiquette. Like my adult cousins (who still live with their parents). I sent them each an invite since they are all adults. From my aunt and uncle I got an RSVP with all their names, but a question mark beside 2 of them. It didn't surprise me. These cousins are the type that will come if they don't have to work and don't have anything better to do. They are not the type to find out ahead of time what their work schedule will be and definitely not the type to ask for it off.

The only thing that is keeping me from stressing out is the fact that we decided to do open seating and my caterer does not charge per person.

I was just having this conversation with my SIL, I honestly think people who have never been married/helped plan a wedding, honestly have no idea "why we need to know"...I mean I'm with you, it's not that hard- just send it back, but people just have no idea why it's so important.

I would give them one shot. Call/text/e-mail, whatever your normal easiest way of communication is and say, we never received your RSVP, I need to know by 5 pm TODAY if you're coming.

Ugh - I'm a year out and this post is stressing me out! Tiffany, I can pretend to be your planner/venue and get some answers out of these people!

But seriously thinking about this, would it be "tacky" if I were to send out an email one week prior to the RSVP date as a "gentle reminder" to RSVP?

I think you have to wait until after the RSVP date to address anybody who hasn't responded, just because some people think that they have until that date to send it back...I made my RSVP date 15 days before we actually needed to turn in the final count, to give enough time for the mail for those who were lagging and to give me time to follow-up.

Thanks Rachel! I will follow your steps!

Good luck Tiffany! Stand your ground!

I know the feeling. Tacky or not, we had to make calls the week leading up the rsvp date because their were still quite a few people who hadn't responded. We even had one person that thought they didn't have to rsvp and they were just gonna show up! Oh no!

Now that the rsvp date has passed, we still have people calling and mailing in their rsvp. Smh.

Hope it works out for you though!

@Nikki 1: Now that your RSVP date has passed, are you still accepting those invites? Or are you telling them that they have missed the deadline?