RSVP how long should it be before the big day?

I didn't do mine yet, but my experience being invited is that the RSVP was usually due back 4-6 weeks before the wedding. Typically I wouldn't know 4 months ahead if I could go to a wedding or not so you run the risk of people accepting and then backing out.

I think 3 months before the wedding is the average amount of time with sending out invites...our venue wants a final head count the week before (I think, but will have to double check) before the wedding date so I plan on asking that RSVPs be back a week or two before THAT (three weeks or so before the wedding) to give stragglers time to get theirs in and hunt down any that didn't respond

4 months is a really long time. typically they say 2-4 weeks out is best so people can be accurate with their plans. i'm going 6 weeks so i can chase down anyone who doesn't send the rsvp back. but 4 months people wont know their actual work schedules or plans etc. for a summer wedding, which is popular, book your space and be done. don't count on another space being open that short on time.

My invitations are going out early january, and the rsvps are due six weeks before the wedding.

Our RSVP's were due a month before the wedding. Four months is too long. People won't be able to commit. And if they do, you could get a lot of cancellations, or worse, no shows.

That is way too long. People may RSVP by that time, but their plans are much more likely to change.

Our RSVP deadline is March 31st for a May 10th wedding. Even that I am scared is a little too much time, but we will be away for a week during the month of April so I want to try to keep things organized while we are away.

I agree that 4 months is too long, and if you're doing it solely for the purpose of being able to save money, you should cut down on the amount of invites you are sending out. Expecting people to know that far in advance is pushing it, IMO.

We made our RSVP due date about 6 weeks before, sent invites about 3 months before, due to many out of town guests needing to make travel arrangements. I also wanted plenty of time to track down slackers. I'm currently in track down mode, and the timing hasn't been an issue at all. I would not do 4 months in advance...that's a looooong time

4 months is definitely too long. I was thinking about doing 2 months prior for myself and even that I think is pushing it. But I really want to get an idea of how many people would come by the two months mark.

I'm getting married July 25. I have to have final numbers to the venue 2 weeks prior to the wedding. I'm going to send out invites by May 15. That gives me some extra wiggle room to contact guests if they don't send their RSVPs back in time.

That is way to far in advance. Invited should be sent 3-4 months in advance, then rsvps 2-6 weeks prior to the wedding. People just won't be able to tell you definite plans that far in advance, things change in that much time.

If you are worried about a large number of people not being able to attend, you could possibly ask around or have your mom ask around and try to get an idea earlier. But don't expect definite answers. And I wouldn't ask bluntly if someone is coming, but just try to get an idea by hinting at it.

My RSVP were due 3 weeks before my wedding which gave me 1 week to track down anyone who didn't RSVP before my due date.

4 months is way way way too far out. I have no idea what I am doing 4 months from now.

If you do this you are going to get a lot of people who won't know their plans and a lot f people's plans may change and they may not be able to come.

Ours will be due back a month before the big day.

My wedding is May 22, 2015

RSVP is April 3

4 months is too early! I think we'll send ours in mid February with a due date a month before.

Whoa, four months is super long! I met with my wedding planner tonight and she said send invites out two months before the wedding and RSVPs due a month before the wedding.