RSVP for more than invited

Simply do not write "and Guest" on the invitation if it is meant for one person

Also you can put on the RSVP Card that "1 seat has been reserved" instead of 2 or leaving it blank.

You need to talk to your guests and let them know that there will be no seating for extra people. I told them they will have to either pay at the door or leave. I'm sorry, I don't have money for rudeness

What Honey B said...

I'm so happy we're doing all of our online so no one can add additional guests, you search for your name and RSVP for you only or if your famiily is included you can RSVP for your family and that's it.

We've had a few calls from guest saying, "I don't understand this online thing, it doesn't let me add my guest/s"... duh, it's because you can't bring a guest, the innvitation is for one person and did you read my FAQ section, I clearly explained it there? Oh how I love this online RSVP.

I just saw you're other post - are you expecting RSVP problems or just trying to gain insigt on how to avoid?

Thanks ladies! @Marie, i am just trying to figure out what to do if this happens.. i attended a wedding last summer and this happened; the venue put up tables and seated them and the couple had to start opening their gift envelopes to come up with $ to pay!! i mean, they literally turned up the lights and turned off the dj!!! HORROR!

Oh wow, I've seen that nightmare too, I went to a wedding last year, but lucky for the couple the reception was at a church, they invited 400, only about 200 RSVPd and 300+ showed up, they had to bring extra tables out to sit them all, no table cloth to put on them, it was a disaster, I started crying because I think i'd have a fit if that was my wedding, but I saw the bride and she was all happy, don't know if she was faking it but she was very calm and had a very good attitude towards it.

For us, if you didn't RSVP, you can't come in at all, so the madness will stop at the door.

We've only had 2 so far do this. In one case, FH forgot to tell me this person has 2 kids (teenagers) that he's known since they were born and really wants them there. We left it alone. In the other case, one of FH's freinds RSVPd for 2 when we invited just him. We're waiting to see how the rest of our RSVP's come in, but if we don't have room for this friend's guest, FH will be calling him to tell him he can't bring his GF (who we don't know, nor did we even know he had a GF).

We wrote only the names of the ppl who were invited on the envelopes. If we invited their children, we wrote that out. Some ppl will either ignore it or don't know the "rules". If they try to RSVP for more, call them and tell them that you can only allow those that were invited. If they say they won't come, too bad for them. They're not the ones paying for it, so they really don't get to choose who they can or can't bring.

I think you need to get the word out via MOH, MOB & MOG and any other key people in your life the importance of the RSVP when you send out the invites. I think it would be in poor taste to start putting the word out 10 months in advance.I do agree it's rude of a guest to either show up after declining or with uninvited guests but I also think it's rude to turn guests away - I'd find a way to still be a gracious host even though my guest was a butthead.

BTW We just had a party for my son - 98 were invited. 18 declined. 2 showed up even though they declined - what was really crappy - they came w/o a gift. And I'm sure these 2 will do the same for the wedding next year.

My FH got invited to a wedding this past summer and it was addressed to just him. However on the RSVP card it stated "One meal has been reservd for you" which i think really got the point across lol.

This is what my RSVP's look like:

1 guest invited:

We hope you can celebrate with us

Mr. Goofy

___ Gladly Attend

___ Regretfully Decline

___ Regretfully Attend

___ Enthusiastically Decline

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December 15, 2011

Two guests invited:

We hope you can celebrate with us

Mr. Mickey Mouse

___ Gladly Attend

___ Regretfully Decline

___ Regretfully Attend

___ Enthusiastically Decline

Mrs. Minnie Mouse

___ Gladly Attend

___ Regretfully Decline

___ Regretfully Attend

___ Enthusiastically Decline

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December 15, 2011

Glenn that is a great idea so the point really comes across to them! So helpful

Thanks glenn!!!!!!!!!!!!

Assuming that people read the names on the envelope or correlate that with who is invited is NOT a good idea!!

I think most people really don't understand the process-they truly are naive. Others are simply rude. I'm sure you'll get some of both, so Glenn's idea is a pretty polite yet blunt way of doing it.

Glenn has the plan.... I was just going to put We have Reserved 2 seats in your honor. etc.... i will write it in and you hope ppl aren't ignorant..BUUUTTTT..... if extra's show...well..then extra's show

Awesome Glenn--love the humor! I'm going to use that idea and look forward to see who "enthusiastically declines".