Respect in Relationship

The only time I get pissed is if he's looking instead of paying attention to me.

If we are walking around the store and I notice him looking at someone's boobs, whatever.

If I'm taking and his attention is drawn away because of a women,pissed.

I think guys CAN have self control, but I look at other guys all the time so I dont expect him to not all the time.

You should set boundaries. And a good way to bring it up is...

" Sometimes when I see you looking at someone who is prettyer than me I get a little jealous, I'm sorry that you feel like you need to deffend your self when I approach you about it. I know you would never cheat on me."

You are confronting the behavior without attacking him. When I say things like this to FH he ALWAYS re assures me that he love me and I'm way prettyier than her and blah blah blah. It make me feel better and it make him aware of his actions.

Ya, the communication part is gonna take some work lol.

I catch my husband checking out other women sometimes. It's not worth a fight. Sometimes I'll raise my eyebrows at him. Lol he thinks he's subtle but sometimes he's not

I think it's disrespectful. Not to say that DH or I don't notice attractiveness, but he never mentions it to me. I don't think I've ever seen him check out another woman around me. He's definitely never mentioned thinking anyone is attractive. It's not something we do. I would be very hurt if DH was checking out other women or telling me he thought another woman was attractive. He would be offended if I made a comment about another man to him too. I find it disrespectful.

What Crescent said.

But saying someone is attractive in itself isn't a threatening thought/comment. Now if he said something like, "Damn, she's hot. You need to work out to look like that, too" - THAT'S disrespectful.

But to think that your future/husband DOESN'T check anyone out is naive.

Well we both check out other women, sooo it's not a problem. But if he were leering at women and got into creeper mode, then it would be a big problem.

I'd be concerned if he didn't. Then again I'm also open to open marriage so maybe I'm not the best person to ask.

Bottom line, if it bugged me, and FH did it, I'd not marry him. There's a lot of truth to:

"Men and women marry under false pretenses. Men marry thinking she'll never change. Women marry thinking he will."

If this bugs you, get it sorted out with your FH now, please.

That definitely is a fine line @Nikki. We've never said things like that to each other, mostly when a female is rocking a pair of jeans I'll say something, and if he spots a male with a particularly awesome hairstyle. And vice versa. It varies in your comfort levels though, I think that's really the key.

@Under the June willows... that was a very good response! I feel the same way you do

Had a boyfriend do that once. I walked across the mall and asked said woman for her phone number on my boyfriends behalf. She called him an asshole he was mortified and was girlfriendless about an hour later.

I check them out too with my FH! NBD, we comment on women all the time (always nice to see a lovely rack).

Don't think it's disrespectful, guys will always check out other women, might as join in the fun.

Everyone does this lol. I give my husband a look but more in a joking way and he laughs. He does the same. It is human nature and should be taken lightly. We both would never act on it if you know what I mean like cheesy or pursue that person.

It used to bother me a lot but now I don’t really care. I just usually roll my eyes and continue on with what I was doing before I noticed.