Respect in Relationship

Ahahaha men do this all the time . Some very obviously , others not so obvious . I might say his name in a certain tone. Not worth a fight .

Don't care at all! It's natural to check other people out. "Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu." As long as you aren't acting upon it, totally fine IMO

Definitely not worth fighting about. As long as he's not acting on anything, I'm cool. I'd probably jokingly yell at him but that's about it.

He can look all he wants as long as he never touches or acts on it's okay.

Heck, I check guys out in public, it's normal and never worth a fight

Checking out and leering are 2 different things. FH works in a restaurant where the girls are not hired for the intelligence (super nice girls and they are smart). I know that I am not the best looking woman out there, I'm good with it. Look all you want but come home for dinner

Agree with PPs! I think we all look at other people, and it's probably fine unless he starts drooling and/or cat-calling.

I expect it because it's normal. It's unrealistic to expect it to not happen and get mad about it.

I don't care at all. We have a saying that we can look but not touch when we're out. If I see a guy that is hot I tell him and he dose not care. He says that girl is hot and I don't care because I know he loves me. Even when we watch tv or a movie I point a guy I think is hot. It's not worth a fight over something like this.

To be honest, sometimes I'll point out a hot girl to him. Men (and women) are going to notice and appreciate attractive people no matter how much they love their partner. There's nothing disrespectful about looking.

Doesn't bother me at all..lol we appriciate them together sometimes lol

I just usually agree that the woman is sexy as fuck. DH and I actually point out people sometimes. Or if we have a hot waiter I always make sure to let him know.

I'm married, not a robot.

He doesn't often do it - but when he does it's not done disrespectfully. I do it, too. I'm a naturally observant, visual person who generally likes to look at people.

This is natural, I check out attractive people too. The key is to not "leer," as someone else mentioned. I'm sure FH looks at women, but I never catch him blatantly staring, so I'm okay with that. I once dated a guy who would leer and stare at other women when I was with him, like a pig. Needless to say, I didn't date him for very long.

Thank you! My fh is the first guy I've been with that I've noticed that does this. He works in a restaurant as well, so that's another thing. If I say anything about it, he gets very defensive and it does turn into a fight. Maybe i just shouldn't mention it to him and ignore it. I don't know.

Is it a quick look or a lustful ogle? Big difference.

FH and I do it together!! I don't think there's anything wrong with appreciating someone else's beauty. If a girl has a nice set of tatas, I absolutely notice. How can I blame FH for also noticing?

He even does it with men. The other day we were admiring this guy's killer hair.

It wouldn't bother me

Is he appreciating them or actively attempting to take it further? The former - not a problem. The latter - big problem.

It depends on how.... We went to dinner with another couple once and the other guy says, "she is very pretty" about our server. His wife looked hurt and FH and I were both kind of "wtf?" There was no need to say that out loud, in front of his wife, while out to dinner with friends. I notice other men, but I'd never point out another man's attractiveness to FH and he doesn't do it me with other women. Noticing and appreciating is one thing; vocalizing and ogling is another.

I don't care it's human nature as long as he isn't being over the top about it I just laugh at him