Respect in Relationship

Tbh, I'm usually the one checking out other woman. I point it out, and then we admire together lol. FH makes me feel sexy everyday and I'm confident in my body. This kind of stuff doesn't bother me.

As long as he's respectful about it I don't think it's a huge problem (meaning he doesn't leer at/catcall women)...

We laugh about this at least 1-2x a year bc Im usually checking them out too. Once we were at the grocery store and he turned to check a girl out only to catch me already looking behind him. Its normal as long they arent staring & saying inappropriate remarks

I'm trying to think of when it would be weird in my eyes. I guess it would be when it turns into "leering" like others pointed out. If his eyes keep going back to her or he's looking for a long period of time, I think that's creepy as hell and would be bothered by it.

It's natural, I look at other guys. But I do think there's a respect that should be there, I wouldn't check out another guy in front of FH and he doesn't look at other women when I'm around, if he does it's not obvious.

I guess it is a quick look. Like last night, a girl walked by with a very revealing shirt. We were having a conversation, so while I was looking at him he glanced down at her chest. All I said was "Did you just look at her?" Then he instantly was mad and denied it. So things like that.

Me and my FH are very open about that. I can say "OMG look at that girls ass". Girls be having amazing asses. I can't help but notice. I want to point them to him so he can appreciate it too. Same goes if he sees something about a guy he thinks I might want to see.

Wow. I'm shocked at the amount of people who are totally okay with this. What exactly are we talking about here? Like FH has eyes and they glanced across a girl while he was scanning the room? Or he is seeking out attractive women and staring them up and down? Because if we're talking about the later then no- it's not okay. Human or not he's my human. I think checking out another girl in front of your FW is very disrespectful.

ETA: There are a lot of things that can be considered "natural" but it doesn't mean we should do them.

I don't see anything wrong with "looking" as long as we don't take it over board! Most of the time I'm the one saying "HUN!, look look at that girls ass!!!"

We all look. It's human nature.

If hes gawking thats one thing but men naturally do this I think...doesnt bother me. Sometimes Ill even look at him and say "shes hot!" And laugh....Now, if he went out of his way to interact with said chic...THAT is disrespectful

@K&H. He instantly gets mad and denies it because you "confront" him about it in a way that makes him defensive. That is going to cause fights in which the woman is the one that comes out looking insecure. If you cant beat it... join it.

I don't care. As long as looky no touchy then whatever.

Antonia, I never said I "own" my FH. He is his own person and I am my own person. We have separate likes and hobbies, and spend time apart to do those things if we feel like it. Our relationship has a balance of togetherness and individuality. So when I say he's "my" human I am referring to the fact that he and he alone is the person who I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with. He and he alone is the person who I will remain faithful to, love, and face life's challenges with. So if you find this disrespectful I'm concerned about your definition of respect.

Not worth fighting about but you should express to him how it makes you feel when he does it. Sometimes they don't even realize that they're doing it.

@OP it sounds like he isn't lingering on the others. It's hard not to look, especially if the clothing is revealing.

@Mikayla it sounds like you need to get your FH some blinders. I agree that there is a huge difference between gawking and glancing, but you lots me there at the end.

MrsBBR that was my point. I'm not sure if OP is talking about glancing or gawking. FH doesn't need blinders. He seems to do pretty well with being respectful in his own.

Idk, Mikayla, when you say someone is "your human" it kind of implies ownership. You seem really riled up over something that isn't a big deal. My bad.

It generally riles me up when someone I don't know implies negative things towards my relationship, especially when that couldn't be further from the truth. My point was simply that there's a difference between gawking at someone and glancing at them. If people are ok with their FH gawking at another girl in front of them I guess that's their prerogative but I personally find that disrespectful.

FH is an entertainer, flirting is part of his act. We talked about this early on and his response was; "who do I come home to?" Looking is not a sign of disrespect so don't worry about it.

I wish I could see it the same way as most of you do! Lol. I'm kind of torn on how I feel about it, but I'd rather ignore it than have ongoing issues. I don't think there's any intent behind it.