Resistant Bridesmaid Wants Super Sexy Dress

Woah, maybe try pulling her aside and letting her know that it's your day and not intended for her. Maybe come up with a backup bridesmaid too if she's going to keep fighting back on it. I would 🤷‍♀️

This makes me sad.. Your bridesmaids are supposed to be there for you and and be supportive as well as make your planning and best day ever go smooth. If she has a wedding, then she can plan however she wants but this wedding is about you and you don't need the additional headache. If she is unwilling to be flexible with your wishes then why is she even your bridesmaid??

While all BM should feel comfortable and confident, it is not the time nor her place to force other to wear a "super sexy" dress just because she does. This is YOUR wedding, not her birthday party club. If she is causing you too much stress already..it might be a red flag

Congrats on your engagement! So tell her that it's your day and its not about showing off for her its about you PERIOD wrong time wrong place. Just be sure to understand that it's probably not about the dress or her body its something else and there lies the rubbish lol. Good Luck !

Sounds like you have plenty of support on this 😂 I would literally tell her my wedding isn’t a club and everyone else hates it so pick something for a church and not the jersey shore

View Quoted Comment I agree with you..best advice!! In 10 years from now where is this person going to be in your life! Limit your drama!

I would be blunt and straightforward. Tell her what she wants to wear is not appropriate for your wedding in a church. It's also not her day, it's yours. She is there to support you. She can give her opinion and you will take it into consideration, but the final decision on everything is yours. If she's not comfortable or cannot handle that, she can choose to not be in the wedding party and wear whatever sexy dress she wants as a guest - she either listens to you and stops bossing everyone around, or she can bow out. If you leave the decision up to her and she chooses to back out, it's less likely to damage the friendship. But if she still acts like that and doesn't back out, I would remove her from the bridal party. You don't need that energy on your wedding day.

You need to lay it on the line that its not ur vision for ur wedding at the end of the day. It comes down to its ur day u are planning. When it becomes her turn she can put her bridesmaids in whatever she wants. I believe in everyone in the wedding party feel comfortable. I don't believe in showing off everything the wrong way at a wedding. It's a wedding not a club. Supposed to be elegant.

You are going to great personal expense (I imagine) for your bridesmaid. Between gifts, hair and makeup, and possibly paying for the dress, her food at the wedding etc. etc., you are going out or your way to make sure she is there and comfortable. It's also your wedding. Not to mention the fact that it is a great honor to be included in your wedding party. If she doesn't want to respect your wishes (and the wishes of other girls) I don't know how good of a friend she really is to you. Plus, she's making your mom angry, which is a cardinal sin for all women. I would honestly consider just telling her to wear the dress everyone, and especially you, are comfortable with, or you don't need her at the wedding. Anyone so unwilling to care about the wishes of others is not there to bring love into your future, just more silly drama. This is a day of love and family and friends coming together. If she can't put that first, she needs to seriously reevaluate what matters to her in life. I'm sorry you're dealing with this!

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View Quoted Comment LOL I just calls ‘em like I sees ‘em

Tell your friend that she can be sexy without being half naked and that as a friend she should respect your wishes for your wedding

I think you might have to put your foot down and also have it clear where you are getting bridesmaid dresses that this style isn’t a go. If you are having a reception somewhere else you can definitely encourage her to wear one like it or that one (if she wants to buy two).
Hope this helps some.

The way I see it, she agreed to be part of your day knowing just that - that it's your day and most of the decisions made will have been between you and your FH and whoever else is planning the wedding with you. You can give as much leeway as you want whether you allow different styles that will flatter everyone but if you feel it's not appropriate you should be able to freely express that and she should understand your reasons.

This truly sucks to be put in a situation like this. If she is being non compliant and not understanding, I would simply ask her to just attend the wedding as a guest and replace her with someone who is actually about making YOUR vision come to light. She is being a headache all because she wants to do what she wants to do. That isn't fair to you our the other ladies. At the end of the day, it is yours and your fiance's day and she needs to fall in line or respectfully bow out.

Wow! That's awful. I understand looking good walking down the aisle is important for some bridesmaids but unfortunately it's not her day to shine. Maybe try telling her you want a uniformed look for everyone. At this point I'm not sure if your a 2020 postponed bride like I am but it's a new year and you should be planning your wedding with absolutely NO STRESS! Covid is already doing that. So it's very nice of you to consider your friend but its already alot to be planning a wedding in a pandemic. I would either transfer the bridesmaids responsibility to my maid of honor so she can bring the harsh news to her or let her down nicely with NO negotiating. If all your bridesmaids are fine with what you chose no need to change for one

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YES CHRYSTA!!!!

This is exactly how I feel about this situation. Your friend needs to realize that this is NOT her day to show some skin and have all eyes on her. You need people in your bridal party that are there for you, and who respect your wishes and decisions. If she can't put her selfish agendas aside about looking 'sexy' in a dress...then bye girl...you can join us by being a guest. 💁🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Agreed but the situation has gotten worse

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Uh oh....anything we can help with??

Situation Update
She has texted all the other bridesmaids asking them if they really want the dress I picked out. Four of the bridesmaids are my sister's, and another my God Sister. So I was notified yesterday after of the messages, and then I received a call from her stated she wants to pick out the dresses and that the bridesmaids should pick them and not me.

Now ... I grew up rough and I'm trying to be calm.