Resistant Bridesmaid Wants Super Sexy Dress

Maybe compromise by telling them the color, but they can each pick the style they want?

I agree with the pp but at the end of the day I feel as the bridesmaid she needs to respect what you want. I would say sit and speak with her and just tell her that you would like for her to not wear something to revealing for your wedding but that you are willing to meet you half way. The issue is if she is being difficult it may be best for her to be a guest and she can wear what she wants but that could be a friendship ending move.

View Quoted Comment We are getting married in our church the dress is highly inappropriate. I have a girl thats like a DDD and anthoer and E cup. Another girl 4xl it's a club dress.
My mom it's #jamaicangyalangry

View Quoted Comment I agree, I don't need girls cha chas out and kittens and cookie jar flashing everyone

View Quoted Comment Wow, yeah, if it's a church wedding, that changes things. Maybe she can change into a sexy dress for the reception?

Normally I'm all for letting bridesmaids pick their dresses in a coordinated color, but that is just not a wedding appropriate dress. I would explain that your wedding is not the time for "super sexy."

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The only thing I can think of is you pay for her dress but then you would have to do that for all. I think you sit down with her one on one and just say you understand where she is coming from but that you truly do not want your bridal party to look classy and elegant rather sexy. Maybe if you are okay post ceremony and pictures if she wants to change out of her bridesmaid dress into something sexier that is fine but for the wedding portion you would like for her to wear something less sexy. I also think maybe you two can look through some ideas and find a half way point.

View Quoted Comment I mean that's fine at the reception, but legit she's gone overboard with the bossiness.
From who she's demanding to walk with, to how she won't wear her makeup.

View Quoted Comment I'm trying to make sure all the girls are comfortable, and confident in the dress that I pick. Many of the girls are married and their husbands have said no the dress she chose.
Four of my girls are refusing to wear her dress because of body concerns and stated they want to be covered up.

Her self centeredness is disgusting. She's going to try to outshine you at the wedding.


I am typically in favor of being flexible, and I am all about body positivity. But this is just vanity and she couldn't care less about anyone else's comfort. She is a narcissist diva. I'd tell her to step down. If you lose her as a friend, I doubt you'll miss her.

Why does she want so much attention on your wedding day? Is this normal behavior from her?

If there ever were an occasion for the expression “suck it up buttercup” , it’s this right here. 🤦🏼‍♀️
Your bridesmaid needs to check herself and remember that this day is not about her. A good friend will be there to support you and honor your relationship, and a confident woman can feel sexy without showing all her goodies to grandma in a church. She needs to suck it up, wear something appropriate, and support you. If she can’t do that for one day, she is not a good great friend and doesn’t deserve the title of bridesmaid- she can look a fool in the audience with all the other guests.

View Quoted Comment #facts #yousavage

She sounds awful and like someone I wouldn't even want to be friends if. I would flat out tell her no and if she has a problem with it then she can come as a guest. However even as a guest I would be horrified for her to show up dressed like she's a hooker.

View Quoted Comment We can find that out together, because it came out of nowhere the last week when I started looking at dresses.

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Oh snap!!!

Woah. You need to be firm and assertive with her

View Quoted Comment Omg this 100%

Ummmm I think this is a flat-out NO....no bridesmaid needs a Jessica Rabbit-type dress for their friend’s WEDDING. She can wear a “super sexy” dress out to the club or something on her own time. Or she could get a sexy dress and have a photo shoot for her next bday or something? Or if you’re having a bachelorette, then maybe she could get the super sexy dress out of her system for that event? But girl, I would definitely push back on this. It’s not appropriate, and it seems like attention-seeking behavior. I’m not saying the BM dress should be a turtleneck, but this is not the time nor the place for any Jessica Rabbit, deep plunge, skin-tight, double slit, “all eyes on me” mess! Shut it down! Best of luck to you - keep us posted

View Quoted Comment Chrysta omg this is amazing. I’m actually chuckling out loud because of the “showing all her goodies to grandma in a church.” Hahahaha! you are brilliant, your advice is on point, AND it’s also hilarious 😁