Resistant Bridesmaid Wants Super Sexy Dress

From what I've gathered from above, girl you need to sit her down and tell her to stop being extra because it is your day to be extra. It is your and your FH day and if she is a real one, she will have no problem supporting your decisions. Simple as that. That day is not about her, it's about YOU AND FH! I hope that she will be more supportive after you talk to her, good luck!

Tell her absolutely not- NO is a complete sentence. She can be as sexy as she wants at some other time & location, not at a wedding. Dressing like that is inappropriate, plus it’ll be taking away from YOU & YOUR wedding!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%! Well said!

Yeah no. She needs to respect your wishes as a bridesmaid. Depending what style you want them to look and I’m assuming elegance or classy and that is still beautiful! Don’t need to show off your body when it’s not even your wedding. I have my girls picking out the dress they want but has to be approved by me before even purchasing. I’m sorry but if she is trying to show off her body for your wedding for idk what reason that’s not a friend to me. It’s to make you happy and you want everyone else to be comfortable in the dresses as well.

Put your foot down or kick her out

View Quoted Comment Omg. ROFL!!!


She can wear what you choose, or she can be a guest. Her choice. Totally inappropriate for a church wedding, and it isn’t HER wedding.

She can but that kind of dress for herself to go to clubs, any time. But you set the tone for bridal party clothes, and if you want romantic but not frankly sexy, for your multigenerational family occasion, then she must accept that , or leave the wedding party. Wedding party clothes are not a democratic choice.

I would simply just tell her no especially if the wedding is in a church. The day is about you & your fiancé, not her & she needs to know that. That dress may look good on her but it may not look right on the other bridesmaids, not everything is for everyone.


I would just tell her that you don't want that at your wedding and change into the dress for the reception or wear it elsewhere 😬

People want lots of things they don’t get. She can get a sexy dress on her own for her own things.

Absolutely NOPE. Reiterate that it is your special day, and what she thinks does not matter. I am experiencing similar things on my end. But the bridezilla came out, and OH WELL SISTA!

Get on her! NOW! before she goes against you at the wedding.

I can’t ever believe the bridesmaid stories I see on here. It always makes me question the depth and sincerity of the friendships. But I’d just be honest and tell that bridesmaid that she can “be sexy and show off her body” at her own wedding (or renewal). After that I would proceed to selecting the dresses, end that topic and move on to the next wedding planning step.

View Quoted Comment Agreed she's not married and no boyfriend

She's the bridesmaid, not the bride, so don't let her make these changes that no one else agrees to

View Quoted Comment Yep, I figured that!!!

I don't think a bridesmaid should be supper sexy. That's inappropriate for a wedding and takes any class the wedding has away. I'm all for letting bridesmaids have a say but there is a line. You need to put your foot down with this bridesmaids and tell her if she doesn't like how you want your wedding then there's no place for her at your side on your day. I gave all my bridesmaids the option to get together and figure out what they wanted to wear, I told them they all had to wear the same dress and it has to be mint green. I had a bridesmaid try to force all the other girls to give in to wearing a short cut club style dress and not only did the other bridesmaids put her in her place and tell her that it wasn't an appropriate dress for a wedding, but I also sat down with her and told her that the bridesmaids need to wear something appropriate and I need to see the dress before I let them wear it in my wedding. I told her that if she didn't like how I want my wedding that I can and will replace her. She hasn't given me any problems since.

View Quoted Comment I've realized with planning a wedding that most of the time we aren't bridezillas we are just putting our foot down when we have people try to bulldoze over our plans, because first weddings bring out the worst in people and second people can be so selfish when it comes to a wedding that isn't theirs.

View Quoted Comment True that I did talk to her briefly. You can tell she wasn't happy

That is definitely not wedding appropriate. i would tell her that although you want her to look good and be comfortable and like what she's in, that just isn't appropriate for the setting of your wedding.

Oh no now we have gotten the BMs husbands in this?! She needs to sit down and have several seats. I could kind of understand if you were having an outdoor ceremony, but the fact that you were getting married in a church and she is still pushing it is highly inappropriate and very inconsiderate.

View Quoted Comment Yeah some of the husband's were like " Nah baby you ain't eating that ever outside the bedroom"