Relationship Changes After Marriage?

I think it definitely depends from couple to couple, I've heard many people feel different and many don't! I think we felt much closer after getting engaged, so based on that I think we may feel differently once we are married!

Congratulations on one month of marriage!!!!!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! And I totally agree that it depends on the couple. I'd love to hear about what changes people experienced if their relationship did change. My husband and I definitely feel that our relationship is stronger and that we're even closer now that we've ever been, but we don't feel like anything is different. We still go out on date nights pretty much as often as we did before the wedding, we still like to travel together, we still have our hobbies, we still each take care of the same chores around our home, we don't argue more or less than before, etc. Awesome that you felt closer once you got engaged! I'm sure you'll feel even stronger together after the wedding!

I was wondering the same thing. My FH and I have been together going on 13 years. So we are pretty much us all the time. We know each other well and enjoy our time together. But we don't live together. He actually lives in Nevada, i Iive in California. But we are together each month for 1 or 2 weeks. We are really having fun planning the wedding and talking about it. He's very involved and excited it's so cute. I do wonder if after this wedding "high" how things will change especially living together. I wouldn't think it would not change and it shouldn't. We are the same people right?


Congratulations to you on your 1 month of marriage and much happiness.

I can't believe its been one month for you already, congrats! I think it really depends, we have been together for over 5 yrs and live together so I don't think there will be a massive shift. We ve been through so many life moments and trials together at this point, happy ones ,devastating ones and pretty much everything in between. Moving in together was a big adjustment thats when I felt things really shifted/changed. I like to think we ll just feel super content, I kinda felt after the engagement it was nice to feel like this is my person and I can imagine after the wedding that feeling might intensify a bit. A few of my friends told me marriage didn't feel like a huge change since they already lived together but becoming parents was a massive adjustment. Enjoy this first year and the many to follow

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Wow, how awesome that you two have been together for a long time! I wouldn't think that things would change much after the wedding, especially if you've been together 13 years, though living together full time, being around each other 24/7, and one person adapting to living in a new state might require some minor adjustments. But that's also super exciting that you'll live together, and a fun way to start your marriage!

I get the "stronger relationship" thing. We've been engaged over 2.5 years now, but so much of that time was stagnant because of covid, jobs, etc., so it wasn't until around February when we started making a concerted effort to plan the wedding. I definitely think we got closer as we started working towards the wedding and becoming married vs just "being engaged" without any plans.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! I can't believe it's already been a month either, time really flew. Your situation sounds similar to mine. We were together 5 years (and living together for 2 years) before getting engaged, so I really didn't think things would change, and they haven't - at least not yet lol. Moving in together is for sure a big shift in the relationship! You bring up a really good point that becoming parents would be a major adjustment, and I could totally see a relationship having to make large changes to adapt to that. It sounds like you both have been through a lot of life experiences together, and that your relationship has been strengthened from it all! It's things like that which help confirm that you have truly found your person. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Planning a wedding is truly the first big test of a marriage! You deal with setting boundaries with those outside your relationship, dealing with finances, taking each other's opinions and wants into account, making decisions together, etc. All of that for sure brings two people closer together. Awesome that you both feel like your relationship has been strengthened! Other than growing closer to each other, do you anticipate that your relationship will change at all after the wedding?

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I joke if we can make it through a pandemic(well not totally through but you know what I mean) we can make it through anything. I certainly didn't have that on my bingo card! It is really nice and special to enjoy someone's company and have fun together but when you can find someone who makes the bad times bearable its really special because unfortunately life isn't always rainbows and sunshine.

We've been together for 6.5 years and moved in after 10 months together. We've been saying for years that we're "married without the paperwork," so I'm not expecting things to change in our relationship once the paperwork is signed.

We did experience a shift once we got engaged in feeling like now that we were engaged the plan we set up for having kids needed to actually start, which freaked me out to be honest lol. Recently we had a pretty big talk about both of us actually really enjoying life with just our dogs right now. I've also been looking at completely changing my career path and trying to get into med school which doesn't really work with kids. So we decided to wait on kids for a while longer and revisit all of that later on.

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I really don't know if it will change much. On one hand, I was brought up in a pretty religious community and grew up with this really sacred view of marriage, but on the other hand, we've been living together for a while, paying bills together, etc., so I don't know how all of that will balance out. Definitely excited to find out though lol

View Quoted Comment I would definitely prepare yourself for a huge change once you move in together! My fiancé and I were long-distance for three years. We had planned to wait to move in together after we got married, but once the threat of pandemic shut downs occurred, we decided to take the leap. And oh man, things definitely CHANGED. I really hadn’t anticipated it, or prepared for it LOL

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope things don't change much, I will at least try to not change or except any changes from him. But I'm sure just living with someone in another state will take a little time to get adjusted to. All the best to you.

View Quoted Comment Yes the living together part is a big change but we're super excited. We've waited a long time for this 🙌

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I will say that moving in with someone is an adjustment even if you've been together awhile. My fiance and I moved in together after nearly 6 1/2 years together and I will say that it certainly was a learning experience

I think if anything we'll feel closer but I don't think much else will feel different. We've been together 8 years and have known each other 13. We also live together already so we won't have that adjustment to worry about. I think it'll just be nice to finally call him my husband

Wow! Isn’t it funny how time flies? Can’t believe it’s already been a month. I can agree with everything you said. I also feel like nothing has changed since we got married but definitely feel a stronger bond. I’m not really sure how to explain it but I feel it between us. We’d also been together for years before we actually got married. It’s been great!

We've been married one year, four years together and all living together. Our relationship has changed and we're seeing if our goals for the marriage and life are aligned. It started when he prioritized the wedding over our marriage.

Since being married, in one short month it will be one year, I don't feel any different than before we were married. Yet I do feel as though our relationship has become stronger. It's amazing to know that we were best friends for 15 years, before we even started dating, and now I am married to who has always been and is my best friend. There are times where he catches me sitting and staring at him, and as I tell him "I can't help it, I enjoy looking at you".

View Quoted Comment I know what you mean by making it through the pandemic with someone - my husband and I have a similar thought. We'd already been living together for a few years at the time the pandemic hit, but it certainly took some adjustments to get used to both of us working from home and literally being around each other 24/7, plus the uncertainty and anxiety behind the pandemic, plus having to postpone our wedding on top of all that. If that stressful year didn't break us, I think we're in good shape lol. Awesome that you and your fiance made it through the pandemic stronger than ever as well! It certainly was a good test of strength, and it sounds like it proved how strong you are together and how you look at the positives when things are rough. And I love that statement you made - "when you can find someone who makes the bad times bearable its really special"! Totally true, and an excellent way to look at life!