Received Wedding Invitation As "& Guest"

I got a wedding invitation for a coworker, and it said "And guest" instead of my husband's name. I work with both the bride and the groom - and they're work friends. They know my husband's name. It was a little weird to see my husband's name NOT on it, especially since it was on the STD, but whatever.

I received a wedding invitation from a grad school friend that referred to FH as "and guest." The couple has met my FH on several occasions, and an easy glance at facebook would have told them his full name. Also, the thank you card from their couple's shower was addressed to me only. I thought it was strange, but I tried not to be offended by it because I figure with all the stress of wedding planning, it was probably just an oversight on their part.

Just happened to me as well. FH is in a wedding for our mutual co-worker and they made me his "guest". I just laughed though. They also forgot to put the time of the wedding on the invite.

I'm with Megan on this one.

It sounds a little lazy on their part, honestly. Like has been said, Facebook and such makes it easy to figure out names. I think it really would depend on if you see them fairly regularly or have just met them a couple times on whether you should be offended

Last year we got an invitation to DH's grad school friends wedding to DH & Guest. They didn't know me well but we certainly met a few times. Also like everyone else was saying they could have just looked on facebook. We weren't married at that time but we had been together for 9 years.

I wouldn't count it as a big deal unless you interact with them often.

Since it's coming from your FH side, I say do not be offended at all. After going through addressing invitations with my FH, I completely understand why you may be an "and guest". Getting correct information from him was like pulling teeth. He had no clue of spouses names or if there even were spouses, and forget spelling. I scoured facebook but still ended up misspelling at least two people's last name and just invited an uncle who apparently is married and FH has no clue. I was so frustrated with him that I would have gotten to the point of just putting "and guest" to be done with it and get them out. So I would not be offended at all after my experience.

It's annoying, lazy and rude, but aren't there more important things to focus our energy on?

It would bother me. I took the time to find all of our guests sig other's names. I only put "& Guest" for those who are in a new relationship and I've never met their sig other. I've been with FH for 10 years and we have 2 kids, if he was invited to a wedding and they didn't add my name they obviously don't know neither of us that well!

I agree it was rude. But, they're probably just clueless or too lazy to care about good manners. I doubt it was an intentional snub. Roll your eyes and let it go.

If you have met them, and are easily accessible to find. Facebook, emailing your FH or something then yes I'd be pissed. But I also hold this same grudge towards people who have been married for 5 years now. FH and I lived together and the "groom" had known me long then his soon to be wife. It's rude and inconsiderate and I actually told him that. I had to fight temptation to not send the invite to our wedding to Chris and guest.

But as @Kristina says.... better things to focus on. I'm working on it. At my shower I got a mug that says "let it go....." LOL

ETA: Mine was likely an intentional snub. The "wife" never liked me.

Not really worth it being upset or putting too much thought into, unless this is someone in his family who you've interacted with frequently.

Dp

I would be really pissed off and I would want to say something.... Almost positive that FH would agree that it wasn't worth it though. lol

Omg, my computer decided to spam everything. lol

I really appreciate everyone's thoughts and comments.

We don't see them regularly, but we do see them several times a year. And they have spoken with me numerous times throughout the 7 years my fiancé and I have been together. They know my name, which is why I was offended.

However, a lot of you are right. There are better ways for me to spend my energy. I'll just go to the wedding, eat the food and drink the alcohol, and have a damn good time on their dime lol

Thanks!

I wouldn't worry about it... we send several "& guest" invitations to some of H's extended family because we didn't know the SO well.

Last year, after we had been engaged for well over 6 months, H got an invitation to a wedding addressed only to him... not even "& guest". I was PISSED... the invitation went straight in the garbage; we didn't even bother sending the RSVP back.

This just happened to me too. FH received an invitation to his cousin's wedding that said "& Guest" - we live together and are engaged. I was annoyed, but don't care too much - they aren't invited to our wedding.

It's not the end of the world. Yes it's annoying, but I wouldn't bring it up or anything. Some things are better left alone